Comments on: Jonesi’s Journey – Location, Location, Location http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 00:17:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Teems http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6460 Teems Sun, 23 Nov 2008 18:29:01 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6460 Girrrrrrl! This place is AWESOME! Especially for the price. Can you do my wedding? Lol just kidding. But you are doing a much better job that I am when it comes to reasonable pricing. I think...well I know...I am going to spend "too much". I don’t know why, but I am not doing the "one-stop" thing. Somebody stop me... lol But again, bravo! Don't worry about what other people think. (Isn't that the first rule to wedding planning?- that’s what they say lol)I appreciate your posts. A lot! I am sure that I'm not the only one... And I don’t think that ceremonies have to be held in a church. Like The Mom and Dad said. As long as the priest, family and friends are there, it doesn’t matter. <abbr><em>Teemss last blog post..<a href="http://davidandfatima.wordpress.com/2008/11/14/a-bad-taste/" rel="nofollow">A Bad Taste</a></abbr></em> Girrrrrrl! This place is AWESOME! Especially for the price. Can you do my wedding? Lol just kidding. But you are doing a much better job that I am when it comes to reasonable pricing. I think…well I know…I am going to spend “too much”. I don’t know why, but I am not doing the “one-stop” thing. Somebody stop me… lol

But again, bravo! Don’t worry about what other people think. (Isn’t that the first rule to wedding planning?- that’s what they say lol)I appreciate your posts. A lot! I am sure that I’m not the only one…

And I don’t think that ceremonies have to be held in a church. Like The Mom and Dad said. As long as the priest, family and friends are there, it doesn’t matter.

Teemss last blog post..A Bad Taste

]]> By: MissJay http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6365 MissJay Fri, 21 Nov 2008 02:11:55 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6365 @Jonesi That is the best reason right there, having both families come together. I'm on The Knot too. Don't have much up there though as far as pictures or anything. @Jonesi

That is the best reason right there, having both families come together. I’m on The Knot too. Don’t have much up there though as far as pictures or anything.

]]> By: Jonesti http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6356 Jonesti Thu, 20 Nov 2008 19:49:53 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6356 @MissJay - It's funny you mention the DJ. Luckily we do have a family friend who is a DJ and in fact he did a good job at my graduation party. He doesn't necessarily concern, I think I am just leary about that day and want everything to go smoothly...I'm not aiming for perfection though it would be nice (lol). When you bring family and friends in the mix, things tend to get messy. Atleast if you're paying someone you can hold them accountable :-) On another note, I hope I didn't seen angry in my previous message because I surely wasn't. It is wise to consider the factors when a great deal of money is involved. I can admit that there are many other things we can do with the money being spent on the wedding, but that same mentality applies to everything really. I am excited about the wedding as well, mainly because we get to share that day with many friends and family. More than anything the fact that both of our families have a reason to all come together is what I am looking forward to most :-) @MissJay – It’s funny you mention the DJ. Luckily we do have a family friend who is a DJ and in fact he did a good job at my graduation party. He doesn’t necessarily concern, I think I am just leary about that day and want everything to go smoothly…I’m not aiming for perfection though it would be nice (lol). When you bring family and friends in the mix, things tend to get messy. Atleast if you’re paying someone you can hold them accountable :-)

On another note, I hope I didn’t seen angry in my previous message because I surely wasn’t. It is wise to consider the factors when a great deal of money is involved. I can admit that there are many other things we can do with the money being spent on the wedding, but that same mentality applies to everything really. I am excited about the wedding as well, mainly because we get to share that day with many friends and family. More than anything the fact that both of our families have a reason to all come together is what I am looking forward to most :-)

