BMWK Anniversary Classic: Why is it so hard to plan things with friends and family?

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by Lamar Tyler | on December 19th, 2008 | 2 comments

All this week we’ll be running classic posts in addition to our regular content to celebrate our one year anniversary on Blackandmarriedwithkids.com! Original post date: Mar. 25, 2008.

How come we just can ‘t seem to get together when we are planning for things…such as birthday parties… baby showers…. etc. Whenever a group of us get together to plan something, there are always problems!!! We all get together on the phone and start throwing out ideas. But then as soon as we hang up the phone…you know at least one person is going to be calling you back saying “ Girl …who does she think she is… that idea was whack… that sounds cheesy… I ain’t gonna do that” OR… Have you had people that were planning things for you… And they actually kept calling you to complain..trying to drag you in the middle of their disagreements… Now that is the worst. I actually had a friend call me about a party that was being planned for me..and when I did not answer the questions correctly she said: “And that’s why nobody can plan nothing for your Ass!!!” Wow… that made me feel good. And what about RSVPs….do we even know how to do that.. It is very simple… just fillout the Card…put it into the envelope that already has the address and the stamp on it…and put it into the mail. But nooooooooooo, we are planning something for my father right now.. and I know half of my older relatives are not going to RSVP…but I know they will be there anyway and they are going to bring a few extra people. Or what’s worse than that… they RSVP and say they are coming..and then do not show up.

Now I see why some people prefer to just plan things alone… I say..do you need me to help..and they say..No just come.. or bring a desert. That is much easier than trying to plan a pot luck with a bunch of family and friends.

BMWK Family – what do you think? Is it just my family and friends..or do you have similar experiences? Please share some of your horror stories..or tips on how to make this better.

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://africanamericanpragmatist.blogspot.com Iam Robert

I know why it’s so hard. We’re all running around like rats in a cage! As a dad, husband, friend, and family member, my wife and I both work long days and only have time to catch up on things during the weekend. Problem is, everyone is living this way. And don’t mention the trip that some of us have to take to see the relatives. Bottom line, it’s hard because times are hard. But I’m glad the love is there and we persevere to keep the ties that bind. LOL

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Anna

You can have 50 ppl in one room and there is always that one person that will annoy 80% of them. The 20% not annoyed are either deaf, dumb or blind. LOL. I think my comment on this post was that sometimes it is ok to have different gatherings because all do not mix. Just put the 20% together for a mixer and make them feel special because they get less of a crowd and you can give them more attention without having to explain “why”, they do what they do to the first 80%.