New Feature: BMWK Wedding Blog – Jonesi’s Journey

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by Lamar Tyler | on October 23rd, 2008 | 11 comments

We’re very excited to share with you that beginning this Friday we’ll regularly showcase a new feature on the site called Jonesi’s Journey. It will be a personal blog that will chronicle a young woman’s trip to the alter next year step by step. Read along as she navigates through the experiences of planning a wedding and preparing for a new life. You won’t want to miss a single word and it all begins this Friday here on Blackandmarriedwithkids.com!

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

Anna

This is going to be interesting to follow. Our very own soap opera.
Jonesi

Soap Opera? I don’t know if I like the sound of that (lol). No drama here Anna…just candid writings from a young girl finding herself on the on the way to alter. God Bless
TheDad

We’re definitely looking forward to it and can’t wait for tomorrow’s first piece to drop.
Anna

@Jonesi said:
Soap Opera? I don’t know if I like the sound of that (lol). No drama here Anna…just candid writings from a young girl finding herself on the on the way to alter. God Bless
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Bad choice of words. Anything will a continuation to me is a soap. I will say we get to follow you through your “series” of events. Thank you for choosing us to share your journey with. And remember to breath, I hear that helps.
Jonesi

Breathing?!? What’s that?!? lol…
Anna

Jonesi said:
Breathing?!? What’s that?!? lol…
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Ha Ha. I am looking foward to following your journey. I also hope that you include your finance’s reaction to the planning. I know men are not usually apart of the planning but the woman is so happy that he just shows up for the wedding LOL. I will be living through you in all of this. My daughter is pre engaged ( she is just working on her Masters that I know she will have in Sept). I don’t want to be the mom or mother-in-law that tries to take over and everyone despises. I am going to be tuning in to this. I need tips on how to stay out of the mix. LOL. just remember that the wedding is a grand event and the marriage is to unite the two of you “till death due you part”.
Jonesi

The easiest way to stay out the biz is to…stay out the biz! lmao..no really this is the time where I look for my mother’s involvement the most and it seems she is dileberately taking a step back to encourage me to take control of my opinions and decisions. If your daughter is anything like me she is looking for that unsolicited advice and support. Wedding planning only gets stressful when you have SO many opinionated people around. I can’t handle people telling me what to do for long so I find it more enjoyable when I go do things alone. I went to David’s Bridal and tried on dresses alone one afternoon. Though it was stressful alone, all I could think was this would have probably been worse with tons of people. So instead of bringing a gang with me the first time around, I go alone the first time just to get a feel for things first
MissJay

@Jonesi

I agree about the stressfulness with other people’s opinions! I’m going through the same thing right now! We’ve changed our colors 3 times since March. I’ve only been to try on dresses once with 2 of my cousins (who are in the wedding) and I have yet to go again. Girl….best of luck to you! LOL
Jonesi

@Miss Jay – I will NOT be back to try on dresses anytime soon. If anything, that experience has encouraged me to try to shed as many pounds as possible!!!! I’ve decided to wear ivory instead of white because white is too shocking for me (lmao). Silly me for thinking I could buy the first dress I fell in love with…which was $1400. I thought that was a decent price until I was scolded for even considering it lol…
Anna

If your daughter is anything like me she is looking for that unsolicited advice and support. Wedding planning only gets stressful when you have SO many opinionated people around. I can’t handle people telling me what to do for long.
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You sound just like my daughter. She lived in a dorm her first year of college. After that she got two jobs to pay for her own apt. and still managed to graduate with honors on the Deans list. You and my daughter are the same age. I am just so glad to see young ppl willing to make a big commitment instead of settling for just “shacking up”. I feel sad that you went alone to try on wedding dresses, but so glad you mentioned it because now I can expect my child to do the same without feeling hurt.

My brothers finance’ at the time let the bridesmaids pick out our own dresses. We knew the color and spent the day shopping. With so many different body types and height we were the “bell of the ball”. Some brides to be want to shine and pick the ugliest bridesmaid dresses. I can say that one of my sisters and I gave the dresses to our daugthers to get alterd and they wore them to “senior prom”. If I were able to fit that dress today 14 yrs later it would still be in style. You and TheDad mentioned the photos and video of a wedding. Don’t cut corners with that. I love to look at my brothers video of his wedding and all the pics. My son who just turned 21 yesterday was so handsome in his tux being “ring barer(sp). My daughter and her bf were flower girls. My daugher was stingy at dropping the rose pedals and it is on tape when her bf put her hand in my daughters basket to drop her pedals. All caught on tape. My daughter was to busy waving like Ms. America walking down the aisle. LOL. Both girls are now women 19 yrs old. They are still best friends and her bf still calls me to say “Hi Mom what are you doing”. I use to babysit the little girl and for my brother to share his big day and include us in his wedding is so “priceless”.

BTW, my sister-in-law is so special to us. My brother got spoiled by being the only boy and we his sisters did that and still do. My sister-in-law don’t play that. She keeps him in check.

I am so happy you are sharing “you” with us and I have noticed I am not the only one. Look at all the views and comments that we are sharing. @ TheMom & TheDad you know I love this site for the variety of information you give us. This Journey with Jonesi is going to help us all. Either for us to back off in thinking we are helping in the wedding planning or to share our own (good) experience. It would be nice at the end of the Journey for someone to win a copy of the wedding and reception. Never mind I am sure Jonsie will be more than happy to post it.
http://blogitteems.blogspot.com Teems

This going to be soooo good! I can feel it. You cant count me in. Especially since I have plans for next year as well. I actually started blogging about my experience on my own. Since I have been taking my sweet time, I have nothing to talk about yet. lol

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