Comments on: 30 Day Relationship Challenge – Updates!!! http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 21:09:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jonesi http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12210 Jonesi Mon, 16 Mar 2009 00:57:11 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12210 AAwww thanks for sharing Harriet :-) I have to admit, I do get a huge sense of pride when I do things for the boo...especially when I'm doing it from the heart! AAwww thanks for sharing Harriet :-)
I have to admit, I do get a huge sense of pride when I do things for the boo…especially when I’m doing it from the heart!

]]> By: Harriet http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12209 Harriet Sun, 15 Mar 2009 23:57:49 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12209 OK, y'all...God is so awesome! Generally Saturdays are my clean up days...I always wash clothes, and while the loads are going, I clean until I'm tired, or until I just don't feel like it no mo'--whichever comes first. Anyway, there are two rooms I don't ever touch: my husband's studio and the adjacent bathroom (which is supposed to be a guest bathroom). So yesterday was a "till i don't feel like it no mo'" day. I was CHILLIN' after folding clothes and waiting for the next load to finish. Hubby goes to his 10 am workout and tells me on the way out, "David's coming by in a couple hours to rehearse." I say, "So...you're going to cut your workout short so you can get home and clean your bathroom, right?" He says, "Yeah." KEWL! So I'm chillin, and I get the unction of the Holy Ghost (do trust, it was the Lord, because one man, one bathroom, and 30 days no cleaning ain't NO JOKE) to clean his joint up. I scrub, mop, scour, wipe, steam, sweep, set off atomic bombs to clean the place out. Hubby comes home 5 MINUTES before dude was about to come to the house, goes to the bathroom to do his cursory clean, and lo and behold, the place is sparkling, with the fresh smell of bleach and blue pine sol filling the air. And you know what's so miraculous about this? I DIDN'T HAVE AN ATTITUDE! I actually enjoyed cleaning it because I wanted him to be surprised when he got home. He kissed me ever so softly and said, "Baby, you're the greatest." It was worth a million bucks. OK, y’all…God is so awesome!

Generally Saturdays are my clean up days…I always wash clothes, and while the loads are going, I clean until I’m tired, or until I just don’t feel like it no mo’–whichever comes first.

Anyway, there are two rooms I don’t ever touch: my husband’s studio and the adjacent bathroom (which is supposed to be a guest bathroom).

So yesterday was a “till i don’t feel like it no mo’” day. I was CHILLIN’ after folding clothes and waiting for the next load to finish. Hubby goes to his 10 am workout and tells me on the way out, “David’s coming by in a couple hours to rehearse.”

I say, “So…you’re going to cut your workout short so you can get home and clean your bathroom, right?”

He says, “Yeah.”

KEWL!

So I’m chillin, and I get the unction of the Holy Ghost (do trust, it was the Lord, because one man, one bathroom, and 30 days no cleaning ain’t NO JOKE) to clean his joint up.

I scrub, mop, scour, wipe, steam, sweep, set off atomic bombs to clean the place out. Hubby comes home 5 MINUTES before dude was about to come to the house, goes to the bathroom to do his cursory clean, and lo and behold, the place is sparkling, with the fresh smell of bleach and blue pine sol filling the air.

And you know what’s so miraculous about this? I DIDN’T HAVE AN ATTITUDE! I actually enjoyed cleaning it because I wanted him to be surprised when he got home.

He kissed me ever so softly and said, “Baby, you’re the greatest.”

It was worth a million bucks.

