Super Soulmate – 4 Signs You’ve Met the One

Relationships

by Lamar Tyler | on January 14th, 2009 | 31 comments

We do have a bunch of singles that read the site so today we’re going to throw you a bone . This guest post come courtesy of Gwen Jimmere who blogs about relationships over at The Duck Walk.

Dr Seuss once said, “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

Most folks don’t give the whole “movie-type romance” a lot of weight. Go ahead and toss that idea out the window right now. “Movie-type romances” do exist and they aren’t all that hard to come by. A problem many have is they get frustrated with the dating game and settle for “someone”, rather than “the one”. If you just wait it out a little bit, open your eyes and keep hope and faith alive, your true love won’t be as difficult to find as you think.

“Good Enough” Has Been Replaced by “Great”

It’s easy to have a romance full of obstacles. For instance, the relationship is satisfactory, or “good enough”, but something always seems to keep it from being as “great” as it could be. Perhaps it’s an annoying habit, a nosy parent, an ungrateful demeanor, a stressful job. You know in your heart once “this one” problem is resolved, your “good enough” relationship that is fraught with incessant arguing about that “one” thing, will turn into a “great” one that is drama free.

Alas, relationships don’t work that way. Once the problem has been handled, another one soon pops up. The couple is still unhappy and still living in a “good enough” situation.

What must be understood is that remaining in such a relationship is counterproductive if one is waiting for true love. Getting a raise or a higher paying position may make life financially easier, but as the cliché says: money doesn’t buy happiness. And in this case, it won’t help two people are simply aren’t a good fit for each other.

Who You Are is Impressive

When you can be you, flaws and all, you know you’ve met the one. I know it’s cliché, but like most clichés, it rings true. “The One” great takes pride in your choices and accomplishments. They find you sexy even when you don’t feel so hot. They think you’re funny (in a good way) even when you aren’t trying to crack a joke. You rarely, if ever, have to go out of your way to impress “The One” because being you is impressive enough for them.

Generally, Your Priorities are Similar

Opposites frequently attract, but rarely do they make fabulous long-term relationships. The key to healthy long-term love boils down to compatibility.

Great example: if you can’t wait to be a parent and want to raise a small clan of children, like yesterday, but your partner is adamant about not ever wanting children of their own, it’s clear the two of you are working with vastly different priorities.

On the other hand: If your priorities sync up well, then you two have a much better opportunity for true long-term happiness.

Your Family and Friends Like Him

Many people will say it doesn’t matter what others think. But if the people who love you most are constantly in your ear about how your mate isn’t good for you, that person probably isn’t “The One”. Conversely, if your loved ones trust your significant other to be good to you and encourage the relationship, that’s a very good sign that this one is a keeper.

Of course, as has been my experience, someone may be an awesome person who your friends and family promote heavily, but whom you have no interest in. In that case, following their advice isn’t the best thing.
But if you’re falling for this person and your family and friends are digging him too, you might just have the real deal in on your hands.

But if you’re falling for this person and your family and friends are digging him too, you might just have the real deal in on your hands.

To the married folks in the room. Is this how it was when you met your spouse?

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://stellarsassysocial.blogspot.com elle denise

on-point.. good one!

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http://theyoungmommylife.com Tara Pringle Jefferson

I definitely think it’s true. You need to have similar priorities, definitely. I think it’s a bonus when your family and friends like him, but not necessarily a must. In some situations, family might not like him because he already has kids or doesn’t have a great job or something that isn’t that deep. But if they dislike him because of a serious character flaw, then that’s worth looking into. Make sense? LOL

Tara
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Hey Elle! Noticed your latest blog post. I got the email from Suze about her download a few days ago and got my 2009 Action Plan all printed out, bound, and ready to be read on my way to see Obama in a few days. lol
http://politicalmusic.wordpress.com Political Pete

I’m single and Amen to numba’ four!

lol
Harriet

1-3 were on point, but #4 proved to be the Thrilla in Manila for my husband and I. That poor man got cornered at a table with my mama and three generations of men from her family: my brother, three of my uncles and my grandfather. My daddy would have been there, too, had he been alive.

