Comments on: Thinking of a Master (Relationship) Plan http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/02/03/thinking-of-a-master-relationship-plan Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 21:09:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: kreed http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/02/03/thinking-of-a-master-relationship-plan/comment-page-1#comment-11165 kreed Fri, 20 Feb 2009 16:17:26 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3211#comment-11165 I think the most important thing missing here is communication. You need to spell out what your expectations are for communication: how you talk and how you best receive communication. That's huge. Moreover, I think just about anything should be fair game for a relationship "plan". If it's something you need to make things work, write it down. I think the most important thing missing here is communication. You need to spell out what your expectations are for communication: how you talk and how you best receive communication. That’s huge.

Moreover, I think just about anything should be fair game for a relationship “plan”. If it’s something you need to make things work, write it down.

]]> By: MissJay http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/02/03/thinking-of-a-master-relationship-plan/comment-page-1#comment-10531 MissJay Wed, 04 Feb 2009 17:47:12 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3211#comment-10531 @Thomas I LOVE your #5. I don't like to see when parents differ in limits with their children. It makes it too easy for the child to play the parents against eachother. I've seen it happen plenty of timee. No personal experience because my parents were on the same page. The closest I would have came to was "go ask your mother/father". A lot of times I got "what did your mother/father say?". @Thomas

I LOVE your #5. I don’t like to see when parents differ in limits with their children. It makes it too easy for the child to play the parents against eachother. I’ve seen it happen plenty of timee. No personal experience because my parents were on the same page. The closest I would have came to was “go ask your mother/father”. A lot of times I got “what did your mother/father say?”.

]]> By: Rites Inc. http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/02/03/thinking-of-a-master-relationship-plan/comment-page-1#comment-10519 Rites Inc. Wed, 04 Feb 2009 04:27:17 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3211#comment-10519 Great post. I would add the following to the list: 1. Taking care of elderly family members; is it okay for granny to move in? 2. Careers; we will change jobs several times in our lives; is your spouse willing to stick with theirs to allow your to pursue something different? 3. Family's health history. 4. Love-making habits; you may not like what she likes--find out up front. 5. Discipline; parents must always stand as one in front of the kids; no ifs, ands, or buts. Thomas Great post. I would add the following to the list:
1. Taking care of elderly family members; is it okay for granny to move in?
2. Careers; we will change jobs several times in our lives; is your spouse willing to stick with theirs to allow your to pursue something different?
3. Family’s health history.
4. Love-making habits; you may not like what she likes–find out up front.
5. Discipline; parents must always stand as one in front of the kids; no ifs, ands, or buts.

Thomas

]]> By: kim h20s http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/02/03/thinking-of-a-master-relationship-plan/comment-page-1#comment-10497 kim h20s Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:53:50 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3211#comment-10497 6) Activities as a Couple. How much time do you realistically want /expect to spent with your spouse? Is it acceptable for one of you to go off on vacation alone or with the girls? How about a boys night every week? Is it okay for your spouse to hit the club without you? i would add that you need to not only talk about credit scores, but your future financial plans. how would you feel if you've been a good saver investing in your 401k and retirement only to find out that your spouse hasn't been? 6) Activities as a Couple. How much time do you realistically want /expect to spent with your spouse? Is it acceptable for one of you to go off on vacation alone or with the girls? How about a boys night every week? Is it okay for your spouse to hit the club without you?

i would add that you need to not only talk about credit scores, but your future financial plans. how would you feel if you’ve been a good saver investing in your 401k and retirement only to find out that your spouse hasn’t been?

]]> By: LaKeysha http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/02/03/thinking-of-a-master-relationship-plan/comment-page-1#comment-10496 LaKeysha Tue, 03 Feb 2009 14:53:58 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3211#comment-10496 5. Friends-(of the opposite sex) Outlining your expectations and guidelines for this can be important. What are the parameters of opposite sex friendships if you agree that they are ok? (i.e. taking on the phone, acceptable activities, visiting their home etc.). Do you expect pre-marital friendships to cease or be restricted? What about Ex's? 5. Friends-(of the opposite sex) Outlining your expectations and guidelines for this can be important. What are the parameters of opposite sex friendships if you agree that they are ok? (i.e. taking on the phone, acceptable activities, visiting their home etc.). Do you expect pre-marital friendships to cease or be restricted? What about Ex’s?

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