Comments on: Quick Love With Nick and Mariah

By: Harriet

Harriet — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 15:33:01 +0000

My husband says he knew I was going to be his wife the first time we talked on the phone in June of 03. It took me about another year to be convinced, though. I give him props for patiently waiting. Plus 9 months of premarital counseling didn’t hurt, either. I really wanted to be ready, because I didn’t want us to be in that 52% of Christian marriages that ended in divorce.

By: Anna

Anna — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 18:34:54 +0000

dede said:
my first marriage, we knew each other for 6 months, it ended in divorce. my second marriage we dated for six years, it ended in divorce. ok yall i’m on my third, finally, and very last marriage. the difference is this time we are evenly yoked. i prayed and waited, he also prayed and found me. YUP this one is gonna work. i even changed my last name to his.
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The third time is the charm.

By: Constance

Constance — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 05:38:20 +0000

I knew my husband for 3 months before we got married. We will be celebrating our 4 yr anniversary in January. I believe that short courtships can turn into long successful marriages if, like others have stated, both parties are committed.

When I tell you that it was hard the 1st 2 years, that’s an understatement. And it was exacerbated by the fact that I got pregnant about 3 months after we got married. We never thought about leaving though. The only way either of us is leaving is if infidelity or neglect is involved. We are fully committed to doing any and everything to make our marriage work.

I know people might feel like at just 4 years we’re still in the newlywed stage, but through everything that we’ve been through together, that stage ended probably before the end of the 1st year.

I wouldn’t say that our difficulties were due to not knowing each other; they were more due to us knowing each other, but wanting to change the other person. We were young when we got married, so it took a couple of years for us to realize what battles were actually worth fighting and which ones we needed to pray for patience about and let go.

I don’t think that this type of relationship is the norm though. I think that most people are so ingrained to put on a “perfect facade” that the relationship doesn’t get real until several months down the road whereas my husband and I both came into the relationship stating what we were looking for and we weren’t going to take anything less. Most people claim they want somebody to be real with them, but it’s just the natural habit to “put on a face” in order to get the person to like you and stay interested in you.

There’s also a social stigma attached to having a short courtship. Who are we to judge anyone else’s relationship based on our own preconceived notions about what a relationship should look like? If they are in love, I say more power to them. I don’t think that it takes 5 years of being in a relationship to realize if you are made for this person or not. My mom was the most critical person when I told her I was getting married. She disliked my husband very strongly. Now she loves us and she thinks he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. I would never tell him she feels like that though; his head is already too big. Lol

By: dede

dede — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 18:54:56 +0000

my first marriage, we knew each other for 6 months, it ended in divorce. my second marriage we dated for six years, it ended in divorce. ok yall i’m on my third, finally, and very last marriage. the difference is this time we are evenly yoked. i prayed and waited, he also prayed and found me. YUP this one is gonna work. i even changed my last name to his.

By: Jewelryrockstar

Jewelryrockstar — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 04:01:35 +0000

I think it will work. They seem happy, the key is to keep working when the newness wears off.

By: Anna

Anna — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 01:27:38 +0000

Rumor has it that Mariah does not do with the sex before marriage thing. This is why she is on her second marriage and dated both briefly. I do think it lasts if you invest in it. I married a blind date wihin six months of meeting. Everyon knows my story. We have been married for over 11 years. We are married because we want to be. We don’t stay married out of obligation. He/we have no kids together. We enjoy each others company and friendship. To just shack up with yet another man was not going to work for me. There are no benefits and only a wife has rights, of course there are exceptions to every rule. A same sex couple had more rights than me being hetrosexual and unmarried just living together.
I do see the happiness that Mariah and Nick show. I think Mariah just needs to be with someone that understands her life style. Nick does not mind taking a back seat being Mr. Carey.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 00:21:36 +0000

my God bless them and be with them

By: JNez

JNez — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 19:08:05 +0000

i believe it can happen. my ex-wife and i met randomly and moved in together 6 months later. well it didn’t work out, but it would have if i didn’t have this little issue regarding same sex attraction…

By: T. Rogers

T. Rogers — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 18:16:52 +0000

I know a couple that married after knowing each other for barely a month. They have been married now for 20+ years. It can happen. I don’t think it is the norm, though.

By: Mrs. Alozie

Mrs. Alozie — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 16:39:32 +0000

These relationships can absolutely survive and be wonderfully genuine. My husband and I had a 6 month long distance courtship (via phone). I was working as a lawyer and my dh was finishing his studies. When we finally met in person, we turned our “engagement” party into our marriage ceremony. We will be celebrating our 5 year anniversary in May 2009 and we have 3 beautiful sons. What can really help a relationship survive is the commitment to work and philosophy of the couple.