Comments on: Black, British, and Probably Crazy http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/ The Blog About Being Black and Married With Kids! Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:45:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: ifka http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-6984 ifka Sat, 06 Dec 2008 07:06:02 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-6984 hey i dont mind dating black men, as long as they're respectable and good guys. But the whiteboys aren't that bad either(wink) and yes some of them do have it going on. hey i dont mind dating black men, as long as they’re respectable and good guys. But the whiteboys aren’t that bad either(wink) and yes some of them do have it going on.

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]]> By: NML http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-1509 NML Mon, 21 Apr 2008 21:47:11 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-1509 anythingblack - Hilarious! And so true! I am cracking up laughing here in the bed and my boyfriend is looking at me like I am crazy! LovelyK - I put myself at ease by sorting out myself first. I figured the rest would follow and it did. I attracted the worst chumps when I was being the best I could be and selling myself short. I also focused on making my own life and enjoying it instead of treating being single like that horrible time between finding someone to date. Anna - Amen on the kids! You need to know exactly what you're getting into. I love kids and if I had met a guy with kids and he was drama free, I *might* have considered it. Sweet Natty - Funny story and one I have heard in various guises from many different women. I found that when I moved in different circles there was a better calibre of guy - it is very difficult to meet single, black, professional guy, with no baggage. It's easy to meet an attached, black, professional guy with lots of baggage and a big ego. It's even easier to meet a single, black, not so professional guy with attitude problem, a few stray kids, and a few women dotted all over town. It feels very targeted when you're in the UK, but my black US friends complain of the very same thing. anythingblack - Hilarious! And so true! I am cracking up laughing here in the bed and my boyfriend is looking at me like I am crazy!
LovelyK - I put myself at ease by sorting out myself first. I figured the rest would follow and it did. I attracted the worst chumps when I was being the best I could be and selling myself short. I also focused on making my own life and enjoying it instead of treating being single like that horrible time between finding someone to date.
Anna - Amen on the kids! You need to know exactly what you’re getting into. I love kids and if I had met a guy with kids and he was drama free, I *might* have considered it.
Sweet Natty - Funny story and one I have heard in various guises from many different women. I found that when I moved in different circles there was a better calibre of guy - it is very difficult to meet single, black, professional guy, with no baggage. It’s easy to meet an attached, black, professional guy with lots of baggage and a big ego. It’s even easier to meet a single, black, not so professional guy with attitude problem, a few stray kids, and a few women dotted all over town. It feels very targeted when you’re in the UK, but my black US friends complain of the very same thing.

]]> By: SweetNatty http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-1486 SweetNatty Fri, 18 Apr 2008 13:48:18 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-1486 I am a black Londoner and I feel your pain to the core. Its no wonder that I've ended with a black American!!! I have a funny andecdote about my Jamaican cousin who could understand why me and my two friends were single for years. Everytime she called from JA she would ask how we were doing, if we had men in our lives and why we hadn't managed to find anyone. Well a couple of years later she moves to London, a medical professional excited by the prospect of meeting a man from these shores. I think she had one terrible date in four years and is now dating a black American. I know men are useless all over the world but there is a special standard of uselessness amongst the black men in this country. The pool of black British men is very shallow. Their expectations are WAY too high for what they are willing to offer, its no wonder that most of my friends are either married or dating foreign nationals (Africans, Caribbeans or Americans). I am a black Londoner and I feel your pain to the core. Its no wonder that I’ve ended with a black American!!!

I have a funny andecdote about my Jamaican cousin who could understand why me and my two friends were single for years. Everytime she called from JA she would ask how we were doing, if we had men in our lives and why we hadn’t managed to find anyone.

Well a couple of years later she moves to London, a medical professional excited by the prospect of meeting a man from these shores. I think she had one terrible date in four years and is now dating a black American.

I know men are useless all over the world but there is a special standard of uselessness amongst the black men in this country. The pool of black British men is very shallow. Their expectations are WAY too high for what they are willing to offer, its no wonder that most of my friends are either married or dating foreign nationals (Africans, Caribbeans or Americans).

