Today we’ve got a guest post by friend of the blog – Averagebro from www.averagebro.com. Make sure you check out his blog, we take it in on a daily basis. I’m telling you, you don’t want to miss it.
Before ya’ll jump down my throat for this one, peep the post title again.
I don’t wanna burn too much on this, since it’s been talked about ad nauseum on enough other blogs already, but Hollyweird lightweight Lauren London (ATL, This Christmas, and uhhh… what else has she been in?!?) recently sparked a minor controversy with some of her comments in the lad-mag King Magazine. When asked the type of guys she prefers, she responded with these words of sage wisdom and whatnot.
KING: So you want a man who’s both honest and thug?
London: An authentic gangsta—that deletes about half the rap game off your list. I love guys who are street. I won’t even give soft guys a chance. Menace II Society is my shit! Caine was like my first crush. Actually, O-Dog was my true dream guy. I was in love with him, from that opening scene where he pops the convenience-store worker. He had me from that gunshot [laughs]. He was ’hood, and I loved that.
Never mind the fact that Caine ended up dead on a sidewalk at the end of the movie, London (who always seems a few footlongs shy of a Quiznos) presents a sentiment that I’ve heard from lots of other brothers over the years.
My life as a single guy is distant history, so I’m pleading the fizzith on this one. But general reaction in the blogosphere from men has been that London’s right, Black Women do like thugs and pass over more “positive” brothers, while many Black Women think Lauren’s a bubblehead.
Since I’m an get-wit’ and this is a lazy Sunday, I figure I’ll leave this one up to you guys to debate.
Question: Does Lauren London have a point? Do Black women generally prefer thugs over more “upstanding” brothers or is she just speaking for herself? Fellas, assuming you’re not a thug (and I doubt you are if you’re a reader of this blog) do you find Black Women go for the flashy and gritty a bit too much?
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@harriet
you know what time it is with me already.
so i dont think i need to explain.
p.s i read the abortion thing and left a comment tell me what ya think…
luv ya
peace
@ patra, i think we spoke on different sides of the same coin. i wouldn’t necessarily call it coddling, though. i gave the truth just like you did…just a little more nicely. LOL
@ carl, i didn’t see your comment on that article.
and your statement about blacks being direct descendants of God is true…but that’s true of every human on earth. God doesn’t do the whole segregation/prejudice/racist thing. He loves all of us.
and truth be told, He wanted everyone to be white…that’s why He said He would wash us white as snow! ROFL (not talking about the skin tone, brother…don’t get all political on me).
@harriet.
then my comment must have not went through…
oh wait a minute it wasnt that one…it was the one a bout open marriage i commented my bad, you will here a comment soon.
and yeah…but ALL races and colors come from US..They are decendents from the DIRECT decendents ( which is us).
i like you..you mad cool my sista.
@ carl
it’s all good, man.
hey, look, i wanted to comment on your questions,
“but what IS a stand up brotha?
what IS romance?
each woman has their OWN perception of what is and whats not.”
i think that’s an outstanding point, which is why it’s important to measure yourself up to an absolute standard that cannot be corrupted by man’s (or woman’s) opinion.
check the first comment i made in this forum. who are you measuring yourself against? if you’re measuring yourself based on the last woman’s definition of romance and a stand up brother, then what happens when the next woman’s definition is totally different?
you’d be schizophrenic if you tried to fit all the requirements!
get yourself an absolute standard of manhood (the only one i can think of is Jesus) and then follow it. perfection in your sense is not doing everything right, either. perfection is being complete…nothing missing, nothing broken, no unresolved baggage, and having the ability to be confident in the man God created you to be.
do you know who that man is? beyond your name and how you were raised, who is the man that goes deeper than that?
as far as romance is concerned, the Bible is also a great place to start. think about the sacrificial love Jesus poured on us. go read Song of Solomon…it’s X-rated, for REAL! if you want romance, check that out!
everything we need in life is located in God, our Creator. but you know what’s ironic about that? God turned around and injected Himself into the hearts of men (that’s why the Bible says that eternity has been planted in the hearts of man), so that after giving our lives to Him, we would have confidence in knowing that He placed within US everything we need to become just like Him!
that’s why the bullets that killed your boys long ago, but didn’t seem to ever hit you missed you. you CANNOT DIE until you fulfill the purpose God had for your life in this earth. you can decide that you don’t want to live this thing out with honor and integrity, and then you let the chips fall where they may.
but God’s Word is literal…we can do ALL THINGS through Christ Who strengthened us! that’s why i asked you those questions about who you wanted and why. you can have whatever you want IF you put your feet on the path God has for you!
now that path…you’re going to have to seek God personally to find out which one is for you. your burning bush experience will be totally different than mine. but i know without a shadow of a doubt that if you’re still alive, then He still has a plan for your life.
