Here are the last 5 steps to the piece I posted yesterday from msn:
6) Make time for just the two of you.
Take her on a date once a month. Surprise her by arranging child care, ordering a pizza for the kids, and getting a sitter. She will be so thrilled at your ability to take care of the details that reservations at the best restaurant in town aren’t even necessary. The fact that you love her enough to do this would make a Big Mac taste like cracked crab.
We try to do this as much as possible. With the rack of kids getting a babysitter becomes a little tougher especially with a real genuine baby in tow but we try to make it happen.
7) Groom yourself.
Don’t embarrass her when you venture out of the house. Check the ears, nose, neck and yes, feet for hair or other growths that shouldn’t be there. She not only wants you to impress her friends by how you act, but also by how you look.
Get away from the family.
Yep, you’re getting a free pass. This takes a left turn from the others, but it’s essential. Get away from all your responsibilities and go camping or on a golf outing with the guys. You’ll laugh, relax, and recharge your batteries. And all three will make you a much better husband when you return.
I’m down for this one LOL
9) Deal with your side of the family.
Help your wife set expectations with your side of the family when it comes to making plans. Don’t make her inform your parents that they won’t be seeing their grandkids on Christmas this year—pick up the phone and do it yourself. Dealing with extended family can be a huge stress throughout the year, and you don’t want the burden to fall entirely on her.
10) Don’t lose your dating manners.
Remember, she’s your wife, not one of your buddies. Don’t burp during dinner, or squeeze one out during the movie as she’s reaching for the popcorn. You wouldn’t have done that while you were dating, and you shouldn’t do it now. Continue to try and impress her. Do everything you can to keep the fire alive, and fight the urge to let the passion die. Find the new, hot place to eat or take her to see a cool band that’s in town. Have fun, laugh, and make sure you tell her how great she looks.
I think everyone slips a little bit during time but I’d think we both make an effort towards this.
BMWK family, you’ve seen the entire list. Now what do you think, good stuff or Pure D Garbage. Just something to fill the page or words to live by? Do you have a better list or something that didn’t make it?
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The dating manners are cool. I think thats real love when you can do some of those things and it’s cool.
But i get the message.
this is real good stuff.
I don’t have children, but the time alone is important in any relationship.
Haven’ t seen #9 before… but good stuff.
i need to get a wife and try this out
TheDad…where is your comment on #9??? Just kidding ..you are already doing this one too.
I like steps 5 to 10..even number 8…it’s nice to see TheDad get some time to hang with his friends.
I like this list. And I love #9. I got tired of breaking the news to HIS family which made me the bad guy until he started speaking up himself. For example we decided that we are not buy everyone Christmas gifts -only the kids. There was just too many of them. Now we’re both funny acting. (lol) But that’s okay I still love on them anyway.
I think most woman just want to know that you love them, will be there for them and they want to see it in what you do not what you say.