In response to: What to do when no one agrees with your relationship
This came from a reader in Philly:
Two of my “friends” had been sooooo persistent about my husband, and how much they did not like him….before we got married.
One of the girls even went as far to drop out of my wedding 3 weeks before the date (what was even worse she told me through text message). I called her and she told me through conversation that she couldn’t afford to be in the wedding and that she was worried that her mom had cancer…(she ended up being fine)
The next girl just couldn’t admit all of the things she said and did before the wedding towards my husband….and even wrote him a note (i guess to apologize) that was included in our wedding gift.
Ironically…through out this time…my father was sick, and a day after the wedding my father was rushed to the hospital and there he was diagnosed with lung cancer. With in the span of two months he grew even more ill and passed away.
Who was there? I’ll tell you who was there…..my husband. He was with me everytime I went to the hospital…every night I cried to sleep he listened….the day my dad died…we sat at the hospital until the very end.
The day of the funeral…only one of the two girls showed up…(and even there I heard her say some sly stuff about my dad…as she was literally talking behind my back)….the same girl called me one day….while she was out…drinking….and told me that “It wasn’t that people didn’t like my husband, but it was that they didn’t like me”…..huh? Oddly enough…I stayed on the phone with her, because she was out alone…walking home from an office party. And when her phone cut off…I quickly called her husband…to make sure that they would call me to let me know that she made it home safely….
To make this long story short….I listened to my inner voice, and the actions of my “friends” vs. the actions of my husband and realized that my “friends’….were the ones I should be watching out for…they wanted to reflect their problems and insecurities on me and my family…for what ever reason. I had to let them go.
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