They didn’t hold out a lot of hope that he was the right one for me…but I married him anyway. I think we got married a tad bit prematurely, but we’ve come through the challenges we faced closer and more in love. We just had to get beyond the philosophy that the success of our relationship was for the sole purpose of “proving them wrong.” We also had to stop sweeping real problems under the carpet because we felt like what we were going through was proving our family right. LOL
nubianloc

Amen to that! Fairy Tale love does happen….Look @ mi….(smile)
Anna

#4 is #1 in my book, it is the deal breaker. Like my dad always said “be nice to the kids and win the mom”. My motto is win over the mother and father -in-law and the rest will follow. LOL. Everyone has that family member/friend with a spouse that no one likes but still shows up at family functions and just their presence can ruin the mood. The question is “are you that family member”? LOL. I don’t obsess/worry about if his family/friends or mine like me/him. It is what it is “our marriage”, but I guess because we are both liked and are night and day ppl see us as examples that what they see works for us and are inspired. The “good enough turns into great” still does not define us. “Good enough means one settled and Great means one is in La La Land/denial. We are what you see and we are that couple that everyone turns to for advice. We don’t know all the answers but feel blessed that anyone cares to take the time to ask us(a boring married couple any questions). The majority of ppl who ask a question already know the answer but are really only looing for “validation” of what they already knew.
http://www.singlemomandmore.com Lisa Maria Carroll

#4 – I know a man isn’t the one for me when I have to hide him from the family. Like I’ve always taught my children, if you have to sneak to do it, then YOU know you’re doing something wrong.

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Marcus

People change man…it’s crazy. Signs are good, but you won’t know the real person until 2 years after you’ve been married. LOL
Anna

Marcus said:
People change man…it’s crazy. Signs are good, but you won’t know the real person until 2 years after you’ve been married. LOL
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Marcus, aren’t you single? LOL. If you only dated for a few months and get married, yes ppl do change. If you have dated for awhile, what you see should be what you get. What is suppose to happen in a marriage is “growth”. If you have been married long enough the “for poorer” may become a challenge, but it’s just something to overcome together and it makes you stronger. The “for richer” does not seem so fun. Sometimes if one is making more they decide they want to contribute less, less in the rearing of the kids and paying more bills. I like my little simple life. We may not be poor but my life is oh so rich.
Nicole

I don’t agree with that family and friends piece. I hate my in-laws with a passion, we don’t get along because they want to be in control of everything. Bottom line is you marry the person, not the entire family and that persons friends. I wish things were different with my in-laws, but regardless my husband and I still have a great marriage.
Evangelist

I orginally felt that I had “the one”, so I married him. Everyone liked it. I settled and married the man I felt was the ideal stepfather for my two sons. But, I didn’t love him, but he loved my boys and whole idea of being a father. My sister was concerned with the issue of not loving him. She said to me what happens when you do meet that person that you fall in love with and because you are married you won’t be able to be with the man that you do actually love. Be careful of what you say or do. Because, “the one” came into my life after marrying the person that I settled for. I should have waited. It is really a horrible situation to be married and in love with another man that isn’t your husband. The most hardest part is that this man loves me too. I am in a triangle. I am married but not happy, because I love someone that is not my husband. I am not having an affair. I am not physically intimate with this man that I love. But I truly regret that I did not wait. Because my husband will be devastated if and when I leave this marriage.
http://www.singlemomandmore.com Lisa Maria Carroll

@Evangelist,

Wow. Thank you for being so candid and transparent. Your situation is the very reason why I’m yet holding on for someone who I love as much as he loves me. Otherwise, why bother?

