A while back when TheMom was pregnant I wrote about how jobs have no love for dads because a lot of them don’t offer any type of leave when you have a child (other than burning your vacation), they only do that for women.
Well I was reading a book about fatherhood and it covered a topic that got me to thinking. There was a situation (real life) where a man told his boss he needed to leave at noon because his son was ill and his boss replied, “Why can’t your wife do that?” The father explained that the child was his too and that it was his turn.
I would think that this way of thinking is more common than some may realize and it’s sad. In the past I’ve felt that a boss has wanted to say something along those lines but knew better because you better believe with TheDad family comes first.
BMWK family, have you ever experienced this, do you think it’s a normal way of thinking for male bosses in the workforce? Do you think this is old school and no longer around?
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i cant say, i had a phd and was a professor, and had my kids wityh me in my office and class room
but it does when u work for yourself
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I don’t think the workplace supports fathers or mothers right now. The expectation now is that you work more hours with less pay.
I think it depends on where you work . I am the only employee so if I am not happy the guy who pays my salary will not be happy. My kids come first. I do think it’s unfair that woman get more kid time(sympathy) than a man.
Thankfully my husband’s company is very supportive- gives multiple weeks of paternity leave, works with fathers who need to carpool kids, etc. but I think they are more the exception than the norm. I agree with TheMom in that the majority of workplaces are not supportive of Dads or Moms.
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For four years both my husband and I were in the military, however now I am a civilian. Now and even when we were both military my husband has more flexibility when it comes to his job and parenting responsibilities. He has taken them to more doctor’s appointments (I have always worked in the clinic, and still had trouble breaking away and getting to the appointments) and he has been at more functions for them than I have. I must be blessed because he has always carried the load in these situations. I believe its because he has the attitude that his kids come first and he has no problem letting his supervisors know.
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