TheStateOf . . . Marriage

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   Anna Wednesday - 09 / 04 / 2008 Reply

   The State Of Marriage. First of all marriage is what two people are willing to bring to it. Some have kids, some have debt some have other issues. Marriage is what two people decide to make of it even with love and respect marriage can be difficult. The age of a person does not matter as long as the respect and maturity level is there. Of course a 70 year old man with a 20 year old woman is not what I am talking about. And hell what do they talk about? Where is my hearing aid and where did I leave my teeth. I do want to grow old with my husband. So I can say you have my teeth in your mouth and I have your hearing aid in my ear. lol. Marriage is two people who are not to far in generations that make each other shine at different times. By the word shine I mean lets the other go for the gold and go for that job they know that means something to their spouse. Marriage is understanding and being there. Marriage is a word that means we are also one. Marriage means that I should not have to give up my dream for you but support you and you have to aslo support me when it becomes my time to shine. If we shine together that is the topping on the cake. Have we shined togeher?. In different ways yes we have. BTW, me and hubby both have real hearing and real teeth. we are in our 40's. well he is 45 and I am 40. funny that the kids think because we were born in the 60's we are considered old.
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   annon Wednesday - 09 / 04 / 2008 Reply

   I agree. Yes it is realistic to form those bonds. As for age.... I don't think that it is about age, rather your state of mind. My mom was married with three kids at 21 yrs. There is no way I was ready at 21 yrs. old. So, when I thought that my mind was in the right place, at age 29 I married. My parents were and still are role models to me of what marriage is all about. They are still married and sleep in the same bed. They have four children and and a load of grandchildren. They are still very much together and in love. My sister is ready now to get married at age 36 yrs. My other sister is 23 and I think that she could have gotten married at 18 yrs and would still be married today. I don't think there is a right age for everyone, but in this day and age, I would agree that later is better for the majority. There is always an exception to every rule.
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   rawdawgbuffalo Wednesday - 09 / 04 / 2008 Reply

   i agree. but i think the older u get, the baggage becomes immaterial
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   tigirl Wednesday - 09 / 04 / 2008 Reply

   I definitely believe that it has to do with your maturity level and state of mind. I am 19 years and I would want to get married when I know that me and my mate is ready to take it to that next step.
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   www.anythingblack.net Wednesday - 09 / 04 / 2008 Reply

   I WANNA GET married within the nexxt 5 years!
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   Shona Sunday - 13 / 04 / 2008 Reply

   Overall I think it's different for different people. Many of my friends and a lot of my family are shocked that I'm not married and that I don't have kids (I'm 28). It's not that I do not feel ready...but life sort of got in the way. I was in college...then I moved....then I moved again. Now I'm back in school. This activity never really gave me the chance to meet the right kind of guy and develop a healthy relationship that would preclude marriage. I definitely do not want to find myself in a situation where I say "I do" and then I discover the "real Mr. So-and-So". But I do see what the article is saying...in that I am truly not used to sharing my life with others. I've grown to be a pretty private person. Funny, I do want children and a husband and all that. I just have a very hard time envisioning the whole thing.