30 Day Relationship Challenge – Updates!!!

I fell off for a few days but last night after a long night of work I broke out a message for the wife.

TheDads last blog post..Do You Sleep Beside Your Baby? Is It Safe?

*humming and rocking back and forth*

I’m SO ASHAMED!! Pray for me, y’all! I’ve been stuck on Day 1 of the Love Dare (say something nice or don’t say anything at all) for five days now! I almost made it yesterday, but a button got pushed, and although I didn’t GO OFF, I did call him lazy. (

But normally in the morning, I’ll fix breakfast for my son and I. I rarely fix anything for my husband because he doesn’t really do breakfast. For some reason, though, I fixed him something to eat as well. (He didn’t eat it, though…I came home from teaching class, and it was still in the microwave, so I had an IHOP dinner last night).

Then, remember what I was saying about him not getting up in the morning, and me not saying anything to him? Well, yesterday morning, as usual, he wanted to sleep. I tried to wake him up once, to no avail. So I did everything I normally do, then I also got our son ready, and woke him up when it was time to drop our son off to school.

Now keep in mind, he can get up at 5:30 am to go to the gym and work out. He’s all bright eyed and bushy tailed then! LOL Boy, it took everything in me not to say anything! I had TEARS in my eyes trying to keep that old nasty attitude in check. But I did it! I refrained from nagging and badgering him.

This morning, he shocked me! He went to his 5:30 am workout, came home ON TIME, did his part by getting our son ready. And then–brace yourselves–HE PICKED HIS CLOTHES UP, PUT THEM AWAY, AND VACUUMED THE FLOOR (what?!?)!!!!!!

I was shocked, amazed, and more than turned on. I know he’s not doing the love dare because I bought the book and hid it. I wanted to do it without any pretense of him having to do anything in return. I just wanted to try it on my own first.

I’m very excited by the change!

Well I guess I’m blessed, cause my husband is wonderful, so the challenge has be a breeze to me, he works 2nd shift, and doesn’t go to bed until about 1 or so, and he still gets up every morning and takes our daughter to school, so I don’t have to rush in the morning. I make sure I tell him I love him everyday, and we kiss everytime one of us leaves the house, or comes back to the house. I have been extra nice though since the whole challenge started. And I’m not sayin we don’t argue, cause we do, and I do say some crazy tihngs, lol…so my goal is to make it thru the month without saying anyting crazy to him (pray for me) and keep it arguement free…I will need an additional prayer for that too.lol

i sucked my teeth and rolled my eyes at ms miko. ROFL!

seriously, though, i love the fact that your marriage is so wonderful like that! i pray mine gets there soon. we still have some work to do, though.

ROFL @ the two minute massage! i guess it’s the though that counts!

@ tara,

dang…usually you give an “lol” to something i’ve stated, but now you’ve gone to laughing directly at me! LOL

Well Mrs. Harriet, we have been doing this a long, long time, we’ve been together for 15 yrs and we have our 10 yr anniversary in June, and it’s hasn’t always been this way. it’s been many of time where we needed a 3 to 4 month challenge..lol..

and most of the time it was me who was doing wrong (don’t tell nobody I admitted that), I use to say I married the right man, but my husband may have married the wrong woman (but that’s a whole nother post)…so it took us/me a long time to realize what I had, I can say so many wonderful things about my husband, so that’s why this challenge is fine with me…

So with the challenge…

Yesterday I looked him in his eyes and told him how much I appreciate him, and how he was such a blessing to me, etc..

and last night, (I know sex doesn’t count) we did our thang, boy we did our thang.. so this morning he took our daughter to school, (she’s 5) and I took our son to school (he’s 18) and before I came to work I stopped at the restaurant and picked up breakfast and left it on the table with a note that says….”In the movies and on TV when the sex is good, somebody ususally cooks breakfast, since I didn’t have time to cook, I bought it.” ?

I have to say after reading the postings I am more interested in attempting this new challenge. I saw FIREPROOF and it was so much of my life it was scary. I had to look around several times to see if God was sitting there telling me to pay attention. I bought the book… ok, I bought 3 copies… I am going to send one to my best friends whose husband has decided to sleep in the guest room. Pray for us all everyone and good luck!

OK, y’all…God is so awesome!

Generally Saturdays are my clean up days…I always wash clothes, and while the loads are going, I clean until I’m tired, or until I just don’t feel like it no mo’–whichever comes first.

Anyway, there are two rooms I don’t ever touch: my husband’s studio and the adjacent bathroom (which is supposed to be a guest bathroom).

So yesterday was a “till i don’t feel like it no mo’” day. I was CHILLIN’ after folding clothes and waiting for the next load to finish. Hubby goes to his 10 am workout and tells me on the way out, “David’s coming by in a couple hours to rehearse.”

I say, “So…you’re going to cut your workout short so you can get home and clean your bathroom, right?”

He says, “Yeah.”

KEWL!

So I’m chillin, and I get the unction of the Holy Ghost (do trust, it was the Lord, because one man, one bathroom, and 30 days no cleaning ain’t NO JOKE) to clean his joint up.

I scrub, mop, scour, wipe, steam, sweep, set off atomic bombs to clean the place out. Hubby comes home 5 MINUTES before dude was about to come to the house, goes to the bathroom to do his cursory clean, and lo and behold, the place is sparkling, with the fresh smell of bleach and blue pine sol filling the air.

And you know what’s so miraculous about this? I DIDN’T HAVE AN ATTITUDE! I actually enjoyed cleaning it because I wanted him to be surprised when he got home.

He kissed me ever so softly and said, “Baby, you’re the greatest.”

It was worth a million bucks.