Comments on: Daddy Swagger http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 07:03:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: mochazina http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-30399 mochazina Wed, 06 Oct 2010 00:07:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-30399 Ok, so my RibDonor has DaddySwagger for days! He is a testimony of the power of God over unfortunate circumstances. Circumstances where as the eldest boy in a set of 5 kids, he had to take over as a father figure to the rest before the age of 10. Circumstances where his 2nd cousin (born to his first cousin when he and she were both in 10th grade, and whose biological father is VERY present in her life) looks to him as a second dad (so much so that when he told her we were expecting, she became jealous for real). Man, I can't (well I can) wait to see him with ours! :-D Ok, so my RibDonor has DaddySwagger for days! He is a testimony of the power of God over unfortunate circumstances. Circumstances where as the eldest boy in a set of 5 kids, he had to take over as a father figure to the rest before the age of 10. Circumstances where his 2nd cousin (born to his first cousin when he and she were both in 10th grade, and whose biological father is VERY present in her life) looks to him as a second dad (so much so that when he told her we were expecting, she became jealous for real).
Man, I can’t (well I can) wait to see him with ours! :-D

]]> By: mochazina http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-30398 mochazina Tue, 05 Oct 2010 23:53:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-30398 WOOOOO-HOOO!!! your wife is blessed, dude! :-D WOOOOO-HOOO!!! your wife is blessed, dude! :-D

]]> By: Wayne http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-30397 Wayne Tue, 05 Oct 2010 22:10:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-30397 I will tell you all what swagger is. In my case, life does not afford me to be, or even look like like 'who-did-it-and-ran'. My life is FULL of presumptions. When my kids were younger, and I walked into a restaurant(I have 13 kids), everybody looks as they wonder if it is a school or church outing. So you ask...how do you have swagg with 13 kids in tow? Well swagger I believe is a socio-functional type of 'class' that sets one apart from the rest. When you have 9 daughters and 4 sons...and everyone is dressed very nicely(thanks to a high end retail chain we started long before the kids)...and the children are tremendously good...then you become the center of attention. Then everyone pays attention to the father...and the questions start coming...along with the handshakes and amazement..."are they all yours"? or "I just wanna shake your hand at the beautiful job you are doing as a father".....or the one question the entire restaurant asks..."If you don't mind me asking, what do you do"? As a father, if you are well groomed...well dressed...and not stressed, it shows to everyone you come in contact with. I have NEVER been stressed due to a large family, or wanted 'time off'...I came from a large family myself. Most would think that I am not supposed to have swagger...or with sooo many kids its impossible to have swagger. I am also an Ivy League graduate...and very successful in business...so regardless of weather or not anyone thinks that I am not supposed to have swagger...I have it...weather I am running from classroom to classroom at P.T.A. meetings for my 12 that are still in school...or on the beach in the summertime with the family...I still have it. I just lost 60 pounds(back down to 195) over the last 6 months...and I feel better than ever! Maintain a healthy diet...a good outward appearance...and first on the list, a close friendship with God...and you can have your swagger. I will tell you all what swagger is. In my case, life does not afford me to be, or even look like like ‘who-did-it-and-ran’. My life is FULL of presumptions. When my kids were younger, and I walked into a restaurant(I have 13 kids), everybody looks as they wonder if it is a school or church outing. So you ask…how do you have swagg with 13 kids in tow? Well swagger I believe is a socio-functional type of ‘class’ that sets one apart from the rest. When you have 9 daughters and 4 sons…and everyone is dressed very nicely(thanks to a high end retail chain we started long before the kids)…and the children are tremendously good…then you become the center of attention. Then everyone pays attention to the father…and the questions start coming…along with the handshakes and amazement…”are they all yours”? or “I just wanna shake your hand at the beautiful job you are doing as a father”…..or the one question the entire restaurant asks…”If you don’t mind me asking, what do you do”? As a father, if you are well groomed…well dressed…and not stressed, it shows to everyone you come in contact with. I have NEVER been stressed due to a large family, or wanted ‘time off’…I came from a large family myself. Most would think that I am not supposed to have swagger…or with sooo many kids its impossible to have swagger. I am also an Ivy League graduate…and very successful in business…so regardless of weather or not anyone thinks that I am not supposed to have swagger…I have it…weather I am running from classroom to classroom at P.T.A. meetings for my 12 that are still in school…or on the beach in the summertime with the family…I still have it. I just lost 60 pounds(back down to 195) over the last 6 months…and I feel better than ever! Maintain a healthy diet…a good outward appearance…and first on the list, a close friendship with God…and you can have your swagger.

