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	<title>Comments on: Dear BMWK, I Date Outside My Race Because of Politics</title>
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		<title>By: joe blessing</title>
		<link>http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/04/13/dear-bmwk-i-date-outside-my-race-because-of-politics/comment-page-1#comment-18177</link>
		<dc:creator>joe blessing</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Oct 2009 20:55:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>JayO

That’s a load of crap.  It’s the same load that Democrats have fooled people into thinking for yrs.  1st of all, most blacks live their personal lives based on republican values.  If you go to church every week and are a believer, your values are republican.  And how about this, MLK was a registered republican, is he a warmonger?  No, he was not and he fought for the same things that conservatives fight for now.  A level playing field, where an individual is the captain of their destiny.  Democrats don’t do that, they fight for equality of results.  IE if I start a business and become successful, and you decide to be a wage slave, or sit around and not better yourself, I still owe you something some how.  If you think it’s selfish to want lower taxes because your family deserves your money more than the federal government, then send me a check.

Oh yeah Dem’s are open minded, as long as you are fine with people whatever they want.  No judgments, no values.  Respect the muslim religion, but its ok to diss Christians.  Be open to gay marriage, but if you disagree they wish to punish you.  Dissent is the best form of patriotism, unless you dissent with Obama, and then you’re a racist.  Please Democrats are nothing more than hypercritical most of the time, and intellectually dishonest all of the time.

And before you talk about me being a lost brother or other such nonsense, let me remind you of something.  It was Democrats ordering the hoses on those people during the civil rights marches.  Not republican.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>JayO</p>
<p>That’s a load of crap.  It’s the same load that Democrats have fooled people into thinking for yrs.  1st of all, most blacks live their personal lives based on republican values.  If you go to church every week and are a believer, your values are republican.  And how about this, MLK was a registered republican, is he a warmonger?  No, he was not and he fought for the same things that conservatives fight for now.  A level playing field, where an individual is the captain of their destiny.  Democrats don’t do that, they fight for equality of results.  IE if I start a business and become successful, and you decide to be a wage slave, or sit around and not better yourself, I still owe you something some how.  If you think it’s selfish to want lower taxes because your family deserves your money more than the federal government, then send me a check.</p>
<p>Oh yeah Dem’s are open minded, as long as you are fine with people whatever they want.  No judgments, no values.  Respect the muslim religion, but its ok to diss Christians.  Be open to gay marriage, but if you disagree they wish to punish you.  Dissent is the best form of patriotism, unless you dissent with Obama, and then you’re a racist.  Please Democrats are nothing more than hypercritical most of the time, and intellectually dishonest all of the time.</p>
<p>And before you talk about me being a lost brother or other such nonsense, let me remind you of something.  It was Democrats ordering the hoses on those people during the civil rights marches.  Not republican.</p>
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		<title>By: Jay'O</title>
		<link>http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/04/13/dear-bmwk-i-date-outside-my-race-because-of-politics/comment-page-1#comment-18162</link>
		<dc:creator>Jay'O</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Oct 2009 14:12:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hey, 

I&#039;m a Democrat and for me my values and beliefs are so strong I can&#039;t imagine dating a republican.  I see them as fearful, greedy, selfish, and bigoted warmongers.  Sure this is a gross exaggeration, but I think the Republican party as a whole as proven this to be true and if a thinking person chooses to associate themselves with it, then they aren&#039;t worth my time.  

Having said that, I would say you should look for similarly minded women and if you&#039;re lucky enough to find another Condi rice - congrats!

Maybe Black folks follow the Democratic party too faithfully and some probably do as a habit. Maybe there are some black women that are &quot;fearful, greedy, selfish, and bigoted warmongers&quot; you can shack up with. 

But don&#039;t get your hopes up about white, Hispanic or other raced women.  They are at least 50% Democrats and don&#039;t share the repub &quot;values&quot; mentioned above!  Maybe instead of dissing Black ladies - you might do some soul searching about why you are a republican?

