I am a 28 year old young man living in the MD/DC area. I am a graduate student and I have a problem with dating/meeting women. I have no baggage and pretty much an all around good dude. I have never had a problem with meeting women, but lately since I went back to graduate school to get my degree, I have not been able to meet women that I am interested in. I go out to the clubs, not that much because of finances, but I still don’t know what I am doing wrong. Can you please help me or at least give me some advice on how to make my situation better?
To me, the best way to meet someone is through mutual friends or join clubs and organizations on campus or at church. I am not too keen on meeting people at the club. (Even though TheDad asked me out for the first time at the club ..but we were meeting through a mutual friend at the club.)
You are close to 30 now and it sounds like you are going through some transition with school and finances..etc….. Sometimes you have to focus on those things and everything else will fall into place.
It all depends on what type of women you’re looking for. Where would these women be? Are you approaching a woman that you see you think may be your type. People may think this is a weird question but I know a lot of dudes that play that she needs to come to me or all shy and will sit there scared of rejection. Then these same dudes wonder why they can’t find a woman. Me and my brother talked about this yesterday in regards to my nephew, when you’re a guy rejection is a way of life. Since you’re the one that will be making the first move 99% of the time, it is what it is but like the lotto, you gotta play to win!
You said you went to graduate school, does that play a roll in this? Just curious because you mentioned it, does that mean you moved to a different city? Or do you feel as though you need a different level of woman now?
BMWK help this guy out with some advice. What would you tell him?
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