@ harriet.
We also get closer to God through fasting,
fasting and praying is the way to get closer as well
I know when i fast i get a clearer perception of whats going on around me and i get the answers im looking for…
no doubt @ carl
it’s a lifestyle…like breathing. there are times when you just have to shut all the “normal” things out so you can hear from God more clearly. fasting for my family and i is just like inhale, exhale. only it causes our spiritual walk to take a DEEP breath! LOL
there’s a purpose behind every problem (whether you caused it or not). it’s just a matter of your focus being placed in the right direction.
You know, i cannot believe i actually read this whole blog, i guess i got a lot of time on my hands, but what i would like to say that how can you blame men or young boys for this problem when society has made black women so independent that they can do anything with out the need of a black man in the house. I am talking about the government programs that offers federal housing for these women who have kids. These same women go out and invite these losers into the house, get them pregnant again and have them selling drugs out of the apartment, are you to say that black men are supporting this or is it black women? I think the main problem is there being too much government assistance to these women for just the wrong reasons.
They make it a requirement that when these women get these federal homes the man is not suppose to be there, so these women with sons and daughters grow up in a home with out seeing responsible men around, yet alone seeing mom bringing all types of different men when things do not work out. These things have serious effects on children. Then we have the hype of miss independent, gosh each and every time i hear that word coming from a black woman’s mouth about being strong and all this other crap is just straight up annoying, your this independent, but show me your man, more than likely its a loser, show me your baby daddy, chances are they look like pirates and my hard earn tax dollars is what is supporting this foolishness? You got to be kidding me, i guarantee you, you take away all these so call government programs from these women, i bet they would straiten the hell up to find a man with a stable income, i feel that should be the requirement when these women are on government assistance with peoples tax dollars for a period of time.
Also we all can thank B.E.T and the hip hop videos that glorify false images of real black men, i think the positive image of the masculine black man has been destroyed and replaced with mama boys. So its obvious than young boys who grow up in single homes ran by women are more than likely to take on female emotionalism, disrespect for women god for bid his mother never treated him right when he was younger and we have young girls growing up in a home not seeing any kind of love between her mother and a responsible man, most of which young girls get the idea on how they must act and be around a man is off television. It is a vicious cycle and we all can thank the women’s movement for exactly that.
Slavery of course is the main perpetrator to the reversal of roles between man and woman in the black community. The effects of this is self evident today. I just do not think many black women understand the black mans worth and when brothers are constantly hearing sisters go up on these t.v shows and radio shows complaining about there is not enough good black men and stereotype black men as such, it becomes counter productive. When brothers hear the complete opposite of what black women are saying about black men from other elasticities of women, whether they are white, Russian or German the attitude and views change in terms of IR, many black women feel brothers deal with white women or other women because of this notion that brothers are doing it to get back at white men which i think is completely false. I think the main reason why brothers are not dealing with much sisters because of the fact they are just simply tired of hearing nothing but negative comments being made by black women generalizing all black men as bad and that would indeed piss a lot of brothers off when they then see these same sisters dealing with thugs. I mean like WTF? In other websites you hear and see other women other than black say so many positive things about black men and i just think its a darn shame that it have other women who sees the worth of black men and understanding the struggle black men face each and every day in this not so perfect post racial society. Black women are the only women who will criticize black men to death on all the negatives and they are the only race of women that does that to their own men, brothers are just fed up and you cannot blame them.