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Evangelist,

I will pray for your situation. I hope it get better. You may not be physically cheating now, but emotionally cheating is just as deadly. At least you are able to be honest about it . . . Make sure you are not falling for the classic 80/20 rule… people look a lot better when you are not with them . . .
Anna

Nicole said:
I don’t agree with that family and friends piece. I hate my in-laws with a passion, we don’t get along because they want to be in control of everything. Bottom line is you marry the person, not the entire family and that persons friends. I wish things were different with my in-laws, but regardless my husband and I still have a great marriage.
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One of the reasons why I don’t dip into who my kids dating is because kids love to rebel. My daughter dated a man fresh out of jail for drug trafficing. She had already known him and was writing to him while he was locked up. He was a nice man but he had too many unrealistic dreams. She dated another thug/bad boy with no job. nice guy but once again not for her. I met both of these men and they had nothing going for them. I did not dare tell her that because as a parent we fear our kids will run off and get married. My daughter is now engaged to a wonderful man with a few Masters under his belt. My daughter will have her first Masters degree in September and after that they will start making wedding plans. I love my future son-in-law mostly because he loves and respects my daughter. My point is that I do believe that when you marry you do marry the family. I have been with my new hubby for a dozen years, my ex in-laws still call me their sister-in-law and to their kids I am still “auntie Anna. I emphathize with woman who don’t have a rapport with their in-laws. I love hearing stories from my in-laws of how my hubby was as a young boy. Sure my hubby could tell me, but it’s much more meaningful to hear it from his parents. There are only two ppl in a marriage but I can’t think of not sharing the holidays without the in-laws.
Nicole thanks for sharing. I am glad you and your husband have a great marriage despite the circumstances.
http://www.singlemomandmore.com Lisa Maria Carroll

Evangelist,

I just watched Tyler Perry’s new DVD, The Marriage Counselor, and I highly recommend it. My pastor used to say that everything that looks good to you ain’t good for you. This movie hit that nail on the head.

Tip: Don’t underestimate Becky.

Lisa Maria Carrolls last blog post..Kimora Lee Simmons, Djimon Hounsou Expecting a Baby!
http://www.singlemomandmore.com Lisa Maria Carroll

@Anna,

Thanks for sharing that story. I’ve wrecked my brain trying to figure out why my daughters date convicts. If a man doesn’t have a criminal record, they don’t want him. But, I’ve learned to pray about it instead of turning them away from me and pushing them further into the relationship.

Some people will say that it’s because they were raised by a single mother. Well, that’s not the case because my cousin’s daughters are doing the same thing. He pastors a church and is so fed up with his daughters that he has just turned it over to Jesus.

And, like you, I’m talking about college educated young ladies. Some of the women I work with say they did the same thing when they were my daughters’ ages. They had to have the bad boys. I was married with kids when I was their age, so I guess I missed out on that phase of life. My sister started dating inmates while she was at Spelman. And to this day I still think she joined The Nation of Islam so she could them as soon as they get out of jail.

My baby girl is a Criminal Justice major preparing for law school. And she insists on dating her future clients. And my second daughter isn’t any better. But I’m keeping hope alive because my oldest daughter (23) has finally come around and started acting like she has a working brain cell. So I’m praying the other two will cycle through this nonsense soon.

Lisa Maria Carrolls last blog post..Kimora Lee Simmons, Djimon Hounsou Expecting a Baby!
Harriet

Whew! This forum went to the deep end very quickly!

@ Evangelist,

I’m not making a judgment call, but I suspect you have a relationship with Christ that’s beyond a layman in church based on the name you chose to use. I have to co-sign with Lisa about “The Marriage Counselor.” I also have to warn you that you are treading on extremely dangerous ground (co-signing with Pete, who actually used more than one word…hercu-LEES! *inside joke, evangelist. check the “top commentators” thread for more details).

Now, given the fact that you are a leader (evangelist…come on, let’s get it together) doesn’t make you immune to missteps and bad calls. But it DOES make you more accountable than the average Christian. There are people looking up to you, whether you want them to or not, and I’m not saying you need to live your life for others, but I am saying that you need to check the Word out (Proverbs chaptes 4-6 would be a great place to start) to get some more wisdom in terms of this situation.

I question why you would fail to set up proper boundaries with the opposite sex AFTER getting married. I had plenty of male friends before I got married, but they quickly dwindled when I realized that they were potential shoulders to cry on if I was having a problem with my husband. That’s a doggone recipe for disaster. I had to cut those jokers off, no matter how close we were emotionally. It was hard, but for the sake of my marriage, it was necessary.

