Should Women Say “I Love You First”?

Being the father of three daughters I ran across an interesting article on CNN.com a few days back. The subject was, “Why Women Shouldn’t Say I Love You First”. Hmmm, made me think. In the article the author Wendy Atterberry goes on to say:

Unlike asking a man out, making a move on him, or even proposing, there’s no action-based response to the first “I love you.” It’s all words, it’s all emotion. In that moment, he either loves you back or he doesn’t — you only hear the black or white of a ‘yes’ or ‘no,’ not the gray of “Well, I like you a whole lot and I could see myself falling in love with you, but I’m just not quite there yet.”

And the truth is, it often takes men longer to get there than it does for women. Men process their emotions more slowly, they’re usually more cautious about taking their feelings and relationships to the next level.

So what happens if you get there first and you say it and he’s not there yet? What happens when your “I love you” is met with a “thank you,” or worse, a deer-in-headlights look? Well, it stings, sure, but more than that, it can stop a perfectly happy and healthy

Wendy thinks if you feel compelled to tell a man those magical three words you better be prepared to roll. Now you can’t debate with her, injecting I Love You does change the entire dynamic of a relationship. Whether it be for the good or for the bad, lol. Thinking back I might recollect using the old, “Thank You” myself .

Also in general I don’t trust dudes or at least won’t with my daughters so I’d be worried about a guy just going along for the sake of going along, not like that’s never happened before. So I guess I agree with Wendy. Let him step out there, that’s what us men do and I don’t see a problem with it.

For the full article click here…

BMWK, do you think women should say I love you first? Ladies have you ever told a man I love you first? What happened next? Did you ever tell someone that and got a different response than expected?