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12072 Anna Thu, 12 Mar 2009 03:27:47 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12072 Smart Woman Foolish Choices said: I have to say after reading the postings I am more interested in attempting this new challenge. I saw FIREPROOF and it was so much of my life it was scary. I had to look around several times to see if God was sitting there telling me to pay attention. I bought the book… ok, I bought 3 copies… I am going to send one to my best friends whose husband has decided to sleep in the guest room. Pray for us all everyone and good luck! ~~~~~~~~~ I have to see this movie(Fireproof). I think I know how to child proof and food proof my home. I buy things in 3's. (3 handbags, 3 pairs of shoes or 3 pairs of jeans but I have never bought a book in 3's. I need to do that. I buy books in 2's so I can give them to a married couple. I did not think to keep a copy for my own keep sake. I think I collected too many books for huuby to keep his tools dusted to continue to put together a book shelf in every available space we have. Smart Woman Foolish Choices said:
I have to say after reading the postings I am more interested in attempting this new challenge. I saw FIREPROOF and it was so much of my life it was scary. I had to look around several times to see if God was sitting there telling me to pay attention. I bought the book… ok, I bought 3 copies… I am going to send one to my best friends whose husband has decided to sleep in the guest room. Pray for us all everyone and good luck!
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I have to see this movie(Fireproof). I think I know how to child proof and food proof my home. I buy things in 3′s. (3 handbags, 3 pairs of shoes or 3 pairs of jeans but I have never bought a book in 3′s. I need to do that. I buy books in 2′s so I can give them to a married couple. I did not think to keep a copy for my own keep sake. I think I collected too many books for huuby to keep his tools dusted to continue to put together a book shelf in every available space we have.

]]> By: Smart Woman Foolish Choices http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12060 Smart Woman Foolish Choices Wed, 11 Mar 2009 21:40:11 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12060 I have to say after reading the postings I am more interested in attempting this new challenge. I saw FIREPROOF and it was so much of my life it was scary. I had to look around several times to see if God was sitting there telling me to pay attention. I bought the book... ok, I bought 3 copies... I am going to send one to my best friends whose husband has decided to sleep in the guest room. Pray for us all everyone and good luck! I have to say after reading the postings I am more interested in attempting this new challenge. I saw FIREPROOF and it was so much of my life it was scary. I had to look around several times to see if God was sitting there telling me to pay attention. I bought the book… ok, I bought 3 copies… I am going to send one to my best friends whose husband has decided to sleep in the guest room. Pray for us all everyone and good luck!

]]> By: Harriet http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12047 Harriet Wed, 11 Mar 2009 15:46:12 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12047 @ Ms. Miko, *Sigh* That sounds like such a fairy tale! You're proof positive that happily ever after is possible...we just have to work with it! As for the challenge, y'all...things are really progressing! I have to quote Ms. Miko on this one: "and last night, (I know sex doesn’t count) we did our thang, boy we did our thang" I just needed to give her a witness. LOL But we went for a walk with our son and swung him around a bit. We got subway sandwiches and sat down and talked, reminisced and encouraged one another. @ Ms. Miko,

*Sigh* That sounds like such a fairy tale! You’re proof positive that happily ever after is possible…we just have to work with it!

As for the challenge, y’all…things are really progressing!

I have to quote Ms. Miko on this one: “and last night, (I know sex doesn’t count) we did our thang, boy we did our thang” I just needed to give her a witness. LOL

But we went for a walk with our son and swung him around a bit. We got subway sandwiches and sat down and talked, reminisced and encouraged one another.

]]> By: Ms Miko http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12042 Ms Miko Wed, 11 Mar 2009 14:17:41 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12042 Well Mrs. Harriet, we have been doing this a long, long time, we've been together for 15 yrs and we have our 10 yr anniversary in June, and it's hasn't always been this way. it's been many of time where we needed a 3 to 4 month challenge..lol.. and most of the time it was me who was doing wrong (don't tell nobody I admitted that), I use to say I married the right man, but my husband may have married the wrong woman (but that's a whole nother post)...so it took us/me a long time to realize what I had, I can say so many wonderful things about my husband, so that's why this challenge is fine with me... So with the challenge... Yesterday I looked him in his eyes and told him how much I appreciate him, and how he was such a blessing to me, etc.. and last night, (I know sex doesn't count) we did our thang, boy we did our thang.. so this morning he took our daughter to school, (she's 5) and I took our son to school (he's 18) and before I came to work I stopped at the restaurant and picked up breakfast and left it on the table with a note that says...."In the movies and on TV when the sex is good, somebody ususally cooks breakfast, since I didn't have time to cook, I bought it." ? Well Mrs. Harriet, we have been doing this a long, long time, we’ve been together for 15 yrs and we have our 10 yr anniversary in June, and it’s hasn’t always been this way. it’s been many of time where we needed a 3 to 4 month challenge..lol..

