Reader Question: Why did we get married?
This question came from one of our readers in the UK:
HER VIEW
Why did I get married? I got married for various reasons: we were in love, he is a good dependable man, he likes my kids…etc.. But I think the main reason I got married was because it felt right. There was nothing tugging at me on the inside …..questioning my decision. It was 100% yes, when he asked. Before I met my husband, I was in a long relationship for more than 10 years. Nothing felt right about it, I always had something way down inside telling me this is not right. But I did not listen, I thought I could change things…but of course that never happened. Regardless of what other people have to say about your partner, you should always listen to what your gut feeling is telling you. Also, I am glad that I was completely free of that relationship and all of the drama that came with it before I met my husband. When we met, the majority of the mess (drama) from breaking off that old relationship was over. Drama from an old relationship can really cause problems in a new relationship. But enough of that stuff…there are also some mushy reasons why I got married. From the beginning, my husband was a “sweetie pie” he is still my sweetie pie. He really took time to court me… flowers, candy, gifts… the works. We clicked from the beginning and we have pretty much the same values. By the second or third month, I was definitely IN LOVE!!! I would call my girlfriend that introduced us and say “he is such a sweetie pie” or ” I think I love him” and we would just giggle…like school girls. We dated for about 11 months before he asked me to marry him, In that 11 month time, we even broke up once or twice. But I am glad we did, because I even liked the way he handled that. I liked him, my family liked him ( which was important to me). So for me all things were in perfect alignment. When he asked me, I was totally not expecting it..but I did not hesitate to say yes. It just felt right!!!
HIS VIEW
She was the Alpha to my Omega, nah just kidding. I saw from our first date that we were on the same page. You know what they say about being evenly yoked. It makes it so much easier when you’re both on the same page as far as goals, faith, career, kids. A lot of times it doesn’t happen like that but this time it did so that immediately peaked my interest. As we talked more and more I realized she was who I wanted to be with. I took extra steps that I normally wouldn’t have taken, did things I normally wouldn’t have done and said things I normally wouldn’t have said. At the time I lived right outside of the southern tip of DC in Maryland. I wouldn’t date women that lived in the northern part of my county or the northern parts of DC (DC is only 12 miles wide) but here I was driving 2.5 hours on the regular in a long distance relationship. This clearly wasn’t my normal gig but when you find the one you’re willing to do things you normally wouldn’t do. That goes back to what I always say when you find the one it doesn’t take a few years for you to be convinced it’s her.
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