LOVEALL said:
@Anonymous
Your comments are so truthful!!!. Now you know some of these STRONG BLACK WOMEN are trying to find some distorted reason to say you are wrong(who cares what they think). These are the same women who are constantly telling their kids how no-good their father is, which creates a hate in these kids towards their father and other BLACK MEN. Mom will speak highly of the THUG that their mom brings into the house to be the father figure(contagious). The next thing you know is the THUG is beating the kids and abusing mom. Now keep in mind when all this crap and beating go down, the good man(ex-husband)is being blamed by mom for running away from and leaving the family in this situation. Lets back up, hopefully all the kids were born in wedlock, because some of these STRONG BLACK EDUCATED WOMEN(book sense only) will give it up for the thug in less than 5 minutes. One thing you will notice that these women will skin and grin in the THUG FACE,
THESE WOMEN ALSO WILL SKIN and GRIN IN ANY OTHER RACE FACE, EVEN THE ONES WITH THE SO-CALLED ‘GOOD HAIR’. Now some of these will tell the
good BLACK MALE PROVIDER that will take them to the system and boast that the system will side with the BLACK WOMAN. Tell these women the so called perfect life that they see on TV soap operas or in magazine are fiction and you wont come close until you cleanse the hate out of yourselves(I WONDER IF SOME OF YOU’ALL HAVE A HEART) So, the next time try to speak to this black hateful women or the kids she has corrupted and count how many times these knuckleheads look at you crazy or roll their eyes. Then watch how these same knuckleheads speak and bow down to THUGS and OTHER RACES. AFTER ALL THIS, I WANT TO TAKE THIS TIME TO THANK ALL THE BLACK MEN and WOMEN, and ALL OTHER RACES WHO SPEAK, SOCIALIZE IN A POSITIVE, SOCIAL, SPIRITUAL MANNER !!!. I advise any man BLACK or WHOMEVER, to socialize with any
one you get along with or who loves you regardless of skin color. BLACK WOMEN, BLACK MEN STOP HATING EACH OTHER FOR BEING BLACK BECAUSE YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT RACISM, BUT IT IS WITHIN YOUR RACE(BLACK RACISM). THERE ARE GOOD and BAD PEOPLE IN ANY RACE !!!. BLACK MEN ARE TIRED OF
THIS CRAP being DIVIDED AND CONQUERED !!!. We blame the young people for the way they act, but how can anyone blame young people when some elders teach this art and are hateful and dont respect younger people. THINK PEOPLE !!!.
@ANONYMOS
yo who are you?
can I shake your hand?
everything you just said is RIGHT ON MUTHAPHUKIN POINT!
This guy is a genius.
not enough black women embrace their brothers through the good times and bad….they only like the good times but when the bad times come they talk down to us and walk out our lives and go from man to man…
women from other races will at least stick with a black man for better or worse because they know his TRUE worth….
But I dont want no other race of women…I want a Black woman
its a damn shame when a brother is on TOP and successfull then yall come runnin…but when hes at his down point yall dont stick by him or love like you would when hes top…PHONY.
damn shame but that IS true about black women.
Wow, I’ve read some of the comments to this post, and all I can say is WOW, and of course give my 2 cent..