]]> By: MissJay http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6350 MissJay Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:58:42 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6350 @Jonesi I personally love reading your story! I'm getting married myself in September 09 so I feel where you're coming from in planning and all. Although our budget is similar if not the same as yours. We have to personally cut back due to having 2 children. You are indeed inspiring me to want the best. I love the advice I read from you, TheMom, and TheDad. Made me put my foot down about having a photographer who will give us wonderful pics. We're cutting corners also. My fiancé and his friend DJ so we don't have to pay for one (although I'm not too thrilled with him DJing during our reception, it's something I can live with as he knows what I like and his friends knows what we both like). As I mentioned before about the church and minister, we're pretty much set for that too. See girl you got me excited all over again! :) I'll tell you like one of my good friends signed in my yearbook (I'm suprised I even remember that lol), don't let nobody steal your joy. @TheDad Our company had made up their mind and will be outsourcing our jobs. At least we have time to prepare and find another job. Some in other departments had their last day the day of or the end of this month or beginning of the 2009. Thanks for the kind words! I'm looking at it as a blessing in disguise as it's making me do what I've planned to do since 2006 which is go after the career I actually want. @Jonesi
I personally love reading your story! I’m getting married myself in September 09 so I feel where you’re coming from in planning and all. Although our budget is similar if not the same as yours. We have to personally cut back due to having 2 children. You are indeed inspiring me to want the best. I love the advice I read from you, TheMom, and TheDad. Made me put my foot down about having a photographer who will give us wonderful pics. We’re cutting corners also. My fiancé and his friend DJ so we don’t have to pay for one (although I’m not too thrilled with him DJing during our reception, it’s something I can live with as he knows what I like and his friends knows what we both like). As I mentioned before about the church and minister, we’re pretty much set for that too. See girl you got me excited all over again! :) I’ll tell you like one of my good friends signed in my yearbook (I’m suprised I even remember that lol), don’t let nobody steal your joy.

@TheDad

Our company had made up their mind and will be outsourcing our jobs. At least we have time to prepare and find another job. Some in other departments had their last day the day of or the end of this month or beginning of the 2009. Thanks for the kind words! I’m looking at it as a blessing in disguise as it’s making me do what I’ve planned to do since 2006 which is go after the career I actually want.

]]> By: Jonesi http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6337 Jonesi Thu, 20 Nov 2008 09:18:55 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6337 When I agreed to do this blog, I realized that many would not share my same ideals and opinions as I would. Other the the childish and negatively unprovoked, racially charged comment, I really do appreciate everyone's input because it gives me outside perspectives to reflect upon. I went against my better judgement by sharing the details of the wedding and reception site, hoping it would encourage atleast one person not accept the mediocre packages many venues seem to offer when I know there are places who really aim to please without breaking the bank. Take five bucks off the estimate I gave, add a family friend doing the music, homemade invitations and flower arrangements, fraternity brother baking the wedding cake and we've pretty much spent what the average American (not just black) waste on fast food, clothes and entertainment. My justisfication is the fact that I get to share my love, as the first female in my family to marry since my grandmother, with the people who encouraged me to love and taught me how to except it, showed me how to set standards in my life and expect more because of it. One thing I learned from my childhood is that at the end of the day you have to live. If you continue to let the conditions of the world or your circumstances define your right to experience life and all it has to offer, you end up being that person that always reflects back on what they could've, would've, should've done. My mother may not have always made the most economically sound decisions but one thing I will always appreciate is that she sacrificed so we could live, learn, laugh, love and get the most we could out of life. She wasn't a no parent always making us self-consious about our existence. There is healthy balance but today could be our last, tomorrow anything could happen but for me I have lived and will continue to operate with that mindset. I just felt the need to say this because yes I understand the economy is a wreck but I'm so tired of it defining the world's existence. We all have the right to priortize our spending and I bet we would all be surprised at what we could "afford" if we assessed our spending habits more closely. This wedding is the icing on the cake and a celebration for everyone but the foundation of our love is solid. When I agreed to do this blog, I realized that many would not share my same ideals and opinions as I would. Other the the childish and negatively unprovoked, racially charged comment, I really do appreciate everyone’s input because it gives me outside perspectives to reflect upon. I went against my better judgement by sharing the details of the wedding and reception site, hoping it would encourage atleast one person not accept the mediocre packages many venues seem to offer when I know there are places who really aim to please without breaking the bank.