and most of the time it was me who was doing wrong (don’t tell nobody I admitted that), I use to say I married the right man, but my husband may have married the wrong woman (but that’s a whole nother post)…so it took us/me a long time to realize what I had, I can say so many wonderful things about my husband, so that’s why this challenge is fine with me…

So with the challenge…

Yesterday I looked him in his eyes and told him how much I appreciate him, and how he was such a blessing to me, etc..

and last night, (I know sex doesn’t count) we did our thang, boy we did our thang.. so this morning he took our daughter to school, (she’s 5) and I took our son to school (he’s 18) and before I came to work I stopped at the restaurant and picked up breakfast and left it on the table with a note that says….”In the movies and on TV when the sex is good, somebody ususally cooks breakfast, since I didn’t have time to cook, I bought it.” ?

]]> By: Jonesi http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12037 Jonesi Wed, 11 Mar 2009 11:50:02 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12037 My fiance and I live apart so I am finding this very difficult. I think I am going to stick to no arguing...trying to stick to no arguing that is! *shaking my head* he makes it SO hard.... My fiance and I live apart so I am finding this very difficult. I think I am going to stick to no arguing…trying to stick to no arguing that is! *shaking my head* he makes it SO hard….

]]> By: Lamar http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12032 Lamar Wed, 11 Mar 2009 09:57:08 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12032 Pick it up people we'll be back for another update next week. @Anna - we haven't seen the movie and we're doing it. Jump right in. Pick it up people we’ll be back for another update next week.

@Anna – we haven’t seen the movie and we’re doing it. Jump right in.

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12024 Anna Wed, 11 Mar 2009 00:35:49 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12024 I have not tried the 30 challenge yet. I guess I need to start with the movie "Fireproof". I don't know what it is. Cooking and sex is not apart of the challange, darn. LOL. I wonder if hubby saw this challange. He cleaned the fish tank out without me mentioning it, made his own coffee and washed his own clothes to get ready for this morning (do any count)? What have I done you ask. I watched him clean the fish tank, set the coffee maker for the morning and wash and dry his own clothes. Can I get one point? I have not tried the 30 challenge yet. I guess I need to start with the movie “Fireproof”. I don’t know what it is. Cooking and sex is not apart of the challange, darn. LOL. I wonder if hubby saw this challange. He cleaned the fish tank out without me mentioning it, made his own coffee and washed his own clothes to get ready for this morning (do any count)? What have I done you ask. I watched him clean the fish tank, set the coffee maker for the morning and wash and dry his own clothes. Can I get one point?

]]> By: Harriet http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/03/10/30-day-relationship-challenge-updates/comment-page-1#comment-12017 Harriet Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:13:34 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=3674#comment-12017 i sucked my teeth and rolled my eyes at ms miko. ROFL! seriously, though, i love the fact that your marriage is so wonderful like that! i pray mine gets there soon. we still have some work to do, though. ROFL @ the two minute massage! i guess it's the though that counts! @ tara, dang...usually you give an "lol" to something i've stated, but now you've gone to laughing directly at me! LOL i sucked my teeth and rolled my eyes at ms miko. ROFL!

seriously, though, i love the fact that your marriage is so wonderful like that! i pray mine gets there soon. we still have some work to do, though.

ROFL @ the two minute massage! i guess it’s the though that counts!

@ tara,

dang…usually you give an “lol” to something i’ve stated, but now you’ve gone to laughing directly at me! LOL

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