Are you a Helicopter Parent?
Per this article in CNN, parents that get “too” involved in their kids college affairs are being called “helicopter parents.” They got this label because they are seen as hovering: “They’re always around their kids’ life, kind of on the fringe, always making sure things go the way they need to go and not really allowing the kids to figure out solutions to problems on their own.” Helicopter parents are constantly calling the admissions office to see how their kid’s applications stand up against other’s. Or, they are constantly calling the dean’s office regarding concerns for their child. The psychologist in this article says that these parents are actually causing more harm than good and the kids will not know how to solve problems when they get older.
HER VIEW
I think college is a huge investment…… too huge to let a child figure it out on their own. I am going to be involved in the application process and I hope that my child will communicate with me at least once a week while in school. However, as a parent, you know what level of involvement your child needs from you . I think that during high school that your child will show you if they are going to be good college students or not. If you are constantly having to bail this child out in High School.. with their grades…teachers..deadlines..etc. chances are, this is the type of behavior that is going to spill over into college. The child definitely has to want it for himself/herself. If you have to force them to fill out applications and to get involved in the admissions process..then you and your money are headed for trouble.
HIS VIEW
My view on this one is short and simple. I intend to make this vow to our children. ” I promise to do all that I can to ensure that you don’t return home after you leave for college. You’ve been here for 17 years now beat it!”
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