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-1482 Anna Fri, 18 Apr 2008 03:30:45 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-1482 NML, what a funny post. To Lovelyk. The biggest misconception about being married is that ...Actually you stumped me. After 15 minutes of thinking I know that the biggest misconception of marriage is when others don't beleive that you can make it work. I do belive that marriage is not for everyone nor is having children. Neither marriage or having kids works if you are not committed. I really did try to think of a bad part of marriage and when you weigh the good and the bad sometimes it does equal out. Lovelky, I can say that sometimes things just happen and you have to run with it. The other question about what puts your mind at ease on a future mate? Do you have kids if so how many, Are you married, do you and your kids mom associate, do you pay support, alimory or living at your parents home. I don't get mad at any of my above questions. I only feel that it is a "right to know" Usually if you already know the man you may know half of the answers. NML, what a funny post.
To Lovelyk. The biggest misconception about being married is that …Actually you stumped me.

After 15 minutes of thinking I know that the biggest misconception of marriage is when others don’t beleive that you can make it work. I do belive that marriage is not for everyone nor is having children. Neither marriage or having kids works if you are not committed.
I really did try to think of a bad part of marriage and when you weigh the good and the bad sometimes it does equal out.

Lovelky, I can say that sometimes things just happen and you have to run with it.

The other question about what puts your mind at ease on a future mate? Do you have kids if so how many, Are you married, do you and your kids mom associate, do you pay support, alimory or living at your parents home.

I don’t get mad at any of my above questions. I only feel that it is a “right to know” Usually if you already know the man you may know half of the answers.

]]> By: Lovelyk http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-1470 Lovelyk Wed, 16 Apr 2008 18:16:48 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-1470 i'm new to the blog world and i'm lovin it. i enjoyed knowing that i'm not the only one who's had their share of dating losers. for the single folk and married who visit the site, i have 2 questions. for those who anticipate getting married, starting a family, or completing their current family what is the biggest misconception about marriage? and for the single and loving it crew what puts your mind at ease when thinking about your "future mate" and when they will arrive? Sometimes i feel like i'll be waiting forever i’m new to the blog world and i’m lovin it. i enjoyed knowing that i’m not the only one who’s had their share of dating losers. for the single folk and married who visit the site, i have 2 questions. for those who anticipate getting married, starting a family, or completing their current family what is the biggest misconception about marriage? and for the single and loving it crew what puts your mind at ease when thinking about your “future mate” and when they will arrive? Sometimes i feel like i’ll be waiting forever

]]> By: anythingblack http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-1458 anythingblack Tue, 15 Apr 2008 11:34:28 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-1458 Germans love Black people, I was a Black trophy for a while Germans love Black people, I was a Black trophy for a while

]]> By: NML http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-1457 NML Tue, 15 Apr 2008 06:59:40 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-1457 The Dad - It was a pleasure! I really enjoyed writing about these experiences. It's been a while since I relived them ;-) Kim - Amen! I don't miss dating at all - I no longer have to live with constant disappointment ;-) rawdogbuffalo - And the funny thing is, most women wouldn't touch these men with a 50ft barge pole! The Dad - It was a pleasure! I really enjoyed writing about these experiences. It’s been a while since I relived them ;-)
Kim - Amen! I don’t miss dating at all - I no longer have to live with constant disappointment ;-)
rawdogbuffalo - And the funny thing is, most women wouldn’t touch these men with a 50ft barge pole!

]]> By: TheDad http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-1455 TheDad Mon, 14 Apr 2008 20:47:51 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-1455 NML thanks again. I really enjoyed your post and it's very interesting to me that it seems like the same thing is going on over there. NML thanks again. I really enjoyed your post and it’s very interesting to me that it seems like the same thing is going on over there.

]]> By: rawdawgbuffalo http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-1454 rawdawgbuffalo Mon, 14 Apr 2008 15:14:28 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/04/13/black-british-and-probably-crazy/#comment-1454 LOL now this is funny "All of the black women who say that they can’t find a black guy are welcome to them! " LOL now this is funny “All of the black women who say that they can’t find a black guy are welcome to them!
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