P.S. The most faithful group that follows the repubs are old white men - maybe that Senator from Idaho (senator Craig?) who likes hanging out in public bathrooms might like to met you?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey, </p>
<p>I&#8217;m a Democrat and for me my values and beliefs are so strong I can&#8217;t imagine dating a republican.  I see them as fearful, greedy, selfish, and bigoted warmongers.  Sure this is a gross exaggeration, but I think the Republican party as a whole as proven this to be true and if a thinking person chooses to associate themselves with it, then they aren&#8217;t worth my time.  </p>
<p>Having said that, I would say you should look for similarly minded women and if you&#8217;re lucky enough to find another Condi rice &#8211; congrats!</p>
<p>Maybe Black folks follow the Democratic party too faithfully and some probably do as a habit. Maybe there are some black women that are &#8220;fearful, greedy, selfish, and bigoted warmongers&#8221; you can shack up with. </p>
<p>But don&#8217;t get your hopes up about white, Hispanic or other raced women.  They are at least 50% Democrats and don&#8217;t share the repub &#8220;values&#8221; mentioned above!  Maybe instead of dissing Black ladies &#8211; you might do some soul searching about why you are a republican?</p>
<p>P.S. The most faithful group that follows the repubs are old white men &#8211; maybe that Senator from Idaho (senator Craig?) who likes hanging out in public bathrooms might like to met you?</p>
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		<title>By: WhyVisitAfrica</title>
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		<dc:creator>WhyVisitAfrica</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jul 2009 17:52:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I don&#039;t have a problem with blacks dating outside of their race, but for the right reasons.  If politics is your reason and your partner is aware that they are just a political decision and they are fine with it then go ahead.  But be honest from the beginning about what you are looking for and what your reasons were.  It&#039;s healthy to be diverse and expose yourself to other cultures.  This gives you an appreciation of your own culture and race.  

WhyVisitAfrica.com

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;WhyVisitAfricas last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://whyvisitafrica.com/2009/07/21/why-do-black-women-always-justify-abuse.aspx?ref=rss&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Why do black women always justify abuse?&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I don&#8217;t have a problem with blacks dating outside of their race, but for the right reasons.  If politics is your reason and your partner is aware that they are just a political decision and they are fine with it then go ahead.  But be honest from the beginning about what you are looking for and what your reasons were.  It&#8217;s healthy to be diverse and expose yourself to other cultures.  This gives you an appreciation of your own culture and race.  </p>
<p>WhyVisitAfrica.com</p>
<p><abbr><em>WhyVisitAfricas last blog post..<a href="http://whyvisitafrica.com/2009/07/21/why-do-black-women-always-justify-abuse.aspx?ref=rss" rel="nofollow">Why do black women always justify abuse?</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: joe blessing</title>
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		<dc:creator>joe blessing</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Jul 2009 11:57:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@GT I think personally that black women should date outside their race ONLY IF THEY NEVER BITCH ABOUT A BLACK MAN DATING A WHITE WOMAN EVER AGAIN.  The halle berry hypocriticalness is astounding.

Having said that, how&#039;s this as something to try.  Date good black men.  If you have a good black man, don&#039;t leave for stipud crap and reasons, and things will work out for you just fine.  Date men in the way Halle  did/does, or like the characters in Waiting to Exhale, and all your relationship woes are your own damn fault.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;joe blessings last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://joeblessing.wordpress.com/2009/07/07/i-pray/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;I Pray&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@GT I think personally that black women should date outside their race ONLY IF THEY NEVER BITCH ABOUT A BLACK MAN DATING A WHITE WOMAN EVER AGAIN.  The halle berry hypocriticalness is astounding.</p>
<p>Having said that, how&#8217;s this as something to try.  Date good black men.  If you have a good black man, don&#8217;t leave for stipud crap and reasons, and things will work out for you just fine.  Date men in the way Halle  did/does, or like the characters in Waiting to Exhale, and all your relationship woes are your own damn fault.</p>
<p><abbr><em>joe blessings last blog post..<a href="http://joeblessing.wordpress.com/2009/07/07/i-pray/" rel="nofollow">I Pray</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: GT</title>
		<link>http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/04/13/dear-bmwk-i-date-outside-my-race-because-of-politics/comment-page-1#comment-15383</link>
		<dc:creator>GT</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Jul 2009 06:34:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I hope it’s okay with the blog owner if I post this:
 