Take five bucks off the estimate I gave, add a family friend doing the music, homemade invitations and flower arrangements, fraternity brother baking the wedding cake and we’ve pretty much spent what the average American (not just black) waste on fast food, clothes and entertainment. My justisfication is the fact that I get to share my love, as the first female in my family to marry since my grandmother, with the people who encouraged me to love and taught me how to except it, showed me how to set standards in my life and expect more because of it.

One thing I learned from my childhood is that at the end of the day you have to live. If you continue to let the conditions of the world or your circumstances define your right to experience life and all it has to offer, you end up being that person that always reflects back on what they could’ve, would’ve, should’ve done. My mother may not have always made the most economically sound decisions but one thing I will always appreciate is that she sacrificed so we could live, learn, laugh, love and get the most we could out of life. She wasn’t a no parent always making us self-consious about our existence. There is healthy balance but today could be our last, tomorrow anything could happen but for me I have lived and will continue to operate with that mindset.

I just felt the need to say this because yes I understand the economy is a wreck but I’m so tired of it defining the world’s existence. We all have the right to priortize our spending and I bet we would all be surprised at what we could “afford” if we assessed our spending habits more closely. This wedding is the icing on the cake and a celebration for everyone but the foundation of our love is solid.

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6333 Anna Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:10:40 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6333 I was watching Judge Toler on TV this week (one of our favorite TV judges.) And she is doing a series called Before the Vows ~~~~~~~~~~~ @ TheMom. I came home for lunch today and saw some of the show. I was thinking "what is this man saying". Before the commercial break I did see that it is called "before the vows". I could see that the couple did have issues and the man did not want to get married only for it to end in divorce. I hope I can find the vid online so I can watch "the rest of the story". I was watching Judge Toler on TV this week (one of our favorite TV judges.) And she is doing a series called Before the Vows
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@ TheMom. I came home for lunch today and saw some of the show. I was thinking “what is this man saying”. Before the commercial break I did see that it is called “before the vows”. I could see that the couple did have issues and the man did not want to get married only for it to end in divorce. I hope I can find the vid online so I can watch “the rest of the story”.

]]> By: TheMom http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6331 TheMom Thu, 20 Nov 2008 03:46:21 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6331 That place is beautiful Jonsei. I am so excited for you. It’s like re-living my own wedding planning process. As the TheDad stated, we got married at the same facility where we had the reception. It was not a Church…but you can best believe there were plenty of church folks there!! I was watching Judge Toler on TV this week (one of our favorite TV judges.) And she is doing a series called Before the Vows (Divorce Court.) In this series, couples come to the divorce court and they explain their situation to Judge Toler. And then the Judge will tell them if they are ready for marriage or not. I guess it is designed to help couples think about what they are about to do…before they get married…before they end-up divorcing. On this particular show, a young couple told her that they were scraping up to save for a big wedding. She told them that their priorities were wrong…She said that they needed to be concerned with home ownership and insurance and savings.etc. And if they were scraping up money to have a big wedding..then they probably could not afford that type of wedding. I agree with her. A couple should not be going into debt trying to have a wedding. TheDad and I had a budget and we stuck to it. We did not use credit cards or get loans. We did not want to go into our marriage with a huge debt from the wedding. But it sounds like you are doing all of the right things. That is a great price for that venue!! I would have totally jumped on that price too!!! Just think about it..if you have 100 guests..that’s like $3000. You can’t beat that..especially for such a beautiful place!! Thank-you for sharing. I can’t wait to hear more. Also, since our wedding and reception were at the same venue. We had to order appetizers for the guests to eat after the wedding ceremony. This kept them busy while we were taking our pictures. Jonesi - have you seen those videos where the wedding parties are doing a dance routine for the guests? What do you think… are you and your fiance going to bust a move for your guests? <abbr><em>TheMoms last blog post..<a href="http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/18/holiday-message-from-the-obamas/" rel="nofollow">Holiday message from the Obama’s</a></abbr></em> That place is beautiful Jonsei. I am so excited for you. It’s like re-living my own wedding planning process. As the TheDad stated, we got married at the same facility where we had the reception. It was not a Church…but you can best believe there were plenty of church folks there!!