I’ve dated both, my son’s father was a thug, but we really wasn’t a couple we just messed around doing the grown up at a young age, and i got pregnant at 16. And when he turned out to be a deadbeat dad, that turned me off to thugs. As I got older I realized that I really like nerd boys, and really nice men, (I hate to be told NO, lol”) so I’ve been with my husband since I was 20, and he was 18, and at that time, back in 93 when thugs were everywhere. All my friends dated thugs, and they talked about how much of a square my now husband was. Now 16 yrs later, we are still together, and none of my friends from back home (yeah we moved away) are married and, most of them have 2 or 3 (4,5, ect.) kids by just as many no good thugs. Oh and the time between my thug baby daddy, and my wonderful husband was about 3 to 4 yrs, and in that time, I only talked to men who had something going for them. I had 2 jobs and my own place and my own car, why would I want a man who couldn’t bring just as much positive energy as i was giving off. So to answer the question, not all sista’s want a thug, but the ones that do, let them do them, and us good sista’s will do our thang too…
LOVEALL said:
Speaking for myself as well as some of the other BLACK MEN and BLACK LADIES, we all agree that NOT all women prefer or worship THUGS. We MEN have nothing but LOVE and RESPECT for the FEMALES and MALES who appreciate and support BLACK MEN and BLACK WOMEN and understand what each one us struggle with daily, whether it is racism, suppression, job discrimination(etc). So, please people try not to add more pressure to each others lives. There are so many positive things in ’some’ relationships that we are guilty of not appreciating the good things we have in common that go unnoticed between us because we only notice and focus on the negative or what we think is not going smoothly. I must add, SOME BLACK PEOPLE need to stop thinking we are more than each other, but as you notice these uppity rascals are submissive to other races. I notice how other races observe us just to see if we will speak or communicate to each other in a business or public arena. We have witnessed within the last couple of weeks how we fight at the HIGH SCHOOL BASKETBALL GAMES or COLLEGE TRACK MEETS!!!. I guess these people say they were handling their business. We can not afford to act/behave like this. How do we reverse this behavior that is being passed down to the YOUNG PEOPLE. THANKS AGAIN TO THE GOOD SISTAS and BROTHERS who support each other, but keep in mind as AMERICANS/HUMANITARIANS we must love and support all people regardless of race and be careful not to get bitten by a snake of any race!!!. Please do not put yourself in harms way. WE MUST DISCUSS THESE ISSUES WHETHER WE ARE GUILTY OR NOT ! PEEEAACCCEE !!!
Women respect Alpha.
Always have and always will.
Beat on your chest and demand your respect.
Or be a casualty of your situation.
Plus, every woman who is willing to admit it… loves great sex.
Which doesn’t come from soft spoken or timid men.
It comes from gorillas of all color.
Nothing is more sexy to a women that a man in charge.
In charge of her, or his life, or whatever.
– this includes being a father a loyal husband and provider who will ride her, not hide from her –
Women who disagree with this… stop trying to run the men(boys) in your life and get a man.
loveall
@ anonymous
There is nothing a BROTHER would not do for a SUPPORTIVE SISTER(NOT MEANING A BROTHER WANT THEIR MONEY)let’s make that clear. I must state that most women, if you ask them if they cook(SOMEBODY HAS TO ASK THE QUESTION 1ST), most(NOT ALL)will tell you HELL NO!!!. Now that is a bad start. The first thing(thang) I’m thinking is, can a brother ever expect a homecooked meal. Now, if you ever expect to have a family in the future together, wouldn’t it be great if your lady/wife would show some love for the brother/family by throwing down by homecooking a tight meal on a few occasions. A lot of women will tell you, we will just go out and eat. Now,restaurant sanitary conditions or someone putting a foreign object(spit etc.) in your food is not uncommon. I am not saying, I expect the ladies to be like mom or grandmother, but these are arts(cooking) that SOME females are CUTTING TIES with. As a man, I will cook sometimes(from scratch), wash clothes(sometimes), cut grass, wash the ride, wash dishes(sometimes). My dishwasher is O.K., works fine. On the dishwashing deal, It is my secret to keep my masculine hands soft(the hands can palm a basketball off the bounce), plus the hands must not be too rough(callouses) for the ladies(I dont discriminate). I dont believe in who’s job is what, but I be damn if I will put up with a female telling me what she is not going to do in support of our household. I as most real men do not expect our ladies to wash cars, cut grass or do other chores that is a to masculine unless they want a little light exercise or have a little fun outside in the yard(to each it’s own). I enjoy eating out regularly, but I am very cautious on how restaurants handle the food I eat and snatch a knot in a hind-part quickly when the food is handled nasty. I believe in treating my lady right, but I ‘will not’ have my lady arguing or giving me a bunch of crap, but on the other hand see my lady taking crap from outsiders(argue with AMERICA like you argue with your man). Now, in the SEX category, I am a MASTER/BEAST, HAVE NOT LOST A BATTLE YET !!!. So, I am a ROMANTIC as well, but bad attitudes from females is REAL TURN OFF/TURN DOWN/WONT GET ME EXCITED sexually, if the ladies get my drift. I can not use the words I want out of respect for the post. I will make you take a NAP when we finish if you know what I mean!!!. YOU WON’T GET BORED. I MUST ADD, TRY TO GET ALONG and DO NOT GET
ANGRY WHEN YOU SEE MIXED RACE COUPLES, BECAUSE SOME(SOME!!!) PEOPLE JUST HAPPEN TO HAVE FOUND LOVE IN OTHER RACES. Some got to get it where they can find it!!!.
