We saw this video on videojug.com. It’s hosted by Dr. Sheri Myers and she talks about common marital problems that couples run into and how you can solve them. Here are the topics:
How can I encourage my partner to be more involved in housekeeping?
How can I encourage my spouse to be financially responsible?
How can I cope with my spouse’s romantically jealous behavior?
How can I resolve my romantic jealousy towards my spouse?
How can my spouse and I cope with jealousy?
How can my spouse and I avoid comparing ourselves to others?
How can I help my spouse cope with the loss of their job?
How can I tell if my spouse is clinically depressed?
How do I avoid becoming depressed when my spouse is depressed?
How can I cope with my partner’s mental illness?
Marital Problems: Common Marital Problems
BMWK what do you think about these problems and solutions? Are they realistic? Would you try them out? What would you add?
About the author
Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.
Meh, the whole jealousy issue should be resolved before marriage, in my opinion. It is definitely not something I'd want to drag into a marriage, especially if it is heavily one-sided. But for those who didn't tackle that issue beforehand - good luck!
Housekeeping is an issue that tends to have to do more with appreciation than the actual amount of work. I do the majority of the housework because I am home with the kids but my husband helps when he can (which is rare, but I still appreciate it). But when he is insensitive to the work that I do by doing things like leaving his clothes around, not tidying up when he uses the kitchen, etc. etc., then I'm going to have to check him on that. Housekeeping is a continuous activity, one person should not be solely responsible and everyone of a certain age should help MAINTAIN order in a house. I don't expect him to scrub the toilet after working 10,12 hour days but I don't like seeing pee everywhere either. Aim better.
Depression issues should be addressed by a licensed professional if there is access to one. If not, a local church or hotline can probably help. I wouldn't dare attempt to diagnose some thing like that but I can certainly see the warning signs. To be honest, I think my hubby suffers from depression every now and then, it's never long enough for me to feel like he needs real medical attention. But I do keep an eye out for it because he tends to work a lot and rarely takes time for himself.
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