I was watching Judge Toler on TV this week (one of our favorite TV judges.) And she is doing a series called Before the Vows (Divorce Court.) In this series, couples come to the divorce court and they explain their situation to Judge Toler. And then the Judge will tell them if they are ready for marriage or not. I guess it is designed to help couples think about what they are about to do…before they get married…before they end-up divorcing.

On this particular show, a young couple told her that they were scraping up to save for a big wedding. She told them that their priorities were wrong…She said that they needed to be concerned with home ownership and insurance and savings.etc. And if they were scraping up money to have a big wedding..then they probably could not afford that type of wedding. I agree with her. A couple should not be going into debt trying to have a wedding. TheDad and I had a budget and we stuck to it. We did not use credit cards or get loans. We did not want to go into our marriage with a huge debt from the wedding.

But it sounds like you are doing all of the right things. That is a great price for that venue!! I would have totally jumped on that price too!!! Just think about it..if you have 100 guests..that’s like $3000. You can’t beat that..especially for such a beautiful place!! Thank-you for sharing. I can’t wait to hear more.

Also, since our wedding and reception were at the same venue. We had to order appetizers for the guests to eat after the wedding ceremony. This kept them busy while we were taking our pictures.

Jonesi – have you seen those videos where the wedding parties are doing a dance routine for the guests? What do you think… are you and your fiance going to bust a move for your guests?

TheMoms last blog post..Holiday message from the Obama’s

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6319 Anna Thu, 20 Nov 2008 00:13:04 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6319 Jonesi, I have been waiting for an update. Seems you are getting a bargain for your buck. The venue you picked is beautiful. Don't worry if the Church and the reception location are not within viewing distsance of each other. It's your day and your guests day to suck it up and go with the flow. I have been to weddings where the reception was not in the same zip code but they were in different cities. To have an open bar or not, that is the question. It's one of those things that has to be weighed out.(is everyone going to be responsible enough to designate a driver)? If you choose to have an open bar, ask if you can bring in your own. My brother got his alcohol from another state. It was already priced cheaper but also the state tax was lower. Jonesi, I have been waiting for an update. Seems you are getting a bargain for your buck. The venue you picked is beautiful. Don’t worry if the Church and the reception location are not within viewing distsance of each other. It’s your day and your guests day to suck it up and go with the flow. I have been to weddings where the reception was not in the same zip code but they were in different cities.
To have an open bar or not, that is the question. It’s one of those things that has to be weighed out.(is everyone going to be responsible enough to designate a driver)? If you choose to have an open bar, ask if you can bring in your own. My brother got his alcohol from another state. It was already priced cheaper but also the state tax was lower.

]]> By: TheDad http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6310 TheDad Wed, 19 Nov 2008 21:38:38 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6310 @Nicole - oh yeah I did mean to mention that. Let them pay for their own drinks. We had a cash bar, the cost of the wedding was enough I wasn't trying to pony up any more than necessary. Use that money on pictures or something that will last. <abbr><em>TheDads last blog post..<a href="http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/18/holiday-message-from-the-obamas/" rel="nofollow">Holiday message from the Obama’s</a></abbr></em> @Nicole – oh yeah I did mean to mention that. Let them pay for their own drinks. We had a cash bar, the cost of the wedding was enough I wasn’t trying to pony up any more than necessary. Use that money on pictures or something that will last.

TheDads last blog post..Holiday message from the Obama’s

]]> By: Nicole http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/11/19/jonesi%e2%80%99s-journey-location-location-location/comment-page-1#comment-6309 Nicole Wed, 19 Nov 2008 21:07:57 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=1953#comment-6309 @ Jonesi- The place looks beautiful and the cost seems super reasonable. I think you made a great choice. My husband and I got married at the resort that we had the reception at, and like the dad said I don't think it took away from the moment at all. Another note, I wouldn't pay for an open bar. Let those folks pay for their own booze. @ Jonesi- The place looks beautiful and the cost seems super reasonable. I think you made a great choice. My husband and I got married at the resort that we had the reception at, and like the dad said I don’t think it took away from the moment at all. Another note, I wouldn’t pay for an open bar. Let those folks pay for their own booze.

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