The Little Things You Do For the Ones You Love

Parenting

by Ronnie Tyler | on April 15th, 2009 | 3 comments

We were asked to share the little things that we do for the ones we love and became excited by the mere thought. It’s the little things you do for the ones you love that mean soo much!!! That statement is so true, especially when it comes to my husband and my children. Showing that you love someone does not require a big budget or a fancy production. For instance, my husband and I leave little sticky love notes on each other’s laptops. Sometimes he will get to work and open his computer to see a note that says: “I love you.” I love receiving little notes or emails from him throughout the day.

Another great example, is the craft time that I started with my 7 year old daughter. She wanted some special time with me alone (without her 1 year old and 2 year old baby sisters.) As you can imagine, the babies consume a lot of my time. And my 7 year old is a very smart, well behaved, and self sufficient little girl. So she probably fees like she is not getting as much attention as the babies. So we started a craft time. And I am no Martha Stewart …not even close. My crafting abilities SUCK with a capital S. We don’t do any elaborate crafts that take an enormous amount of time. So far we have made pot holders and we have painted clay pots and planted flowers in them. Since I don’t have an artistic bone in my body (and it’s sad to say that my daughter takes after me,) our crafts usually end up looking pitiful. With the clay pots, we planted the seeds in the those pots over 2 months ago and not one sprout yet!!

Also we made cookie dough ornaments for Christmas and they did not turn out so bad. Sometimes we bake instead of doing crafts. And I am not talking about baking from scratch. We bake a box of brownies or we will bake a cake (from the box.) When we recently finished a cake, my daughter said: “It’s not what we expected, but I think it will be good.”

I am horrible at crafts and my baking skills are are just as bad. But none of that matters. Spending a little time with my 7 year old each week to make a craft costs me little or no money. But the special memories that we are creating together are priceless. Especially when it comes to kids, the little things you do for them and with them mean so much!!

BMWK – what little things do you do for the ones you love? If you haven’t done anything lately, how about sending your loved one a love note. If you are not good a writing notes, perhaps you can send a greeting card that will express your feelings.

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and their latest documentary Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://www.cisterspeak.com Candi

I LOVE the loving sticky notes on your laptops and have no shame in saying I will be stealing that idea!

My better half always makes my sandwiches in the morning. Usually we leave the house at the same time, but even when we don’t my sandwich is always waiting for me on the counter.

My small gifts to him are my scalp massages. Every couple of days I always give him a scalp massage with warmed essential oils. Lately he’ll even request one if I’ve gone a day or two and forget.

And yesterday I ordered a DVD set of his favorite Jamaican Comedy ‘Oliver at Large.’ He’s always watching it(and dying laughing on nearly every episode) on youtube because its an old series so I decided to google it and get him the DVD set.

Candis last blog post..Watch Where You Eat
Anna

It is the little things that are the most memorable.
I do have a sister who I call “The Black Martha Stewart”. She can buy a plain t shirt or a pair of jeans for her twin daughters and make them look “designer”. She may not have learned to knit or crochet from our grandmother but she knows her way around a glue gun and a sewing machine. She makes such crafty personalized gifts for the rest of the family that it makes you smile when you receive it. My last born is creative like my big sis. I am creative in the “cooking department”. My sister and daughter are creative in making things “their own”. Neither can cook. LOL. How they both are able to make such great “unique” things is beyond me, they both burn boiled eggs and ramen noodles. (Eggs use to be cheap while noodles are still priced cheaply, it’s the only foods we can afford for them to burn and not turn out right but still allow them in the kitchen, so they both can say “dinner is done and I helped”. LOL.
MissJay

My fiance and I used to send “love texts” back and forth during the day. Sometimes I polish my step daughters fingernails (she just turned 4) and she loves it. Before Thanksgiving I took her to the salon with me and got her hair done with me (her aunt usually cornrows it). But I think there’s more that I can do for them. She just got a princess oven for her birthday so I plan to help her with that, baking “cakes”.