Jet Magazine: Steve Harvey Gives Women the Scoop on Men in New Book

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by Lamar Tyler | on January 8th, 2009 | 22 comments

I actually think a lot of what Harvey says on the show regarding men and women is true when he’s not on joke time. The book may be worth checking out. For the readers in the house, if you pick it up please send us a review with your thoughts.

Comedian and nationally syndicated radio host Steve Harvey says he’s putting all jokes aside and sending out a serious message to women looking for a man. Slated to hit bookstores Jan. 27, his first book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment, has already received an early buzz.

“This book is not funny,” he declares. “I am not telling jokes. This is very serious. Women and relationships are not funny. Women want and need serious information. I want to empower women with a lot of knowledge on how we men think about a lot of subjects.”

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Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

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Nicole Thursday - 08 / 01 / 2009 Reply

Um hasn't he been married like 3x, and I heard that he was already messing with his 3rd wife while he was still married to his 2nd. I'm sorry but he can't tell me anything. People need to seek PROFESSIONAL help if they want good solid advice. Not some comedian that's trying to make some money to take care of his 7 children.
Harriet Thursday - 08 / 01 / 2009 Reply

@ Nicole, Given that information, I guess he would be better suited to telling a sister what NOT to do. LOL
T. Rogers Thursday - 08 / 01 / 2009 Reply

@Nicole, I was thinking something similar. Who knows, Steve could really have some good advice. Its just people need to be very careful who they go to for advice. There are a lot of people with microphones if front of their lips. Just because they have a mic does not mean we should take everything they say to heart.
DJ Nelson Friday - 09 / 01 / 2009 Reply

When seeking advice, consider the source. That's all I have to say about that.
Anna Friday - 09 / 01 / 2009 Reply

I am laughing at the above comments. The cover reads "Act like a Lady think like a man". As if we women have not already realized that already. I use to think this dude was cool. For me that changed when he was on CNN talking about the passing of Bernie Mac. There are ppl in your life that you will visit in the hospital come hell or high water and besides the fact that I will not be buying the book that is all I have to say.
Pam Saturday - 10 / 01 / 2009 Reply

I hear everything you all are saying, but I'd just like to hear what he's saying also. I'm not using it to make any final decisions or anything, but I like to hear all sides before I make my final decision.
TheMom Saturday - 10 / 01 / 2009 Reply

He might have some good things to say. He's been through several bad relationships..so he should have some tips for us. TheMoms last blog post..Voletta Wallace (Biggie’s Mom) Interview With Essence
Political Pete Sunday - 11 / 01 / 2009 Reply

Nicole, You hit it right on the head. Entertainers, that target the black market understand that there is a huge lucrative segment: Black Single Women. This is why Michael Baisden, Tyler Perry, make so much money. Books like this does little to alleviate personal issues with men and women. If you want one old playa's take on tricks from other men . . . then please indulge. Political Petes last blog post..Israel’s Bully Pulpit: A Litmus Test for Members of Congress
CoolC Wednesday - 21 / 01 / 2009 Reply

Steve's a funny guy...but he wouldn't be my first source for advice on my relationships. Now,Dr. Ronn Elmore is the truth!! He’s a psychologist, relationship therapist and a best selling author of books like... “No-nonsense Dating”, “How to Love a Black Man”, “How to Love a Black Woman”, “Outrageous Commitment” and some others. He's got a tour going out this year too called “The Relationship Revival Tour” AND my man has been married to his wife for like 25 years! www.drronn.com
Harriet Wednesday - 21 / 01 / 2009 Reply

@ Cool C, I've read all those books, and I have to agree with you! Dr. Greg Smalley is another great relationships author (The Five Love Languages).
Judy Johnson Thursday - 22 / 01 / 2009 Reply

