Video of Steve Harvey: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

Relationships

by Lamar Tyler | on March 6th, 2009 | 8 comments

Since it stirs up so much conversation and raw emotion I couldn’t resist more from Steve Harvey’s book. This time we have video courtesy of Hello Beautiful where some of our work gets syndicated.

Here is the deal. Go here to see the video then come back and comment. Here are the comment rules:

If you think something he said was true explain.

If you don’t think it’s true tell us why and because it’s Steve Harvey or because he’s been divorced is not acceptable. We’re talking about the message not the messenger.

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

Sasha

Is that really true??? That you created terms like “gold digging” and “running you off,” and “nagging” so that women will get nothing out of a relationship and men can have everything they want? I really don’t want to believe that…it makes me very sad.
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Anna

Sasha said:
Is that really true??? That you created terms like “gold digging” and “running you off,” and “nagging” so that women will get nothing out of a relationship and men can have everything they want? I really don’t want to believe that…it makes me very sad.
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That’s just it, it’s created which equals a cop out.
Lynn

Steve is 100% right on all of it! We as women may not like what we hear, but do we want the truth or do we want to like it? Sometimes you can’t have both. I’m married & remember in this same relationship going through what Steve talks about (the no title before my name) before we got married, but after having a child when I did have a title, before breaking up & being played.
When I decided enough was enough & backed off, made myself unavailable even if I had nothing to do but sit and tap my nails, I refused to date him, see him for anymore than the 15 seconds it took to pick up our daughter or drop her back off for visits, no phone talk other than about our child & when the conversation tried to steer off course, I had to go do…whatever & got off the phone.
After awhile of this, he came correct BUT I still didn’t jump right in. Even after the engagement ring, I didn’t rush to the altar. The string that had me strung before was made longer by ME & it took another year and a half (purposely) that had him saying when is your title going to be MY WIFE?!?!
20 years and 4 kids later, I still know how to play the game so it’s still done with respect and refuse to let him get “comfortable” with me.
Ladies stop telling your man everything. Before marriage I was so open he could tell the time of day by what I was doing so he would know where NOT to be. Do you want the ring & respect or do you want to keep listeing (and complaining) to your girlfriends (who probably don’t have a man either or at least not a good one!?!?
Rhonda

The first thing women need to do is get over being upset they can’t have it the way they want it, THEN listen to Steve. If you want to know about a man, ask a man, not your girls. If you have any male friends or hell even a co-worker that you’re cool with, ask him, he’ll tell you because they love to think they know everything anyway (as long as he’d not hitting on your or you’re trying to get him).
We give away waaaaaay too much info. Men don’t even have to try because we tell them everything.
In the movie 2 Can Play that Game with Vivica Fox & Morris Chestnut, she was just about on target or Boomerang, Watch Robin Givens. If you behave like men do, they will freak out & can’t take it.
Look for Mr. Right not Mr. Right Now.
http://awomans-worth.blogspot.com Arlice Nichole

This book is excellent!

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http://www.mcbeamon.com Nika C.Beamon

I like the directness in Mr. Harvey’s book in terms of dating but it’s missing a very important point: If you are not happy with your life and don’t love yourself with or without a man, you are likely to forget the “rules” when Mr. good enough comes along.

My forthcoming book, I Didn’t Work This Hard Just to Get Married: Successful, Single Women Speak Out due out on May 1, 2009 and available for pre-order now on amazon.com is the perfect companion book. Women can hear from other single women about the traps they fell into and how they’ve learned to excel in life until or unless they find the “right” person.
Juliet Mangoale

I think Steve’s is a good read. I am still in my early 20′s and when it comes to men , i never get it right. I have learned so much from his book. Good work!!