God asked Job a serious question after hearing Job’s complaints and self-justification. He asked, “Will you condemn Me to justify yourself?”

I think you probably have heard the same thing somewhere along the way between you marrying a good man and committing emotional adultery. Will you say that it was God’s will for you to engage in such confusion (He’s not the author of it) to live a life that you think will make you happy?

Do a self inventory, then check what the Lord says about this situation, evangelist. I think if you’ll be as transparent as you were in your post, your actions will follow the godly path. In the meantime, I’ll be praying for you. That’s a tough position to be in, and I definitely don’t envy you.
Harriet

@ Nicole,

Oh, how I wish it were true that you don’t marry the entire family a person comes from. I praise God you and your hubby have a great marriage…that’s tough to do with your husband’s immediate family hating on you. But somewhere along the way, someone is going to get married, have a crisis, die, whatever, and what you have swept under the carpet in terms of your feelings for your in laws will have to be faced.

It’s not realistic to think that you will automatically get along with them. But I give your husband props for not allowing his immediate family to affect the family you two are developing. That’s a difficult boundary to set up, but it’s necessary. I gotta salute both of you for making that possible.
http://www.hairbraider.info Hairbraider

My mom and dad always tell me to make sure I marry someone that loves God because if he has love for God, he will love you. When both can overlook just beauty on the outside and find that beauty from with-in is a plus.
Anna

Lisa Maria Carroll said:
@Anna,

My baby girl is a Criminal Justice major preparing for law school. And she insists on dating her future clients. And my second daughter isn’t any better. But I’m keeping hope alive because my oldest daughter (23) has finally come around and started acting like she has a working brain cell. So I’m praying the other two will cycle through this.
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I had to laugh when you typed, your baby girl insists on dating her future clients. Our kids do mature. Maybe my daughter got tired of taking her man to company events and the jail inc wasn’t as appealing when co workers gave him the “side eye”. As a parent there are things that we don’t have to tell our kids, their co workers and peers will and we end up not being the bad guy. This insures that our kid will come to us when they break up because we did not dip(they only come to us because they know we won’t say “I told you so”, well only to ourselves).
http://www.singlemomandmore.com Lisa Maria Carroll

@Anna,

I truly believe God is using my children to slay my ego (while He watches over them, of course). I always prayed that God would use them. But, when they graduated from high school with scholarships and were living like “model” citizens, naturally, I gave myself a pat on the back.

But, in rides my ex-husband–aka, babies daddy–who didn’t even attend the graduations. Even though he was absent from everything, understandably, the kids wanted to be around him more. So last year two of them moved to Georgia to live with him, and then they all spent Thanksgiving with his family at his mom’s. What burns me up is how his family, who wasn’t around after we separated, take credit for everything. URGH, that burns me up.

I told you God is slaying my ego daily because, in the end, which matters more, who takes/gets the credit or that my kids are God-fearing contributors to society?

So, even when who my children are appear to be not so impressive, and when they don’t take my dating advice, I know that in the end, God is going to get some glory out of this.

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Anna

Lisa Maria Carroll said:
I always prayed that God would use them. But, when they graduated from high school with scholarships and were living like “model” citizens, naturally, I gave myself a pat on the back.

But, in rides my ex-husband–aka, babies daddy–who didn’t even attend the graduations. Even though he was absent from everything, understandably, the kids wanted to be around him more. So last year two of them moved to Georgia to live with him, and then they all spent Thanksgiving with his family at his mom’s. What burns me up is how his family, who wasn’t around after we separated, take credit for everything. URGH, that burns me up.
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I too have given myself pats on the back for my kids getting scholarships for college and it’s ok for both of us to do that. ). I always prayed that God would use them. But, when they graduated from high school with scholarships and were living like “model” citizens, naturally, I gave myself a pat on the back.

