Enough of this pre-occupation with bad boys. Bad boys are not exciting, irresistible, or the spice of life.

Bad boys mess up people’s lives by having babies and not paying child support. They pass on sexual diseases. Many bad boys are on the “down low”. At best, sistah’s throw away opportunities to be with a together brotha’ by wasting time running with bad boy’s.

Of course fair is fair. Every sistah has the right to do as she pleases.

So…having said that, it is just as fair for an educated professional brotha’ to refuse to take seriously those sistah’s with young children and no father.

And…as regards the over 40 sistah’ who has everything, but for some reason swears she does not know why he has never been married…no comment.

So you see, instead of giving all this air time to bad boys and bad girls, you need to focus on staying away from these folks. All they are good for is messing up their lives and yours.

Why are you men/boys approaching this type of woman. My sisters, friends, and my stay at home moms group, and myself - never have and never would date a ‘thug’.
If a ‘thug’ ever approached one of us .. he was immediately shut down. We are all intelligent and educated african american women, with all but the exception of two married to wonderful black men who never acted so ignorant.
Stop hanging at the club or on the block and maybe go somewhere like museums, art festivals, coffee shops, etc .. basically grown locations
good luck

My suggestion would be to move on to a better quality of women. If a girl/woman wants a thug then she is probably his counterpart. Intelligent and educated women prefer the same. Good Luck.

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As a well, world traveled brotha this is a subject that comes up at my cigarshop in Phoenix almost daily. I chill with several professional brothas from the corporate world, medical, education, finacial, architectural and aviation to name a few. We hang pretty tight, from renting limos so know one has to drive and drink, smoking cigars, going to different events around the city, state and the region. We have a few sistas come through from time to time and they are blown away by our topics of conversation, the depth of it, manners that we have, education and even the way we speak and also because of the way we hang we together. Here there are younger and some older women would like a thugged out brothas! Mind you they want to hang with us and we are into a little of everything, from team jerseys to khakis and polo shirts. Many of the women say that when a woman is in “play mode” she wants that thug for the excitement factor (which)is crap but anyway and a nice guy when she is ready to settle down. Problem is that good, (nice) brothas are not waiting around for sistas to finish playing with the thug/gangsta brotha till their credit is screwed up, baby has been had or money is gone. Go and find a woman that you like that’s not caught up in that type of brotha and maybe expand your area of searching. Look in the grocery store, book store and coffee shop…how many thug style brothas do you see chillin’ at Starbucks drinking “Grande Mocha frappuccino. Expand your horizons and look everywhere, remember women are everywhere and being nerdish or square is cool when you go for a job interview, trying to get a loan!

Don’t get me wrong I love my sistas but they can drive you to drink just like brothas do some sistas!!!

Keep looking and stay positive bro, she will come one day!!!

blkav8tor2003

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I think there is a difference between “Thug-hood” and “Man-hood.”

Many young African-American young women, especially those in their teens, 20s and 30s, get the two confused way to much. I think many do not even know the difference.

Maybe it is because they see more examples of thug-hood than man-hood in their immediate circles, neighborhoods, etc. The Media, Radio, TV, Cable, Movies, Magazines, Video Music Shows, etc. do not help so those executives that own these entities share some of the blame.

Once again, the age groups that I find that have the most trouble with this issue are young black women compared to older, more experienced black women who know the difference. A lot of it is pure under exposure and that they just have never seen good black men going generations back that were excellent role models so they are basing their views on what they see around them.

I think it is up to all us “good black men” to continue to be ourselves and be that shining example to ourselves and to our communities to help counter these negative beliefs and perceptions.

~LT

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