For black women who are interested in dating outside their race, there is a blog that will be helpful for you called “For The Sistas.”  It also has posts on dating for black Christian women.  Some of the posts are a bit long, but they aren’t any longer than the cover story of a magazine article and I really do think they’ll be useful to you.  The blog address is ForTheSistas (dot) blogspot (dot) com.  By the way, the blog also has information on dating men from Europe.

Black women need to get off this black-man-only band wagon because, for too many, it obviously is not working.  I’m not saying don’t date black men, just expand your options.  Please forward this to other black women you know.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I hope it’s okay with the blog owner if I post this:</p>
<p>For black women who are interested in dating outside their race, there is a blog that will be helpful for you called “For The Sistas.”  It also has posts on dating for black Christian women.  Some of the posts are a bit long, but they aren’t any longer than the cover story of a magazine article and I really do think they’ll be useful to you.  The blog address is ForTheSistas (dot) blogspot (dot) com.  By the way, the blog also has information on dating men from Europe.</p>
<p>Black women need to get off this black-man-only band wagon because, for too many, it obviously is not working.  I’m not saying don’t date black men, just expand your options.  Please forward this to other black women you know.</p>
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		<title>By: joe blessing</title>
		<link>http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/04/13/dear-bmwk-i-date-outside-my-race-because-of-politics/comment-page-1#comment-13374</link>
		<dc:creator>joe blessing</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Apr 2009 17:17:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>OK Patra.  I&#039;ll just put it out there.  Halle Berry is just making excuses and has no business dating a white male.  

Now, if you disagree, don&#039;t dare get mad at any male for dating a woman for whatever reason he wants.  Whether is making sure she has the same values as him, or because he believes certain rumours about things black women won&#039;t do.

I&#039;m being sarcastic to make a point here. Keep it consistent, on both sides.  I really don&#039;t see a different between his premise, and the premise of some sista&#039;s dating white men, because of how they think they will treat them.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;joe blessings last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://joeblessing.wordpress.com/2009/04/21/acceptance-is-a-journey/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Acceptance is a journey&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>OK Patra.  I&#8217;ll just put it out there.  Halle Berry is just making excuses and has no business dating a white male.  </p>
<p>Now, if you disagree, don&#8217;t dare get mad at any male for dating a woman for whatever reason he wants.  Whether is making sure she has the same values as him, or because he believes certain rumours about things black women won&#8217;t do.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m being sarcastic to make a point here. Keep it consistent, on both sides.  I really don&#8217;t see a different between his premise, and the premise of some sista&#8217;s dating white men, because of how they think they will treat them.</p>
<p><abbr><em>joe blessings last blog post..<a href="http://joeblessing.wordpress.com/2009/04/21/acceptance-is-a-journey/" rel="nofollow">Acceptance is a journey</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Patra</title>
		<link>http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/04/13/dear-bmwk-i-date-outside-my-race-because-of-politics/comment-page-1#comment-13372</link>
		<dc:creator>Patra</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Apr 2009 17:09:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Excuses, excuses...he wants to date outside his race, and he&#039;s using politics to do it...please.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Excuses, excuses&#8230;he wants to date outside his race, and he&#8217;s using politics to do it&#8230;please.</p>
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		<title>By: joe blessing</title>
		<link>http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/04/13/dear-bmwk-i-date-outside-my-race-because-of-politics/comment-page-1#comment-13298</link>
		<dc:creator>joe blessing</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Apr 2009 18:40:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Kim Douglas:  I think you either may be missing the point here, or maybe just feel that way you to toward the writer because he is a Rep.  I&#039;m willing to bet every married person here can attest, love means nothing if you and your partner do not share the same values.  It will NOT work, I don&#039;t care how much you think you love the other person.  So the writer is making a comment about values ahead of time, as opposed to dating and getting into a relationship with someone, and then seeing if their values can match.  That&#039;s the way most people do it, and may be why so many people get divorced.