]]> By: Mack http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-13452 Mack Thu, 23 Apr 2009 18:51:08 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-13452 I've gotta admit...there are many sites and articles about the mothers that raise their kids. They are great. But there a very few that talk about what the dad does. "Swagger"...Do I have swagger?? If swagger means I spend time with my daughters, teach them the way a man is suppose to actually treat a woman, show them that they are precious and to let any man mistreat them, teach them that can be strong as women and do for themselves... just to name a few... then yes, I have swagger. So for all of the dad out there that are real dad and put in the time and effort... I salute you! "Nobody has Swagger like us!" I’ve gotta admit…there are many sites and articles about the mothers that raise their kids. They are great. But there a very few that talk about what the dad does.
“Swagger”…Do I have swagger?? If swagger means I spend time with my daughters, teach them the way a man is suppose to actually treat a woman, show them that they are precious and to let any man mistreat them, teach them that can be strong as women and do for themselves… just to name a few… then yes, I have swagger. So for all of the dad out there that are real dad and put in the time and effort… I salute you! “Nobody has Swagger like us!”

]]> By: Ronnie http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-12039 Ronnie Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:25:37 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-12039 Lamar has the ultimate Daddy Swagger. He loves his kids to death and he is such a confident and loving father. I love this post! <abbr><em>Ronnies last blog post..<a href="http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/02/24/do-you-sleep-beside-your-baby-is-it-safe/" rel="nofollow">Do You Sleep Beside Your Baby? Is It Safe?</a></abbr></em> Lamar has the ultimate Daddy Swagger. He loves his kids to death and he is such a confident and loving father.

I love this post!

Ronnies last blog post..Do You Sleep Beside Your Baby? Is It Safe?

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-12025 Anna Wed, 11 Mar 2009 01:11:15 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-12025 I love the comments. To swag is like "I am not trying, this is me". The word is used so often that I thought to swagger was to wear expensive clothes and drive expensive cars and I don't fall for that. I have always thought that a man who does not wear a suit to work can be just as immpressive as a man who does. It's not what you wear because if you have the swagger it will always wear you. Swagger is a new word and I just always considered it being confident and doing what you do to take care of your job, home and in general "your business". I love the comments. To swag is like “I am not trying, this is me”. The word is used so often that I thought to swagger was to wear expensive clothes and drive expensive cars and I don’t fall for that. I have always thought that a man who does not wear a suit to work can be just as immpressive as a man who does. It’s not what you wear because if you have the swagger it will always wear you. Swagger is a new word and I just always considered it being confident and doing what you do to take care of your job, home and in general “your business”.

]]> By: CartersMom http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-12009 CartersMom Tue, 10 Mar 2009 17:43:41 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-12009 I personnaly think that any man that chooses to be a part of their children's life has swagger. I am more happy and excited to see my husband play, communicate and educate our son, it really attracts me more to him. I know society in general don't give men (the good one's) enough credit where they are concerned because there are so many fathers or I should say sperm donors that don't give a flying crap about their children. I for one love my husbands swag, he is doing an excellent job, providing, teaching, disciplining and maintaining a positive attitude towards our son. This is a moment that mothers should all, give our husbands the credit they deserve and if they want to show off their swag, let them. We always get credit for being a good mother but, men are expected to just be the providers. I personnaly think that any man that chooses to be a part of their children’s life has swagger. I am more happy and excited to see my husband play, communicate and educate our son, it really attracts me more to him. I know society in general don’t give men (the good one’s) enough credit where they are concerned because there are so many fathers or I should say sperm donors that don’t give a flying crap about their children. I for one love my husbands swag, he is doing an excellent job, providing, teaching, disciplining and maintaining a positive attitude towards our son. This is a moment that mothers should all, give our husbands the credit they deserve and if they want to show off their swag, let them. We always get credit for being a good mother but, men are expected to just be the providers.