Dear Steve: Thank you for being you. I listen almost every morning to your show. I love you because, you keep it real. I am a single devoiced, with 2 kids. One 21, and One 17. I have been single since the 17 year old was 8 months, in which the father walked away. To this day, he can't give not one word as to why, and If I ask he would ack like the incredible Hawk! Did not run around. Was always trying to be the perfect wife, had some jealous sister-in-laws. He just seperated from wife #2 and told me after 17 years, our divorced was a mistake. but #2 was a mistake. I have not found not one guy I would have liked to bring how to my kids. They fell too short. No job, no car, no conversation, sex too soon you name it I have seen it. So, after reading some of the comments, I think it is very ignortant to speak against your new book. You have impowered or okayed what I've thought all along. Men and women of this world, there is nothing worth selling your Soul's. God is too awesome and blessing, too much to play with him. There are only two system. The World or God's. Steve has found God, and I hear him speakes through Steve all of the time. My point is L.I.S.T.E.N!. He is older and Wiser!
Crys Tuesday - 27 / 01 / 2009 Reply

I think Steve is cool.Just because someone has been through 3 marriages does not change his knowledge on how men think. I think some people are missing the point of the book. The book is not about seeking relationships but it gives women the perspective on how men really think. Men and women are totally different from each other in the way that they think. I think people need to give the book a chance and stop judging him based on some of his failed relationships. Everyone fails at something but that doesn't mean that we don't have the knowledge or wisdom to advise someone in keeping from makiing the same mistakes.
Alexa Thursday - 29 / 01 / 2009 Reply

I'm halfway through his book and it really surprised me in a GOOD way! I thought it was going to have a comedic twist but there was nothing funny about it. The book is insightful and informative and I LOVE what I've read so far...Like Shavon says...he's a 52 year old man with a lot of life experience...we should listen!
msgotherown Wednesday - 04 / 02 / 2009 Reply

I listen to steve harvey's morning show regularly and everything he speaks is the truth. As a modern woman I believe that we as black women sell ourselves too short. We have unreal expectations or none at all.I intend to break that cycle that has surrounded my relationships. I always love to get male perspectives on their behaviors. This book from steve I know will be great it will answer a lot of questions we as women may have before our heart are broken. So at end of a messy situation I don't have to say what happened, did I give in to soon, lose myself too soon or did I allow myself to be played. When criticizing steves past relationships consider your own histories. Just because a relationship didn't work does that make either party wrong. I think black women just tend to be bitter and pig headed. Steve has probably had more interctions with women sex and lies than any doctor being in the entertainment industry. All of you guys give advice to your friends and still after having no professional degree in counseling, on top of that probably have had numerous failed relaionships, being getting your behinds beat and etc. If you have never been through anything that when its hard to me to completely trust your opinion. I suggest the real women who are tired of getting suckered by these wolf in sheep clothing read it. If you are searchingg for a mate and hitting brick wall what will reading book hurt. Steve I love your grittty advice not sugarcoating things with these women I will continue to listen. I wish you dedicate on whole day a week to relationship advice and remember haters make us better.
Msoptimystik Wednesday - 18 / 02 / 2009 Reply

I have yet to read the book, however I have read excerpts depicting the basic theories. I then, as a 29 year old divorced single mother, used those tips in my current relationship. I have thus far found the tips to be proven true and accurate, especially when the two individuals involved are "damaged goods". As far as Steve's ability to give advice... who better to advise than one who has fallen and risen again to the challenge. Kirk Franklin sang it "Get back up again", and Steve is giving instruction on how do such based on his experience as life as a man whom has fallen yet got back up again. Despite the mixed reviews and responses, I feel that the book is very truthful and fun to watch it work if applied appropriately to your situation. Always remember this book is a collection of suggestions and you can always use your own mind to either take it or leave it, but whatever your choice do with joy and happiness.
DJ Thursday - 05 / 03 / 2009 Reply

Let's give Steve the benefit. I heard him on the Oprah Winfrey show and it was very informative. I am married w/young adults. I believe the book has a message for the younger ladies. What I see and hear in my professional life is appalling. The younger ladies have lost self respect for themselves and there style of dress if awful. If you want a man to respect you, you must first respect yourself. In-order for them to do this is to get there minds out of the gutter and stop sleeping with every Tom, Dick & Harry and having all the innocent children who don't even know there daddy. Ladies wake up and take pride in yourself and be the best you can be for yourself and your family.
young Wednesday - 18 / 03 / 2009 Reply

