It’s 2008 – Time for Resolution!!
Resolution means the act of resolving upon an action or a course of action. In 2008, I think we should commit to do a better job of resolving conflicts/issues/disagreements with our spouses and loved ones. Allowing things to go unresolved and to build up is not healthy for our relationships.
The other day my husband and I got into a little argument. It was soooo little, I don’t even know if he knows it was an argument. Actually, now that I think about it…he could have been just playing and I just got all bent out of shape. But that was like two days ago. Since then, I have added all sorts of issues to the mix and all of this is playing out in my mind..just festering and bubbling up and waiting to explode. Can you imagine if I did actually go off?? He would be looking at me like I was crazy…like where did all of this come from….. surely this did not come from that comment that I made two days ago as we were walking out of the grocery store.
But in my mind, it did come from that comment. That comment triggered something in me and I just wanted to let him have it for the old and the new!! There was something else that was bothering me.. something that went unresolved from weeks before. I remember when we argued….we did not resolve anything. Instead, I told myself – the next time he needs help with something like this, I am not going to help.. I don’t care if it is next week or next year… I am not going to help. Now that is just spiteful…but I know I am not the only person that thinks like this.
This year, I plan to make sure that we do a better job of resolving disagreements. Sometimes when we are discussing issues ( which is a nice way of saying arguing,) I don’t feel like I really say what I want to say. Sometimes I get flustered or angry…and this usually means that I will soon be off of the point that I am trying to make. And I usually end up saying things that I don’t mean!! So I think what I will do is try to take some time to think about what is bothering me, jot down some things, and write him a letter or send him an email. (When I say email… I do not mean a NASTY Gram!!) The email will let him know exactly what I am thinking and he can either respond via email ( hopefully not a nasty gram) or we can use it as basis of discussion later that day. This does not just apply to wives/husbands or boyfriends/girlfriends….but also to friends, siblings..etc. Do you have a friend that does something or that says something to just get under your skin? Do you address this with them…or do you just ignore it and let it build up.. until you don’t want to be bothered with this person anymore?
Resolution – the act of resolving upon an action. My hope is that this year we all will put actions in place to ensure that we have healthy relationships. Please post a comment and let me know what works for your relationship… how do you resolve conflicts… OR .. what do you plan to do to make improvements in this area? I guess I better get started with that email before my husband reads this post 
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