To my fellow brothers and sisters in the Christian faith and those who fear the name of the Living God and trust in His Holy Word. Never argue or debate with a fool because if you do, it will only make you a even a bigger fool than them. Also,, remember the parable that Jesus spoke about, the farmer who had planted good seeds into his ground and went to take a nap and the next morning the devil came and planted these weeds into the farmer’s field. The farmer servant said to the farmer the next morning, who planted these weeds into your field? Do you want me to go and pull these weeds out of the field? The famer relied no, let them grow up together and at the time of harvest, I will take up the wheat and burn those weeds. Jesus said at the end of time, He will separate the sheep and the goat, and the righteous and the unrighteous.

Never my brothers and sister argue with foolish people, just watch and wait on the judgments of God. The Word said that God hates the deeds of the wicked but the righteous and those who fear His name His guide their steps. Not everyone who say they are Christian or Christian but those who do the will of God said Jesus. Finally, the Lord said that God knows who belongs to Him so we don’t have to worry about what people do behind closed doors. Let them enjoy there fleshly pleasures and if they want to swing or have many partners. Let then alone! Remember, at the end of time when their lives are ruin and when calamity has overtaken them. Then they will seek the Lord but the Lord will disregard their plea for help because they chose not to fear the Lord and rejected His corrections and disciplines. Finally, they will say to themselves, that the Lord is not mocked nor will He allow mankind to discredit His Holy Name. Love your Christian Brother

I've always thought monogamy was right because I had the idea and principle droned into my brain when I was young. I got the house, the wife, the kids, the dog and now I realize the only reason I got all that is because I was told that's what I wanted. So now what? Masturbate until I die? Why do I need the headache of a family and a dog crap laden yard to whack my smack stick?

As far as the bible, I bet you already violated one of the older laws in Leviticus and should be put to death but you don't see me running at you with a knife. That's the same section that gets quoted about men lying with men and women lying with women. Also, if these kinds of things were really that important to Christ he would have brought it up when he was alive. He speaks of divorce but never answers specific questions. Probably because the intricacies we get caught up in are not what we should be focusing on.

Joy, peace, love. Theses are things that can be experienced in bed with one or many people.

If I were you, I wouldn’t consider looking for satisfaction outside your marriage, not just because of HIV/AIDS, but all the other diseases out there. What if you get herpes? 1 out of 4 women are infected and 1 out of 5 men are infected. Read these stats: http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/herpes_statistics.htm.

The thing about it, at least with AIDS you are aware of your inevitable death, and the way you will die, but with herpes you have it, can’t get rid of it, and may eventually pass it on to someone else like your husband if you two ever have sex again. I was really surprised at the stats. What it means is that a lot of the people reading this right now have herpes, not to mention the other VD’s. If your husband is not pleasing you, I would suggest masterbation. You’re more likely to do a better job pleasing yourself masterbating than taking a chance on some unknown scumbag. It’s safe, it don’t cost anything, and you’re done in like 15 – 20 minutes. You can get on with your day not thinking about sex again for a while, which means you can get some work done. You don’t have to plan an escape route from your lover after sex (escape routes are best planned beforehand), you don’t have to lie to your husband (he may get suspicious of you going out of town every weekend), and you won’t catch anything from your fingers or hand. The only virus/infections you might get from masterbating will be from downloading porno to your computer and you can always clean it by reinstalling your operating system (which should be done at least once a year anyway).

People will lie to you about not having herepes then the next thing you know there’s a nasty ugly little sore inside your cute little vagina screaming “I’m here, I’m here!” Or, you wake up in the morning, look at your face in the mirror, and there’s a nasty ugly little sore on your pretty little mouth screaming for all the world to see “Look at me, Look at me!” You pretend it’s not there, or call it a “cold sore”, but really, everyone is looking at it and trying not to get too close to you.

Are you frightened yet? You should be. Hope this helps.

I later learned he was still seeing the married woman who claimed their relationship was more like friends. Which of course was not true. I asked him why don’t you just be with her if you love her deeply. He said she and her husband had a long marriage and he didn’t want disrespect that. I asked him why this married woman knew nothing of me but I knew everything about her and he said that she would be very hurt. This was very insulting to me because he apparently didn’t think I had feelings. He held her feelings in high regard which later made sense.

After a year of torture I called her husband and asked if he would he want to know if his wife has been having an affair for 3 years and he arrogantly and coldly replied no. I asked again to make sure I was hearing correctly he said no. My jealousy dissolved and I actually felt sorry for this woman. Her husband didn’t seem care or have any interest in her affair. Her boyfriend who was supposedly in love with her continued to cheat on her with me. In her delusional world she had a rich husband and a boyfriend who loved her. Neither were loyal to her. In my delusional world I discovered I was jealous of someone who seemed to be living a sad shallow existence and in the end her husband and boyfriend really didn’t care of her feelings after all.
What I learned open marriages are really not that open after all. Someone is a secret and their emotions will be trampled on. Open marriages suit selfish people who are in the need to control others. My boyfriend was telling me he didn’t love me but couldn’t resist me and needed me but he didn’t want me to see others and he wanted to keep seeing the married woman because they had a deep love. She the married woman told my boyfriend she didn’t want him to see others yet he was supposed to accept her situation being married. Her husband could see who he wanted so her seeing another man suited him fine and her seeing someone else kept his guilt and selfishness intact. These arrogant people have shammed themselves into believing that they are being honest and sophisticated meanwhile others hearts are being trampled on as if they have no value. Don’t let someone pull you into their web of bullshit. Open marriage is plain and simple bullshit.

I was so shocked and very disappointed and your analogy about Marion really drove your point home. My husband and I are in entertainment and I am STUNNED with the number of high profile couples are swinging. And the most shocking part is that this is going on during a time of the AIDS epidemic. Don’t even offer up the ‘safe sex’ argument and condoms, hell that’s how my second daughter ended up here so how safe are condoms really?!

I honestly believe my husband and I are like dinosaurs in the year 3000. This is really out of the question for us. Maybe because the idea of sharing one another is utterly insane. If we wanted to be with other people, we would divorce and date. According to the rules, a person should never say never but I can say just that about at least two things. I would never be down with an open married and I would never smoke crack.

Shontell McClain
Wife and Mother of 4

A very touchy subjet indeed.