Anonymous (2 March 09 at 10:49 am) said:
“its a damn shame when a brother is on TOP and successfull then yall come runnin…but when hes at his down point yall dont stick by him or love like you would when hes top…PHONY.
damn shame but that IS true about black women.”
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man, you’ve got to quantify that statement unless you’ve met every black woman on earth.
i married my husband at his worst of the worst moment, but i saw beyond his circumstances. i stated it earlier, but i saw his love for the Lord, his boldness, his compassion, all these intangibles that brothers “on the top” who had tried to get with me didn’t have.
i saw a leader and i was endeared by his ability to be what random viewer described as “the alpha.”
i’m all for a woman having some standards, though. alpha means not only the ability to lead, but the ability to protect and secure. i’m neither afraid of nor intimidated by my husband. i am a leader in my own right, and i didn’t want to marry a man that i had to lead…unless his hand was on the small of my back after opening the door for me leading me into a room. LOL
Omegaman and T. Rogers, thank you for your much appreciated dialogue when it comes to black women. We are all different and not all of us like men who treat us bad. Craig is bitter and I believe is pretty much looking for an excuse to write-off black women and date women of other races. Degrading a whole race of women is a poor excuse to ease your conscious; accept your dating preferences and move on, but check the black women bashing at the door—it makes you appear small (minded, that is).
My son is eighteen and a senior in a majority white high school; he asked me about dating white girls because he thought the few black girls were shallow and immature. I told him to date whatever girl (of any race) that he enjoyed as a person, but do not make excuses and label the few black girls because he was looking for an excuse to ease his conscious and/or make himself feel better for choosing outside of his race. Every girl is different (no matter their race) and he may find that other girls (of other races) are also shallow and immature and maybe he is waaaaaaaaaaaay to serious; after all, this is high school.
I AGREE WITH MS. PARKER, VERY WELL SAID ABOUT BLACK WOMEN DATING THUGS. I THINK IT IS SO HARD TO FIND A BLACK MAN WHO ISN’T A THUG. I DATE ALL RACES AND I THINK WE ALL NEED TO GET OVER THE COLOR OF OUR SKIN BUT REALIZE WE ARE ALL CHILDREN OF GOD.
I’ve been reading the comments on here for quite some time and value a lot of what’s been said thus far. But truth be told, for some reason SOME black women do find superficial “thuggery” appealing, while others (including myself) find it entertainingly repulsive – I say that to convey that all it is, is a show. I mean, I refuse to believe that a grown man subconsciously accepts his foolish ways as his true identity and ideal way of living his life. There are many underlying and institutionalized factors that result in black men conforming to this low-class lifestyle and honestly when I see a man old enough to wear a belt but doesn’t, intelligent enough to go to school or get a real job but doesn’t, and insist on shaming his existence and family by re-enacting music videos, “hood” films and rap lyrics, I look at him with sorrow because he thinks that low of himself that he doesn’t aspire to do better.
But as I digress, the issue is women supporting this foolishness by falling for this facade that is killing our community. My best friend who is a beautiful, college-educated woman and mother of 1, and has a great well-paying government job, recently decided to start a relationship with a man, in his 30s, no hs diploma, several children, no job, felony record and currently on probation (mind you her son’s father was of [almost] the same caliber and background) and I may have ruined our friendship by expressing my concern about her decision to date him. I mean I don’t get. It hurts my heart to know she doesn’t value herself enough to choose a man of higher quality….at least someone who can actually help her advance in life. But her story isn’t unique…I just can’t wrap my brain around what could be remotely appealing about a man who clearly has no true, sound identity or productive goals in life
Being a black man at 46 years old, I have seen the younger women wanting a ‘thug’…from what I read here a Thug is someone who have the ‘walk’ ‘talk’ and suppose to back all of it up by being more Manly then the non-thug. I myself grew up in the 70s when the only thug was anyone who was in the MOB or mafia. Now, it seems to stand for nothing more than attitude or ‘Swagger’. I have met a wonderful younger woman of 34 years old with 2 children. I fell in love with her and showed her the ‘old school’ ways (having hot water in tub waiting for her after work, dinner made and waiting, long firm massage in bed, good conversation before she drift off to sleep) (Putting food on table, paying bills, good love making if presents itself) of how to treat a real woman. But, after almost a year, she goes back to her old boyfriend whom she calls a ‘clean-cut thug’….She said ‘oh, you’re nice and kind, but, you are not a clean cut thug…sorry.’ And now she’s back with him and from what I have seen she is ‘Happily Stressed’…. So, I don’t know what’s a ‘clean-cut thug’ is but from what she have said about him before me, he stays out all weekend, flirt shameless with other females, and will rise up to her if he do not get his way. I know she is not all women in the world…no way. But, it seems if a brotha is kind, caring, etc… SOME women will not have anything to do with you. Why?? Because YOU-are-not-a-Thug……Sad.
