Having a Relationship Plan: Pregnancy

I think that Kerry was wrong for deceiving, even if he is her husband. It would have been better had she just husband till he said yes! lol

My fiance and have been talking. We both agreed maybe two years into the marriage. But now hes “kid talking” and we aren’t even married yet. I think he feels secretly pressured since hes the only one of his friends that doesn’t have a child yet.

I am current in the situation above BUT…the roles are switched. My boy-friend wants to start a family but I’m not ready…WE’RE not ready. I am on birth control (which I take FAITHFULLY!)I feel he doesn’t understand the responsibility that comes with a child and or starting a family. We’re not in a position to raise a child. He has no job therefore he has NO INCOME and lives with his aunt. Which would leave me to support our…this family of his. NEGATIVE. We are not in a position to raise a child. Children aren’t cheap and he doesn’t understand that. There is NO WAY I can’ support a family on my income alone. Bottles, Car seats, strollers, diapers, milk formula, baby crib, clothers, Doctor visits, hospital bills, toys, diaper wipes etc… on top of rent, cell phone bill, car notes, car insurance, gas…ABSOLUTELY NO WAY can I make it on my own!

our situation was unique…my system doesn’t agree with any kind of birth control, and since we are married, i opted not to use condoms (it’s so much better without them).

we opted to use the “pull out method,” which worked until i was gone a couple of days and came back home to a horny husband that couldn’t control himself (nor could i, to be honest).

hence we were pregnant 5 months into our marriage. but three years and some change have passed, and the same method has worked famously for us since our son was born.

however, i realize i’m going to have to get the tubes tied after the next baby if i don’t want to be raising oh, say, 14 kids by the time i’m 40 years old. LOL

our situation is rather unique, though.

the loving is not a problem…and right about now, we want baby #2 to come along. after having her (or him), i’ll consider the new iud as opposed to tubal ligation…i just don’t know about the long term effects. heard too many horror stories to be completely comfortable with it.

i’m glad it works for you, though.

sounds like a plan, tara

i’ll shoot an e-mail from that message you sent updating your blog with us.

Yeah that egg factory liquidation sale analogy was funny!!

@Jonsei – Yeah, we had used that “method” for about 11 months successfully before we had baby #1. Had baby #2 after using it successfully for another 11 months. Something about my body won’t let us outsmart it for an entire year. LOL. I know my eggs were like, “Who do they think they are? We’ll get ‘em next time….” I didn’t even ATTEMPT to go with that method after baby #2. I waited my six weeks, got the IUD inserted, and then waited an ADDITIONAL month just to make sure that sucker was working. LOL. I told you, times are rough and layoffs have hit my uterus too…

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The wife in the movie was wrong, but it takes two to get pregnant and I think that if you don’t want kids that both should take precautions . Never let a decision like that be made for you by not protecting your own body, that goes for men and women.