Thank you DJ Let’s give Steve the benefit. This book is not for everbody, but some women young and old need to read it, how many times have we said "If only we knew what we know thing cound have been diffice". the bottom line is that some women get it, and some women don't this book can relly help the woman who don't
KJ Friday - 20 / 03 / 2009 Reply

I have read several self help books and nothing compares to this. EVERY WOMAN IN A RELATIONSHIP (OR LOOKING FOR ONE) NEEDS TO READ THIS BOOK!!!!!!!! Would you rather read a book from a therapist who has never been married but went to school for a long time or someone who has been married and failed and figured out what went wrong. It doesnt matter what race you are something in this book will help you! I could see every woman in my life (mom,sister,friends) in every situation he described. I bought it and made so many of my friends read it. Please have an open mind and get the book!
CHASTITY Monday - 23 / 03 / 2009 Reply

I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY MANY PEOPLE HAVE NEGATIVE THINGS TO SAY ABOUT MR. STEVE HARVEY;HOWEVER WHO ARE WE TO CAST STONES AT HIM. IF ALL OF US TAKE TIME TO LOOK THROUGH OUR ON CLOSET WE COULD FIND MANY BONES, DIVORCE,ADULTERY, AND THE LIST GOES ON. I FEEL THAT WHAT MR. HARVEY HAD TO SAY IN HIS BOOK WAS GOOD INFORMATION. IF I WOULD HAVE HAD BASIC INFORMATION LIKE THAT IN MY TEENS AND TWENTIES I FEEL I COULD HAVE AVOIDED ALOT OF MISTAKES WHEN IT CAME TO DATING. AFTER READING THE BOOK ALOT OF WHAT MR. HARVEY HAD TO SAY I ALREADY PRACTICE AND I THINK THAT IT IS TRUE WHAT HE IS SAYING. AS LADIES IF WE WOULD GET OUR PRIORTIES IN ORDER WE AS WELL WOULD NOT GO THROUGH SOME OF THE BAD RELATIONSHIPS THAT WE ENCOUNTER. MR. HARVEY, I WOULD SAY I APPRECIATE THE KNOWLEDGE THAT YOU PLACED OUT THERE AND I FEEL THAT GOD HAS ALSO GIVEN YOU WISDOM REGARDING THE TOPIC THAT YOU SPOKE ON. WISDOM COMES FROM GOD AND THROUGH THE YEARS OF LISTENING TO MR. HARVEY I CAN SEE THAT GOD IS IN HIS LIFE.
michael Sunday - 29 / 03 / 2009 Reply

The people who discount the book because of who wrote it. maybe walks by or passes up more than 100 pennies a day. When a so call professional write a book on the MAN! WOMAN! debate. They go to people who to ask, observe and study. Then compile the data. Not to nock objectivity, but I just think that somethings get lost in translation. I saw Steve on the Oprah & Tyra shows, this was the first I'd herd of the book, I think he said that he has a daughter. That type of knowledge is what we all want to pass on to our kids. This book could be one of the tools use in the basis of conversation with our teens. Kids see how we operate in our relationships.
jess Monday - 30 / 03 / 2009 Reply

though i have not doubt mr. harvey has plenty to say about relationships, it bothers me when he keeps saying he's an expert on men. granted, he knows himself and the men he surrounds himself with; however, that in and of itself is not a barometer that says he is an expert on how the male mind works. sure he may make a lot of valid observations but i always thought that part of this relational problem was due to women looking at every man in the same way. i think in some ways harvey is perpetuating this issue.
michael Tuesday - 31 / 03 / 2009 Reply

I could not label him as an expert, but if he's got answers from men of all type, which thru his travels may be possible. Relating his own life to his observations and putting it in a book. I think that is like when your father, grandfather or uncle giving advice a young female family member. He just put it in black & white. When we talk amongst ourselves, the idea of our young ones putting advice to use is not perpetuating.