Cheating Discreetly?
Recently while reading a popular magazine, I had to do a double take with some of the words I saw in one of the articles. The purpose of the article was to inform married people that there were networks and websites that supported them during their marriage trials. Trials like infidelity. That I understood. There were sites that supported the women who had endured the betrayal. Also networks for couples who both wanted to work on repairing the damage caused by infidelity. But the one, the one that really almost knocked me off of my chair was the site that encouraged infidelity. Yes! I know you must be as stunned as I was. I am not even going to mention the site for obvious reasons. I don’t want to support it and I don’t want to give anyone ideas or be the cause of someone damaging their relationship. (Just in case the reasons weren’t all that obvious).
This site, I guess you could say, is somewhat of a dating site, the only catch, you have to be married or in a serious relationship. Honestly, you have to actually want to cheat on someone. Its main mission is to help you cheat discreetly. In fact their slogan justifies having an affair because life is just too short. Saying I was disgusted is an understatement. I can’t even properly put into words the thoughts that ran through my mind. And maybe I am so appalled because of all the work I do to help keep couples together. I am on the other end of the spectrum from this network. So, it blows my mind to know that people, networks and some companies exist to help you destroy your marriage. And I know all relationships don’t end because of infidelity, but why add it to your marriage? I am not sure how long this particular site has been in existence, maybe I’ve been living under a rock and there are tons of these organizations all around. I pray there are not. But this type of network being available at all makes me want to really galvanize all of us who truly care about our marriages into fighting and pushing even harder to make it clear that we don’t have to cheat. And if we can’t just be with one person, I know some of us can’t, then we don’t have to get married at all. It is okay to be single and have our fun. But once we make that decision to marry, we must, must, must take it seriously. I have the urge to start an online campaign to shut this site down. But I realize we are grown and we have to make our own choices. I hope we consider what we stand to lose and that that thought encourages us to always make the right choice for our marriage.
By Tiya Cunningham-Sumter, Certified Relationship Coach, Founder of Life Editing, Creator of the Black Wives’ Club and an Administrator of Still Dating My Spouse.
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