The one thing I would say he is assuming is that Dem vs Rep. is a statement about a person&#039;s values in of itself.  That is probably true to a degree for many of other groups, but us blacks.  I repeat, our values are mostly in line with the REb platform, but we vote Dem.  And yes I&#039;m generalizing because that&#039;s the only way to write about something like this.  I can&#039;t very well account for all 30 million of us as individuals, but there are patterns and this is one of them.  I think it is very possible for the writer to date a female that is Dem., and still has or lives the values espoused within the Rep. party.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;joe blessings last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://joeblessing.wordpress.com/2009/04/17/collateral-damage/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Collateral Damage&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Kim Douglas:  I think you either may be missing the point here, or maybe just feel that way you to toward the writer because he is a Rep.  I&#8217;m willing to bet every married person here can attest, love means nothing if you and your partner do not share the same values.  It will NOT work, I don&#8217;t care how much you think you love the other person.  So the writer is making a comment about values ahead of time, as opposed to dating and getting into a relationship with someone, and then seeing if their values can match.  That&#8217;s the way most people do it, and may be why so many people get divorced.</p>
<p>The one thing I would say he is assuming is that Dem vs Rep. is a statement about a person&#8217;s values in of itself.  That is probably true to a degree for many of other groups, but us blacks.  I repeat, our values are mostly in line with the REb platform, but we vote Dem.  And yes I&#8217;m generalizing because that&#8217;s the only way to write about something like this.  I can&#8217;t very well account for all 30 million of us as individuals, but there are patterns and this is one of them.  I think it is very possible for the writer to date a female that is Dem., and still has or lives the values espoused within the Rep. party.</p>
<p><abbr><em>joe blessings last blog post..<a href="http://joeblessing.wordpress.com/2009/04/17/collateral-damage/" rel="nofollow">Collateral Damage</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: joe blessing</title>
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		<dc:creator>joe blessing</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Apr 2009 18:31:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>That is the best place to be in...independent.  But they have to vote for someone, if it&#039;s consistently Dem, they may be posing.  I think as we get older, we might wish for a 3rd option so to speak, but our values will align with either Dem or Rep on most issues.  Then what do you do?  I&#039;ll use the most decisive example I know of, abortion.  I can roll with someone that says, &quot;I believe a woman has the right and should have the option to abort if she&#039;s been raped.&quot;  I can deal with that and agree. But if I have a woman I&#039;m seeing and she believes she has the right no matter what, i.e. she wants to be able to abort at 8 months because a child is gonna her march up corporate America, I have a problem wit that.  At that moment I cannot date her, or be with her, because her values are off for me.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>That is the best place to be in&#8230;independent.  But they have to vote for someone, if it&#8217;s consistently Dem, they may be posing.  I think as we get older, we might wish for a 3rd option so to speak, but our values will align with either Dem or Rep on most issues.  Then what do you do?  I&#8217;ll use the most decisive example I know of, abortion.  I can roll with someone that says, &#8220;I believe a woman has the right and should have the option to abort if she&#8217;s been raped.&#8221;  I can deal with that and agree. But if I have a woman I&#8217;m seeing and she believes she has the right no matter what, i.e. she wants to be able to abort at 8 months because a child is gonna her march up corporate America, I have a problem wit that.  At that moment I cannot date her, or be with her, because her values are off for me.</p>
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		<title>By: Dantresomi</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dantresomi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Apr 2009 13:31:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>How about if she isn&#039;t either a Dem or Repub...?

Most sisters I socialize with are third party supporters.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Dantresomis last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://selfra.blogspot.com/2009/04/confessions-of-pan-africanist-part-313.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How about if she isn&#8217;t either a Dem or Repub&#8230;?</p>
<p>Most sisters I socialize with are third party supporters.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Dantresomis last blog post..<a href="http://selfra.blogspot.com/2009/04/confessions-of-pan-africanist-part-313.html" rel="nofollow"></a></em></abbr></p>
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