Mama’s Boys

Mama’s Boys ???

What about all the sistah’s still living at home with their mama ? And trust me, there are sistah’s in their 30′s, 40′s, AND 50′s still living at home with mama.

And what about all the sistah’s who don’t have any transportation of their own?

And what about all the sistah’s who ain’t working and
don’t have any intention of finding or keeping a job?

Let’s at least attempt to be fair and truthful about what is really going on out here.

In fact, a good start would be, “What do we call a sistah’ who is still living at home with mama and doing nothing”?

I don’t know about the trifling sisters you are speaking of, but I do have a comment on trying not to raise a mammas boy. Our 4 year old son is the youngest of our two and I find it very difficult not to baby him. Is this going to turn him into a mammas boy. I am concerned because as a wife I would never tolerate my husband being a mama’s boy! I believe the bible says when you get married you are to leave your mother and father and cleave to your spouse. So mama comes after wifey and kids. I think one of black america’s issues now affecting black relationships is the single mothers who had to raise these young men up by themselves. Now the men feel indebted to their mothers . They feel that mama sacraficed for them and now they are paying her back some way.

I’d like to hear the husband’s side of the story. For we know, the wife may be insufferable, and the husband and his mama may have deal where she covers him while he hangs out with the boy – or a girlfriend. Or wife may be jealous of an even reasonable amount of attention he gives to his mother.

I know that after all the sacrifices I’ve made for my son, married or not, he better come over with a tool box if I need him. That applies to my daughter too. Hopefully I won’t turn into an insufferable old biddy one day!

There are genuine mama’s boys, but I’ve seen as many women who can’t make a move without getting their mother’s or best girlfriend’s approval on everything too.

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i used to worry that my man was becoming a mama’s boy and the mama in question is MY mother. she can do no wrong in his eyes. he always asks did i call her and when can we go see her. when she gives him a compliment or a hug he lights up like a little boy. he even told me that he was going to marry me because she is a great mother in law. considering how many men do not like their mother in law, i was pleased when he said that if i turned out like my mother he would be a happy man.

i am glad that my mother was able to stop him from being a mama’s boy in a very subtle way. she let him know that she was glad to be a mama to him in a more special way since he had lost his mother at a young age. but she also let him know that our relationship was our business and that she will never give advice except “pray on it” or come between us. in fact, sometimes when we call to invite her out she sometimes says ‘no’ just on general principle (or maybe she’s actually busy, lol).

my man has said that he feels like we have to take care of my mother because she is a widow and maybe some of these mama’s boys are doing the same.

I know they asked for the women to respond, but I could not help myself. I believe Ebony slammed the nail on the head. As a son who grew up with a single mother (who is still single and now getting older) I often feel obligated to do certain things for my mother. Unfortunately my mother often expects to be my priority.

I always get the line about everything she has done for me. I am coming up on five years of marriage and it has be a difficult task to get my mother to understand she is no longer the first woman in my life. Often times single mothers make their sons the first ‘man’ in their lives. Then they expect the sons to reciprocate. I am convinced that if she was married and had a man at home her expectations for me would be a lot different.

Of course, I love my mother immensely. It is because of that love I looked up and found myself acting like a mama’s boy. Some men are mama’s boys that don’t want to grow up. Others are mama’s that feel obligated to take and active role in their mother’s lives. I was the latter. Both are unhealthy.

That’s just my $0.02.

I have to admit my son is a mamas boy. My husband and daughters tell me this. Being my son lives with me and my husband he is more of a spoiled mamas boy than an errand boy. I have met a few of his female friends and when he breaks ties with them I don’t., or I should say they don’t break ties with me. They may call or stop by our home or my job. They are not looking for my son but just want to tell me what acheivements they have accomplished by leaving him alone. This one young female had so much going on for her that I straight up told her to do what you need to do and leave my son alone. I did not say it in a mean way but in a motherly way because I did not want her to not fulfull her dreams of going to Harvard by staying in our home town and settle for a great education at home vs a greater education away from home. I told this certain young lady that even after 4 yrs of a higher education I am sure my son will still be living in my house maybe even in my basement(we need his room for our sunset years). LOL. I do need his room. He is only 20 and I don’t have any grandkids from any of my kids so my son who is really a good kid is more than welcome to stay in our home but after a certain age don’t you have to move in the basement? Now my youngest child who just turned 19 yesterday, I have dibs on her room and have had since we moved in over 5 yrs ago. In 19 more days she goes back to college and I will encourage her to take everything with her. Her car, her clothes, books and all the stuffed animals she can fit in her little car. I love my kids but when school starts it is just me and the hubby and my son who is so quiet I really do forget he is here until he leaves a dish in the sink. It does not mean I can’t want his room. LOL.. Why is it we tell our daughters to keep on moving but we have spoiled sons? My son for a moment when he thought he was “the man of the house” wanted to know where I was going and call my cell to say where are you at”. I told him “You are my son not my husband”. A son in the household does belive he is running it if you let him. I tell my son I am not charging you rent and don’t ask you what, where and why and I deserve the same respect. We had a bad thunderstorm with lightning My kids in different places called me to see if I was ok. That was sweet and so kind of them. I was at work with big windows and they do know me. Kids turn out the way you raise them. (most of the time). My point is(I know everyone is happy that I do have a point and am almost done). I am glad that I only have one son and not 3. Just my personal opinion. My first born (22) graduates from college this Saturday. My 19 yr old has a few years. My son did not even graduate from high school but funny thing is he is book wise smarter than his sisters but not attentive enough to do the work.

I did pause for a moment to teach my son how to tie a tie for his sisters graduation. I guess I am a good teacher because he got it right the first time and he is left handed. Thanks to Michael Phillips who took the time teaching me how to tie a tie when I was a teen(actually I think I was 12 and he had just come home from church and his tie was un tied) in todays world shoes use to be valcro and ties are clip ons. I am glad that I am not one of those ppl who are not afraid to ask questions or make a fool out of myself. everyday is for learning something new. We may not share it when we learn it but it will get shared when some one else nedds it. Thanks Michael. No more wire hangers is as equal to me as ” No clip on ties. More ppl are either over dressing for church or not dressing up at all and some look like they just came from the club or are going to the club. Sorry, just had to add the church in there. My husband always dresses nice if we are going to church, funeral a club or out to dinner. To the readers in the room. Let us all dress for the occasion. If I am at a ball game I am not going to be in heels and a skirt unless i am repping my company

Hello,

I am with mama boy, he has two crazy baby mamas a few kids one of the babymama have so much hate towards me, however his mother a old never married scorned women dumped by this father she is so tricky that she tries everything to pull him away, however she didn’t have a issue till he put a ring on my finger. She is very intimated by our relationship if you ask me she thought he be over me soon, however we became more in love, in my opinion if he good to his mom that’s a good thing , but we have already established a wife is you better half as my husband will be mine. ignore it the more you talk about the mother the more it wedge a space in your relationship. And she is not in control she is the maother and I will be the wife. as far his baby mama that hate my exsistance I made her the least impotant thing that exsist.