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Fighting for Love!
The following is a post from Guest Blogger and my man… Average Joe. His profile is single in his early thirties and he’s a professional in DC area.
I had a conversation with someone and the phrase came up, so I got to thinking…
What exactly does that mean? I mean what is it that one does, when he or she is “fighting for love”? Does one make a public declaration, show up unannounced bearing gifts, what? And where is the line drawn between fighting for love and being an annoyance or a stalker n sh@#. lol If you are reaching out to someone and they don’t reach back, but you keep on reaching, are you fighting for love? What’s the time limit on it, does it have an expiration date? If you take their lack of response to you for what it is and leave them be, are you giving up too soon?
I wonder
January 31st, 2008 at 5:23 pm
I agree …there is a fine line between Fighting for Love and plain old stalking. If you find yourself crouched down in someone’s backyard peeking through their window..or following them around.. Then you are stalking them!! Let it go.. move on.
Of course, you can not send mixed signals to people that are “fighting for your love.” You have to be clear that it is over. .
January 31st, 2008 at 10:06 pm
I believe Fighting for love would mean that a love already exists. As if to save a marriage. Maybe even a relationship of some time. If a partner has cheated they could fight for that love. Fight to repair the damage. If these are the terms of the fighting then you might cross the stalking line without it being stalking. Providing the relationship is worth fighting for, and it may not be absolutely, positively clear it is not over. Once it does become clear, the fighting would then become stalking.
January 31st, 2008 at 10:54 pm
By the way avg. joe phrased this question, I’d assume someone told him to step it up and fight for love, ha ha.
In my single days if I reached out and you didn’t reach back I was out. I never understood that game. Show me you love me by pursuing me even though I’m pretending like I don’t want to be bothered. If you acted like you didn’t want to be bothered I’d say leave ‘em alone until they get some act right going.
February 1st, 2008 at 9:53 am
I think your friend should just leave that situation alone. It really makes no sense putting in more than what you get.
February 1st, 2008 at 10:51 am
Most people think that a relationship is 50/50. That is not true, each person should give 100% of themselves. Average Joe put in 100% and is not getting it back. I say run. Also, Average Joe, think about what you just said, you have to FIGHT for LOVE. Fight and Love have totally different meanings. Again, I say run.
February 1st, 2008 at 5:04 pm
This was more of a general sort of thought that I’ve often wondered about moreso than about a specific situation. lol I have been told though that my effort level is sometimes poor, that I have icewater running through my veins, basically that I don’t fight for love, that I give up too easy.
I’ve never been one for the chase, I don’t believe that a man needs to chase a woman. If she wants him, he doesn’t have to chase, she’ll give herself to him. But maybe I’m wrong, maybe one does need to try a lil harder, not take the 1st, 2nd, or even 3rd no for an answer. People call that being persistent right? Being in love I think includes a level of insanity, so maybe you do have to step beyond what some would say is normal, or reasonable. It’s definitely thought provoking.
February 3rd, 2008 at 10:05 am
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March 2nd, 2008 at 8:40 pm
..,,Evening…,
I enjoyed reading your post as it is relevant to today and I thought I’d add another comment.
Its an interesting topic and should be discussed. Ill check back soon for any added comments, thanks.
It would be great to get this thread really active again!
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