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“The State Of” Discusses: How Heterosexuality Works
I picked this up on one of my daily reads… The State Of Blog
For men, committing to a relationship with a woman is probably the scariest thing on earth. With endless sexual options out there, an educated, half-good-looking brother has literally millions of women who will get with him. For men, one of the primary impediments to solid relationships is “your boys.” “Your boys” can talk you out of a lot of things - money, homes, and, most importantly, a good woman and your kids. Then, a few months later, the same guys that told you not to commit will “get ghost” because they found a girlfriend. Independence of thought and action are innate to strong males. A strong male lion doesn’t share his females with other males. Similarly, if a strong man is interested in a good woman, he should take care to think clearly and be able to discern the difference between sound advice, haterism and fear. The only way to know if you are thinking clearly is to monitor your own throughts through meditation.
BMWK what say ye? Is this solid advice for young…. and old brothers to listen to?
July 3rd, 2008 at 8:08 pm
The problem with marriage is we forget that(for those who had a big wedding with many ppl attending) those people who attended your wedding have no say in your marriage. There should only be two ppl in a marriage. “Your Boys” think that things will change with the relationship you have with them, they may also be single and can’t go cruising in the clubs for willing woman because you are married(and you are the cute one)lol. There are haters out there who are miserable in thier own life and do not want to see anyone happy. A real man will not pass up a good woman who knows him and knows what her career goals are. (we woman have to tell them what we want). (kids, no kids, stay at home wife w/or without kids.
I will add that a man gets afraid of marriage because he feels that he has to give something up in order to be a husband to his wife. Not true! You might luck out and get to keep ‘your boys” with their BS advice but also gain a soul mate in your wife. (Of course your wife will laugh at your boys but they are still your boys and are always allowed over for the holidays and cook outs).
July 5th, 2008 at 8:27 pm
Obviously I know men and women are different, but is the allure of “new sex” so strong that it would lead some men to never commit, to eschew companionship and love and all that comes with it? Wow.
Side note: At my wedding the officiant had everyone stand and repeat a vow that they would not meddle in our marriage.
July 5th, 2008 at 8:32 pm
@ SingLikeSassy - Side note: At my wedding the officiant had everyone stand and repeat a vow that they would not meddle in our marriage.– NICE
July 7th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
but sometimes your boy is the one to let you know what’s going on. my man does not like his boy’s wife, but when his boy started stepping out on his wife, my man said “i may not LIKE your wife, but i RESPECT her as your wife so until you stop messing around we can’t hang”.