10 Steps To Being a Better Wife PT I

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by Lamar Tyler | on May 13th, 2008 | 5 comments

Alright fellas, you knew I had your back right? And ladies when we did the 10 steps to being a better husband I heard all of those Amens coming from the choir. Now it’s (singing MJ) time for you to start with the man.. woops woman in the mirror. Here is 1-5 from MSN.com, my mouth is watering already:

1) Take care of yourself
Turns out that the best thing you can do for your husband is also good for you. Eat healthy foods, maintain good grooming, and exercise regularly. You’ll look and feel better, and you’ll continue to be the vibrant and attractive woman he fell in love with, no matter your age.

2) Say thank you, often
When researchers ask men what they want from their wives, appreciation always makes the list. Everyone likes to be appreciated, so remember to notice the things your husband does—for you, for the kids, for the house—and thank him. You’ll put a smile on his face and a little joy in his heart.

3) Keep the romance alive
When was the last time you planned a romantic interlude with your husband? If you can’t remember, you’re way overdue. Be affectionate, write love notes, give him a backrub, plan a date, and initiate sexual play. Remind him that you still find him attractive.

4) Let him have “guy time”
Everyone needs time for themselves—to relax, enjoy a hobby, or socialize with friends. If your husband loves football and you don’t, don’t bug him about it. Encourage him to cultivate friendships with other men. He’ll enjoy the companionship. Studies show that people with friends tend to live longer, healthier lives.

5) Make your husband a priority
With the everyday stresses of work, home, and kids, it’s easy to take your husband for granted. Make time for the two of you to reconnect on a regular basis. Take an interest in his work and hobbies. Let him know he’s important to you

BMWK family you know the drill. Is it true? Is this good stuff? Sure looks good to me. Drop us a line and let us know what you think about it.

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Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://www.whenawomansfedup.co.uk NML

I am reminded of what a minister said at my friends wedding:

“Treat a man like a king he’ll behave like a king. Treat a man like a fool and he’ll behave like a fool”

Now I actually don’t neccessarily agree with his statement because their are men out there that will do whatever they want regardless but I do believe that if you want a positive relationship, you behave as such with positive input.

That said, you are right to say that husbands like to feel appreciated…but…they like being appreciated for every little thing. OMG! It’s like “Remember when I did X?” or jumping on some little thing like “I take out the trash don’t I” like they want a gold medal! Women tend to like bigger gestures and don’t expect a running appreciation commentary. But that’s just my take
http://www.mylifemylovemyfinance.blogspot.com Ms. HM

This looks like good stuff you have posted today, The Dad. I’m reminded that I need to “thank” my husband more often and let him have his guy time—especially now that it is basketball play off time and I have no interest in it until it comes down to the last two teams. Thanks for posting this.
Misbeehavin

Great post guys. I use to have trouble with #2 also. I used to think that I didn’t have to Thank him for something that he is supposed to do, but I found out that was wrong. Saying Thank You goes a long way.
http://www.blackandmarriedwithkids.com TheDad

Seems like #2 is the most popular from the first part of the list. I’d have to agree we like to hear it, a little thanks and keep up the good work never hurt nobody. Ladies go home tonight and give it a try. See where it gets you. LOL
Anna

Great post. If we woman remember how wired differently the sexes are we will understand that our man/hubby does need to be patted on the back for even cutting the grass. we woman know what it is like to be the unsung heros so to speak. To say thank you or the grass looks nice is just simple things in a realtionship that lets the other know it was appreciated.
Even if hubby comes home late and has to fix his own plate he says thanks that was good. Not all men want to go out with the boys to watch a game all the time. I learned if you can’t beat him join him. We watch some games together and even if he is not here and out with the boys I still watch the game so when he gets home we can chat about the fouls, bad calls and what player played a good game. He does give me “our” time. He will watch “Lifetime” movies with me. lol. Of course as long as a game is not on.

Sorry my comments are always so long but after almost 11 years of marriage he makes me feel like a new bride. What is the saying “money can’t buy happiness”.
PS. Treat a man like a King and he will treat you like the Queen you are.

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