Comments on: Jonesi’s Journey – Bridal Party Blues

By: Jonesi

Jonesi — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 17:20:17 +0000

@Blaze – WOW!!!!!!!! I just can’t even imagine all this happening on such a special day. You know, I had a talk with each bridesmaid and abasolutely made sure each person really wanted to be apart from their heart. This isn’t just a party for me so I take each person’s participation very seriously. I am doing all I can not to take on the mentality that “I just want to get this over” but it gets like that some days. I don’t have an overall wedding planner to cut cost (though the “budget” is kinda blown it seems) but I do have a coordinator for the reception….it will all work out though. I am not really frustrated or stressed but moreso annoyed by some things going on.

By: blaze

blaze — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 22:50:19 +0000

I just got married on Dec.5th, I’m so glad that the day is over. In the begining things were running pretty well. It wasn’t until the last two weeks, when things fell apart. The best man cancelled at the last minute, for no reason at all, well he had a reason , but it wasn’t “the” reason. he claims, that he told us months prior that he could not be in the wedding because there was too much confusion!!
bullcrap!! the so called confusion he is talkintg about is the changing of the wedding colors. Yes I changed the colors, and? it’s my wedding. I changed the colors because I moved the date up.It went from a spring wedding to a fall wedding, so naturally I changed from lavender to chocolate and cream. what really pissed me off was that he knew the reason why i changed the date and it wasn’t because i felt like it or i had nothing else to do with my time.My dad had stage four lung cancer, and I really wanted my dad to be there, and to walk me my husband, so i pushed the date up and,my dad didn’t make it he passed away nov.22nd, anyway, the real reason for him not attending the wedding was because he couldn’t afford it, he could have just said that to me ahead of time so that i could get someone to replace him, which I did anyway, “Thanks brother”, then four days before the wedding, my best friend, I mean my real best friend of 16 years, called me with some bullcrap bout not being able to get the time off from work. Mind you,she was the first person to know about the wedding, and had more than enough time to get the days she needed, so now I had no matron of honor, but what i did was move my sister up to maid of honor, from bridesmaid, and added my 16 year old daughter as a bridesmaid.At the end of the day I was happy with the outcome. what I will say is this: hire a wedding consultant, mine was very helpful outside of my unreliable wedding party.

By: EnT Love

EnT Love — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 23:01:56 +0000

When we got married, I only had a maid of honor. One of my other very close friends was a hostess. I also did not pick colors per se. I only asked that the ladies be dressed in fall colors. I chose the mens tux colors. Whatever colors they chose that were fall related were fine. The wedding was beautiful, easy, low stress, and we are now navigating the waters of marriage and family. REMEMBER: Follow your own path, this is your day! Congrats!

By: TheMom's Cousin

TheMom's Cousin — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 01:34:40 +0000

Keep one thing in mind during the entire wedding planning process — Those people who REALLY wish you peace and happiness in your marriage and TRULY have your back will do whatever it takes to make your day a memorable one. Don’t take rejection personally — if they say no, just move on.

By: TheDad

TheDad — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 13:44:14 +0000

I say you're the boss so don't trip off of anyone else. Do it the way you want and let the chips fall where they may. None of these people are helping to pay or doing anything more than showing up on that day so it's really up to you and your fiance. TheDads last blog post..Show Me Your Friends, I’ll Show You Your Future?

By: TheMom

TheMom — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 12:46:39 +0000

I think you are doing all of the right things. People are always going to complain and not be satisfied with what you ask them to do. I would explain to my friends that I have to keep the wedding small and that brothers and sisters need the braidsmaids/groomsmen slots. But..that I really wanted them to participate in my wedding and therefore I wanted them to be hostess. If they can't respect that, then you just have to say oh well and move on...you can't let other people's issues ruin your wedding planning or your wedding day. I really enjoyed my wedding planning process....so I would say don't let drama ruin that experience either. My cousins were happy to be my hostesses because they wanted to anything to help me on my special day....and that meant a lot to me. TheMoms last blog post..Show Me Your Friends, I’ll Show You Your Future?

By: Anna

Anna — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 10:47:31 +0000

It takes so much work to plan a wedding. I get exhaused just by reading(but I do enjoy it). I was a bridesmaid in my brothers wedding, being as tall as I am I had to walk out first. I passed by my brother and he said “hey cat”. I felt at ease and could not stop laughing. My son was the ring barier(he was 6, I will never see him in a tux again) my youngest 4 was one of 2 flower girls and my 8 yr old was the receptionist who had the guests sign the wedding book. I served so many plates at the wedding that I never ate myself. The food was catered but my brothers mother-in-law did make her own dishes. There was not only prime rib but greens and dressing. It was a mid May wedding and the following year I eloped. My brothers wife, my sister-in-law is my version of Michelle Obama, while my brother is like Doug from “King Of Queens. Opposites do attract. There is always that one family member that can stir things up. My dad was flirting with my ex hubbys girl friend. A wedding is a family/friends affair. It brings us all together. At the end of the day we realize that it was not about us but for the bride and the groom. My brother and his wife are still married and have a house in the “burbs”, but still visit little ole me in the zip code I/ we all grew up in.

By: Harriet

Harriet — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 14:39:33 +0000

I’m with Sing. I had a maid of honor and that was IT. I wasn’t the kind of girl who grew up wanting a fairy tale wedding.

BUT…

If that’s what you want, and you want it to go perfectly, I have no doubts you’ll find a way to make it work. Just don’t be another episode of Bridezilla, OK? Do that for me. LOL

By: SingLikeSassy

SingLikeSassy — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 14:02:40 +0000

I don’t do bridesmaids, hostesses or any of that cause I want to wear my own clothes and be on my own time. Also, when I got married I didn’t have a wedding party because I didn’t want to coordinate anybody but me. This, I’m sure, is why our wedding came off on time with little to no drama. Honestly, I don’t get the point to bridesmaids and groomsmen.