]]> By: T. Rogers http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-12001 T. Rogers Tue, 10 Mar 2009 16:15:15 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-12001 Great post, Eric. Prior to having my kids I am not sure if I was ever "cool". However, now that I have my son and daughter I know that I am. It is not because of any particular way I dress or speak. In fact, having two small kids has forced me to scale down my attire. No sense in getting chocolate pudding all over those nice slacks. So, that's not it. It is because I have finally found true comfort with myself. I am not sure if it was fatherhood that did it. I think it was just maturity and growing up. I just know when I am out pushing them in the double stroller (with the missus trying to keep up) I feel completely in my element. I know who I am. I am daddy. And that is what swagger is, knowing who you are and being comfortable with it. Great post, Eric.

Prior to having my kids I am not sure if I was ever “cool”. However, now that I have my son and daughter I know that I am. It is not because of any particular way I dress or speak. In fact, having two small kids has forced me to scale down my attire. No sense in getting chocolate pudding all over those nice slacks. So, that’s not it. It is because I have finally found true comfort with myself. I am not sure if it was fatherhood that did it. I think it was just maturity and growing up.

I just know when I am out pushing them in the double stroller (with the missus trying to keep up) I feel completely in my element. I know who I am. I am daddy. And that is what swagger is, knowing who you are and being comfortable with it.

]]> By: Ulrick http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-11978 Ulrick Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:37:25 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-11978 Great article and great comments. I would also define "daddy swagger" with having ultimate confidence in realizing that you can control and protect your family with whatever curveball life throws at you. When I read this article what came to mind was all those fathers who are taking care of disabled children whether physical or mental. These men are keeping it real and when these kids come for their physician appts. you can sense the importance of what that strong father brings to the table. Great article and great comments. I would also define “daddy swagger” with having ultimate confidence in realizing that you can control and protect your family with whatever curveball life throws at you. When I read this article what came to mind was all those fathers who are taking care of disabled children whether physical or mental. These men are keeping it real and when these kids come for their physician appts. you can sense the importance of what that strong father brings to the table.

]]> By: Eric http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/08/daddy-swagger/comment-page-1#comment-11964 Eric Mon, 09 Mar 2009 13:13:33 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3645#comment-11964 Another point I want to add based on a very valid point raised in the first comment: I have no problem embarrassing my son. I actually strive to. But I think embarrassing your children is different from being an embarrassment to them. In today's day and age where there are so many distractions and kids are being marketed to at the expense of their own families I think having a point of commonality or being in a place of awe (along with being everything that Dad means) is key --- for me. What each of us chooses to do is our own individual choice and nothing is wrong with any "style" at the end of the day as long as the kids are loved and taken care of. I don't believe Daddy Swagger is something you should "aspire" to have, but if you've got it, move in that direction, or fall into it, why not? My mother's father was the epitome of cool, without thinking about it or even trying, God rest his soul. Just sitting with the man in silence was enough to never make you want to leave his side. To this day my mother (who's 70) along with her siblings, still swoon over the man (faults and all). I think that's great. <abbr><em>Erics last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/MakesMeWannaHoller/~3/7OUBLkHs8ko/declaration-of-war-operation-heathcliff.html" rel="nofollow">Declaration of War: Operation Heathcliff Huxtable</a></abbr></em> Another point I want to add based on a very valid point raised in the first comment: I have no problem embarrassing my son. I actually strive to. But I think embarrassing your children is different from being an embarrassment to them. In today’s day and age where there are so many distractions and kids are being marketed to at the expense of their own families I think having a point of commonality or being in a place of awe (along with being everything that Dad means) is key — for me. What each of us chooses to do is our own individual choice and nothing is wrong with any “style” at the end of the day as long as the kids are loved and taken care of. I don’t believe Daddy Swagger is something you should “aspire” to have, but if you’ve got it, move in that direction, or fall into it, why not? My mother’s father was the epitome of cool, without thinking about it or even trying, God rest his soul. Just sitting with the man in silence was enough to never make you want to leave his side. To this day my mother (who’s 70) along with her siblings, still swoon over the man (faults and all). I think that’s great.

Erics last blog post..Declaration of War: Operation Heathcliff Huxtable

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