But, in rides my ex-husband–aka, babies daddy–who didn’t even attend the graduations. Even though he was absent from everything, understandably, the kids wanted to be around him more. So last year two of them moved to Georgia to live with him, and then they all spent Thanksgiving with his family at his mom’s. What burns me up is how his family, who wasn’t around after we separated, take credit for everything. URGH, that burns me up.
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It’s ok to give ourselves a pat or two on the back for our kids getting scholarships and staying out of trouble.
I feel you on the ex and/or family taking credit for all the hard work that they did not put in. I have lately been wondering if my daugthers would want their dad or my new husband(my new husband is new to me, but has been in our lives for a decade)to walk them down the aisle. My husband would be so honored at the same time I don’t want their dad to be obligated and man enough to do it becasue they asked but also would not want him to get mad if they don’t.
I would never tell my kids who to pick to walk them down the aisle

I went to a wedding years ago where the bride danced with each of her father’s to the same song. They did not start the song over for each dad but split the song between the two to dance with the daughter they both love. I don’t like to use the word “step”. This woman realized she was truely blessed with two dads and included both in her wedding. If I had my way my daughters would have both dads on either side of her as she walks down the aisle to her awaiting groom.
http://www.singlemomandmore.com Lisa Maria Carroll

Anna said: “If I had my way my daughters would have both dads on either side of her as she walks down the aisle to her awaiting groom.”

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Why can’t they just follow the script that WE’VE written for their lives? It would make their lives so much easier. (Oh, there I go trying to be God in their lives again. Therein lies the problem.)

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I don’t think so because I am Single
Anna

Lisa Maria Carroll said:
Anna said: “If I had my way my daughters would have both dads on either side of her as she walks down the aisle to her awaiting groom.”

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Why can’t they just follow the script that WE’VE written for their lives? It would make their lives so much easier. (Oh, there I go trying to be God in their lives again. Therein lies the problem.)

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LOL. Now if it were that easy what would we have to complain about?
http://www.SingleIndependentSistah.com sistah1

I’m a single who asked a few of my married friends how they knew they’d met “the one.” The consensus was that you’re comfortable being yourself around him, and he loves you even at your worst. I think that’s something worth waiting for; although, society just seems to want singles to be married no matter who they’re headed down the aisle with. Go figure.
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Sweetsoul

I am a 24 year old married mother of two beautiful children. I met my husband in high school @ the age of 16 & he was my 1st everything… I thought that he was my soulmate, but I guess that I was too young to know what a soulmate really was… we had a lot in common, we made each other laugh, & we both had similar goals. To make a long story short… I am currently in a domestic violence shelter with my two kids b/c my husband put his hands around my neck & squeezed it while my 8 month old was in my hand. I didn’t black out or anything (my neck was really sore though) this was the 1st time that things got really physical between the two of us, but it really scared me & it was enough for me to leave. I had been dealing with emotional abuse for a while… I had only been married for a year & 2 months when this incident happened. I have been seperated from my husband for 4 months now… he doesn’t think that he did anything wrong… I am a christian & I know that the Lord doesn’t take divorce lightly. I am fighting myself right now b/c I don’t know what to do… I have learned so much about myself in these 4 months. I met some one else by chance & I feel so complete, we just click on almost every level… because of everything that I have been through & the time frame I am being very careful … even though things are going great with him & I. About #4… my family loved my husband @ 1st, they wanted only the best for us… now my family can’t stand him. They have felt this way for about 2 years or more now. Some of my family meebers didn’t even want me to marry him. My mom, dad, sister, aunts and uncles all say to divorce him b/c my children & I deserve so much better… sorry for the long post, but I just don’t know what to do. I prayed for the Lord to give me a sign if I was supposed to leave him & then this incident happened. This guy & I are just friends… but I already see a future w/ him… please I’ll take all the advice that I can get. Thank u…
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_KY2QA55HW2KT4QSSMCHNXINZ2E Harriet Hairston

Sweetsoul,

If you read above, I left commentary to Evangelist about something or other regarding accountability. While what I wrote above is the textbook, black and white answer that is known to be right, I’ve learned the hard way that in between the lines, LIFE happens.