Loveall said:
Where(whey) the party people at??????????
A lot of women are attracted to thugs and for good reasons of their own. If you are a good guy that is not a thug, then remain that way. In the long run, thugs will have impregnated the majority of the unmarried women and the good guys will be left to marry those unmarried women when they reach middle age, and they will raise the children of thugs to be other than thugs long after the thug fathers has died or been incarcerated. These good guys will do their best to show the progeny of thugs and alternative to thugging to survive, yet nature or nuture will be the true determining factor. We will raise up seed unto our brethren if our brethren should fall that none shall be counted absent from the ranks of Israel. The whole scenario reminds me of the movie “Last American Virgin”. I guess women do not necessarily want a thug, but they want a man that’s going to know how to put a firm foot down and DICtate what will be. A facet of women’s nature is to arrange the material world for the male while the male is the spiritual motivator of how and when arrange the materials. Thugs may seed the world and are the genetic precursors of who will walk intot he future, yet it is the words of the intelligent man that will provide a way of LIFE for the children of the thugs to live by.
Peace.
I am so confused. I thought this was a universal thing of women. I know plenty of white women who love rough whiteboys. So why do black women keep getting the bad name of all the stereotypes. like the goldigger. You think white women don’t like money. Try asking all the white women married to all the rich white men. lol this blog is ridiculus. Once again debating with each other over foolishness that does nothing to help the black community. While other groups (races) push on. And for the record no one else is going to save you. The well being of the black race is of no other group prime interest! So get it together.
What is the definition of thug? Does this guy need to be a shooter because most respectable thugs are just trying to survive and would like to be legit. I used to sell drugs. When I went to college I noticed that my people perceived me in a whole other light. Unfortunately, black women were less attracted to me. But the drive for a successful business and to not be a bum in life is greater in the end. Now, I’m 26 and most of those girls are unhappy overweight(no longer little skinny fine college girls) and the men in their lives did them pretty bad. I dont think I can be put in a category I just tell women I’m a gentlemen. I feel like whatever I decide to do is whats cool. I never understood why a girl could pass me up for a relationship of pure hell. But if they want a thug then I can show her that its her decision and I am not crying about it. Its sad too cause one girl I really liked could have me as a husband instead she has dealt with rape and a couple other similar situations. If I’m to tamed and domesticated now guess what I dont give a F*ck! I didn’t need her anyway. I want to be somewhere playing golf not in jail like all my friends. As soon as the guys get locked up the girl is right on to the next thug talking about the last guy didnt leave her anything. Ha! Comedy man. Comedy.
I am a young lady and when wemon say they love thugs they mean the mentality of a thug. And I say that because I love thugs and bad boys. I’ve been raised by a single parent who has always showed me to to aim higher than what i actually want. Growing up in a prodominatly white neighborhood I’ve Never been around the real fast life with drugs and money my mom or dad never even smoked around me. but for some reason I am attracted to bad boys and thugs but of course my plan isn’t to support a grown man with no job. I do want a successful man. But i just ? the mentallity of a thug or bad boy. Standing up for me, Geting The Job Done, Hood, But NEVER TO LAY A HAND ON ME, But someone who keeps me in the latest and greatest, tatted up wit a swift body and his own. But that’s my take on thugs and bad boys when it comes to black wemon.
