Comments on: Reader Question: Why don’t married couples wear their rings?

By: Sasha

Sasha — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:33:58 +0000

So what does it mean when a man doesn’t wear a ring and doesn’t “announce ” he’s married either?

By: Harriet

Harriet — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 07:07:47 +0000

My fingers outgrew my ring when I got pregnant, and they never went down to their original size. My husband really wants me to wear a temporary replacement, but I’m really holding out for the ring that I designed for myself (I designed one for him as well).

By: MOKM

MOKM — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 06:30:48 +0000

Hi all…my hub is ringless when he works. when customers ask him “where is it?” he says lets be honest..would you have even stopped if i had a ring on?when a black woman feels she’s supporting another black woman who is “lucky” enough to have a man, she is hesitant about even stopping muchless go in her purse. untill there’s a piece a bread in everyones mouth…we all wil be affected by the abuse of family abandonment.

By: TheDad

TheDad — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 19:11:40 +0000

Big J- we’re going to be talking about that real soon! It’s like marriage isn’t cool anymore. It’s getting crazy out here.

By: KJ

KJ — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 19:05:04 +0000

After having 2 kids and raising my nephew who is * is quite an accomplishment at 26. I work and go to school….People need to understand that the ring means nothing if there is no value or meaning behind the union.

By: KJ

KJ — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 18:46:05 +0000

I understand how people may feel…but where I live at it does not stop another man from trying to talk to me. They would tell me that it is a shame that I am married and am too young. It gets so frustrating to respond back. First, and foremost, my husband will tell people in a heartbeat that I am old-fashioned. My ring was not the best but it was what it symbolized was what counts. I have been through a few of them because after giving birth multiple times and losing weight my ring size changed. I was hurt at one point when a man told me that my ring was cheap an it could be bought at the nearest mall. I shouldn’t have been but I was. Yes the ring was $600 and so what. We were a bit poor and at the time it was all he could afford an I loved it….

By: Misbeehavin

Misbeehavin — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 16:36:00 +0000

Something just for symbolic reasons is a good idea, didn’t think about it that way.

By: Big J

Big J — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 21:39:26 +0000

Affirming masculinity, femininity and black relationships is a wonderful example of non-conformity to the status quo. Getting married and having children is now a revolutionary act.

By: TheDad

TheDad — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 21:22:41 +0000

Big J.. I’m feeling that. The ring does feel good on my finger, kinda like a NFL Superbowl piece, When I walk around I feel like a member of the ’72 Dolphins. ha ha ha. My wife is also pregnant and she tries to squeeze hers on every day depending on how swollen her fingers are. I didn’t think about the faux replacement, I like that but… don’t plan on having anymore kids so I may just have to share that one with my boys since I won’t be able to use it myself.

Misbeehavin… What about something simple, no frills, no thrills, just for symbolic reasons? I hear people say they’re not wearing their ring until they get a certain size ring etc… that’s crazy. How about something plain Jane in the meantime?

By: Big J

Big J — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 19:33:38 +0000

Personally, I don’t like to be seen without my wedding ring. For me, I just feel more stately when I’ve got my ring on. As a black man, I also feel like I’m setting a good example when I have it on.

My wife is pregnant and her fingers are swelling so much that she’s had to take her ring off. We both went downtown and got her a faux replacement because I don’t want her looking like somebody’s baby mama.