Married 84 Years and Counting!

Relationships

by Lamar Tyler | on January 22nd, 2009 | 22 comments

My cousing sent me over an article about Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher who recently were added to the Guiness book of world records. Why, because they’ve been married for over 84 years! Now this is realy deal black love at it’s best. Way before Barack and Michelle or Cliff and Clair there was Herbert and Zelmyra.

Check out what the two had to say about each other:

“He was not mean; he was not a fighter,” Zelmrya said. “He was quiet and kind. He was not much to look at but he was sweet.”

Herbert said Zelmyra never gave him any trouble. “No, no trouble at all. We never argued, but we might have disagreed,” he said.

The not much to look at had me cracking up. lol. Through the years they’ve put 5 children through college and maintained a relationship filled with love and God even though they’ve attended different churches the entire time. Check out the full article here. It’s definitely a good read and a great example!

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Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://www.leahmullen.com Leah Mullen

Wow! That is so nice. We need more examples of long lasting relationships…
http://stellarsassysocial.blogspot.com elle denise

Bless ‘em…

LMAO!@ “He was not much to look at but he was sweet.” Gotta love that…

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http://www.singlemomandmore.com Lisa Maria Carroll

I love it. I’ll have to share this with my daughter. She LOVES old people.

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Harriet

Life can still be simple like that if we allow it to be. No arguments, no strife, no drama and complication. Just love, respect, laughter, kindness, and above all, God. We would do well to take notes from the life of this married couple. We can still make them like that if we allow ourselves to.
MissJay

84 years!?!? Goodness! I wonder how old they are? I know in their younger days I think people used to get married as early as like 17 or maybe younger, didn’t they?
King James

Yep, this is awesome. And they repping the GREAT state of NC!!!

<–raised in NC

Brings up ideas…. Anyone gonna beat me up for saying that folks’ choices are so much different now? You have the choice to leave a situation if you want, and it’s on a diff level now.

“Zelmyra said Herbert was the only boyfriend she ever had” – yessir!!

lastly, all I’m saying is… “Who in the h*** chose her wig for the picture?”
http://www.theduckwalk.com TheDuckWalk

omg what a great story! i am guest posting this one!
http://politicalmusic.wordpress.com Political Pete

LOOOLLL Not much to look at! She is keeping it Trill lol

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Anna

MissJay said:
84 years!?!? Goodness! I wonder how old they are? I know in their younger days I think people used to get married as early as like 17 or maybe younger, didn’t they?
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I don’t know what Country it was, but an 8 yr. old filed for divorce from her husband. Wow.
Anna

King James said:
lastly, all I’m saying is… “Who in the h*** chose her wig for the picture?”
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You know you were wrong for that right. LOL.
Anna

Harriet said:
Life can still be simple like that if we allow it to be. No arguments, no strife, no drama and complication. Just love, respect, laughter, kindness, and above all, God. We would do well to take notes from the life of this married couple. We can still make them like that if we allow ourselves to.
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Life is as simple as one makes it. The problem is that so many try to keep up with the “Jones’” that they forget to take time to appreciate their surroundings.
Anna

Lisa Maria Carroll said:
I love it. I’ll have to share this with my daughter. She LOVES old people.
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I call it an amazing gift that my kids have such patience for both kids and their elders. Our older generation have so much wisdom and so many stories to share and when I look in my kids eyes and see their enthusiam as they listen to the stories be told by someone who has seen it all and lived through such great odds, it just melts me. My oldest daughter works in a nursing home while finishing up her last few months of college. My youngest volunteers with disadvantaged youths.
http://www.cisterspeak.com CS

How beautiful. This is a true example of how real love is supposed to be…one in which the ‘honeymoon phase’ never ends.

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http://www.makesmewannaholler.com E. Payne

Beautiful! My folks are approaching 50. It can be done.

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http://www.myhouseboutique.typepad.com Crafty Mama

It really is sweet to see. It give me hope even when my husband leaves his socks everywhere…

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http://marriage-zone.com Marriage Zone

Truly a blessing & inspiration for us (black) couples! We all need to stick together to inspire and support each other. All it takes is two at a time.

Love the site & keep up the good work!

The Davenports

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http://brianandtrula.com Trula

Awwwww! This is very sweet

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http://joeblessing.wordpress.com joe blessing

I would love to send this to my ex…but I dare not.

it’s a shame we never heard about this on the news.

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http://hubpages.com/profile/bkcreative Carolyn

Such a nice true story – they are so comfortable with each other – a true partnership!

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ladyb

that’s a long time, but when it’s real love you can see past a lot of things.
jamjam

This is about love not “black” love. People gotta stop catergorizing themselves. This couple has been married (not living together) but married for 84years. Longevity is longevity, there is no black longevity. Also, stop waiting for something good to happen to have to “inspire” us. What we all can learn from this couple is that they along the way agreed to be themselves and both agree to respect their differences(i.e. agreeing to go to different churches). The main reason why relationships don’t last is that people are quick to split when they don’t get their way and don’t want to compromise. Its cool they could throw smart-ass comments back at each other and not care because they literally have lived through it all. They made it through “Great Depression”, civil rights movement and so forth. Women gotta stop expecting a marriage like they see on tv or basing their ideal man on some celeb. Life is not tv and tv is not life. That being said through 84years I know they went through more than any of us will ever know so much respect. I like the fact that the woman never caused the man any problems lol.
Gary Iverson

They should write a book.

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