And this is what has taken place with me. I found myself in a very similar situation to yours, only the abuse didn’t escalate to physical (thank God). Here’s what I’ve learned (not from textbook right/wrong answers, but from experience and survival when the bottom falls out):

1. Abuse hits every aspect of you as a woman. Mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, etc. I’m not saying everyone has the same healing process, but based on where I am right now, I feel very broken in my emotions…very angry…vulnerable, like I’m out in the cold and snow without a coat or a place to go. Not a good place to be emotionally if trying to enter another relationship.

2. Your family is right. You DO deserve better. I’m at the point now where I’m so sick and tired of the textbook answer. I’m tired of people who don’t know everything about my situation telling me to forgive, as if forgiveness and staying in abuse are synonymous. In time, I know I will forgive…but I will not go back to abuse. PERIOD.

3. My situation right now makes me very open and vulnerable to be taken advantage of. Therefore I proceed with caution in EVERYTHING. I don’t want to end up jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Typically women who get married right away after being in abusive relationship go from bad to worse. Don’t let anyone charm you with sweet words and deceit boiling over in their hearts.

Bottom line: I ain’t looking for a hero right now. I need healing in my emotions and mentality. I don’t want to jump into another relationship right away because a man I meet is everything my husband is NOT. I don’t want my choices to be colored by the hurt I suffered as opposed to the future that could be created with another.

For ME (not saying it’s true of you, but I’ve been processing this stuff for a while in my mind, and your comment gave me a perfect opportunity to release it LOL), I need to be whole in all the areas I feel broken in now before I even think about entering another relationship.

Take it for what it’s worth. The comment I left way up there came from a proud, haughty, super-spiritual place. This comment right here comes from the bottom of the barrel…the kind of humility God has the opportunity to develop within a person who has literally been through hell and He brought them out of it.

Hope this helps.
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_KY2QA55HW2KT4QSSMCHNXINZ2E Harriet Hairston

Sweetsoul,

If you read above, I left commentary to Evangelist about something or other regarding accountability. While what I wrote above is the textbook, black and white answer that is known to be right, I’ve learned the hard way that in between the lines, LIFE happens.

And this is what has taken place with me. I found myself in a very similar situation to yours, only the abuse didn’t escalate to physical (thank God). Here’s what I’ve learned (not from textbook right/wrong answers, but from experience and survival when the bottom falls out):

1. Abuse hits every aspect of you as a woman. Mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, etc. I’m not saying everyone has the same healing process, but based on where I am right now, I feel very broken in my emotions…very angry…vulnerable, like I’m out in the cold and snow without a coat or a place to go. Not a good place to be emotionally if trying to enter another relationship.

2. Your family is right. You DO deserve better. I’m at the point now where I’m so sick and tired of the textbook answer. I’m tired of people who don’t know everything about my situation telling me to forgive, as if forgiveness and staying in abuse are synonymous. In time, I know I will forgive…but I will not go back to abuse. PERIOD.

3. My situation right now makes me very open and vulnerable to be taken advantage of. Therefore I proceed with caution in EVERYTHING. I don’t want to end up jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Typically women who get married right away after being in abusive relationship go from bad to worse. Don’t let anyone charm you with sweet words and deceit boiling over in their hearts.

Bottom line: I ain’t looking for a hero right now. I need healing in my emotions and mentality. I don’t want to jump into another relationship right away because a man I meet is everything my husband is NOT. I don’t want my choices to be colored by the hurt I suffered as opposed to the future that could be created with another.

For ME (not saying it’s true of you, but I’ve been processing this stuff for a while in my mind, and your comment gave me a perfect opportunity to release it LOL), I need to be whole in all the areas I feel broken in now before I even think about entering another relationship.

Take it for what it’s worth. The comment I left way up there came from a proud, haughty, super-spiritual place. This comment right here comes from the bottom of the barrel…the kind of humility God has the opportunity to develop within a person who has literally been through hell and He brought them out of it.

Hope this helps.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Karmella-Haynes/3112421 Karmella Haynes

Then it’s official. I’ve never met “The One.”