How many sistas up in here want a Black man whos a gentleman
say “I”, How many sistas up in here want a Black man who can support and be their backbound without worrying about catching an std because he sleeps around say “I”….LOOK,
Its like this man, I cant be something that Im NOT, Im deffiently not a THUG, but I aint a punk bit ch either (pardon my language)
what I am though is a MAN. I hold my own with or without a woman in my life, I take care of MINE and those who mean something to me
and did I mention : I CAN GOOD JOB CAUSE I DONT HAVE ANY FELONIES LOL
BUT to all the sistas out here who want a FELON in thier life who cant do sh it for them, good luck its sistas like yall that make PRODUCTIVE, CLASSY, black men like myself go to white women..cause it seems like they like a MAN who REALLY a man and dont have felonys
yall LOVE yall some felons though
oh well, I REALLY want to be with my own women…..
but if they wanna be stupid and go for a man who aint about sh it
then let em go
and Ill keep doin ME.
BLACK WOMEN PERFER FELONS
THATS WHY ALOT OF EM DONT MAKE IT OUT THE GHETTO
TIME TO FIND ME A PRETTY LOOKING WHITE WOMAN WHO CAN USE
A YOUNG HANDSOME BLACK MAN WITH “CLASS” AND “BRAINS” WITH NOT FELONIES, WHO LIKES A “GENTLEMAN” CAUSE AS FAR AS I SEE
THERE IS NO BLACK WOMEN OUT HERE WHO LIKES US BLACK NERDS
WERE TO SOFT FOR EM…..OH WELL WHERE ALL THE SEXY WHITE WOMEN AT
WHO WANTS A ‘REAL” MAN
MIGHT AS WELL CROSSOVER, CAUSE YALL SISTAS ARE FULL OF SH IT
4REAL
Guess she got her wish…Lauren London Gives Birth To Lil Wayne’s Baby!! According to eurweb.com, the baby was born at Cedars Sinai hospital, in Los Angeles, on September 9th and weighed in at 7 lbs. and 12 oz.
Lil Wayne has two children, a daughter named Reginae Carter, from Antonia “Toya” Carter, and a son, Dwayne Carter III, who was born on October 22, 2008 at Christ Hospital in Cincinnati.
His other baby mama Nivea should be be giving birth soon.
SMDH
To be brutally honest man, if they want those types of brothers then they can have them. Me and all the other men with substance will just date outside the race. Besides, because of feminism (satanism), black women in particular have lost their “feminimity.”
I’d recommend Latin America (Brazil) to find some ladies with more “traditional” values (who looks like models & loves kids/family/home cooking). The women in this country are simply out of touch. They don’t know the difference between “modesty” and “slutty.”
There’s too much of a risk (gamble) with these women. It’s probably not that there isn’t any good men (who are mostly overlooked). No, instead it’s probably that there aren’t many good women anymore. But feminism taught you to blame everyone but yourself for YOUR ACTIONS! If you choose those type of men and then wind up getting pregnant (when there are better alternatives/options available), then it’s YOUR FAULT and you only have yourself to blame. But since the system favors irresponsible people, you don’t feel you aren’t to be blamed. So sad..
From my experiences, men who carry themselves with respect/honor/class want a woman who:
a.) Hasn’t had loads of partners (shows restraint/self-esteem/self-respect).
b.) Doesn’t have kids from previous relationships (no one wants to raise someone else’s bastard child, only a desperate man would).
c.) Has traditional family values (these are your STRONG BLACK WOMEN, not those irresponsible single moms).
d.) Is GENUINE (both in personality & attitude).
e.) Is A Natural Beauty (feminine physical features like curves, not too masculine or aggressive, no plastic surgery, not too much make-up, no fake hair/nails/etc.)
To my dissappointment, you can’t find that much anymore. Pretty much extinct, and you only have women (feminism) to blame. You wanted independence right? Well, the first thing about being independent is to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for ALL YOUR ACTIONS. You chose to have unprotected sex without taking the necessary precautions. Now deal with it, and stop blaming the men who you give it up to too easily (and give those with a hint of substance a much more difficult time). Stop ABORTING your responsibilities please.
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