Things May Change and They Never Stay the Same

Parenting

by Lamar Tyler | on April 24th, 2009 | 7 comments

One of the things that drives me completely crazy with small kids are the changes they take you through go through. I used to sit back and think, wow our 2 year old does such a great job of going to sleep at night. It didn’t matter if she was all alone in the room, complete darkness, whatever the case. All of that came to a screeching halt about a month ago, not it’s like the Thriller in Manilla every single night trying to get that girl to go to bed. Why, oh why the change?

Our 7 year old used to be my little warrior. While her cousins wouldn’t go into a basement to save their lives because of the dark she would brave the elements with the heart of a champion. You guessed it, that changed too. Now she’s looking for her heart like the lion in The Wiz. Recently every night consists of her securing her room, followed by all kinds of requests of leaving extra lights on and she may even top it off by seeking a direct line of eyesight contact into our room. SMH, it doesn’t make sense yall.

How have your kids or did your kids change that made you almost go crazy? Did you think they would be one way with something then they pulled a complete 180 on your butt? Let us know.

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://www.blackwivesclub.wordpress.com Tiya’

Yes! My youngest daughter used to go straight to bed also, now it’s every excuse in the book why she can’t get to sleep. Her latest excuse was that her eyelids hurt when she closed them. But also I’m finding that her food habits are changing. One week she is loving tomatoes and mushrooms, the next week as I’m preparing dinner (using those items) she suddenly hates tthem and wants to me scrap them off of her plate. I’m like but just like week, they were your favorites. So strange. I find children so interesting, I can really just sit back and watch mine for hours, they are entertaining.

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http://theyoungmommylife.com Tara Pringle Jefferson

My darling daughter doesn’t really eat. I mean, at any given time there’s only one or two things that she will really scarf down. Now it’s Cheerios and bananas. But just a month ago she was a yogurt fiend, now I got two tubs of yogurt sitting in there going to waste. Arghh!!! Kids are definitely strange…

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Anna

It drives me crazy when I meet kids who don’t know what water is or a vegetable. I do have to say that my first God chid was not one to eat a decent meal. I would (along with her mom my sis) give her junk food to keep her fed. My God baby is now an adult who started out in life as I did ” a premie baby”. I think kids are only picky eaters because we give them a choice. I had a God child before I had my “own” kids. My kids love ice and ice water and know they will not drown if they take a shower. My kids may not like “Pork, the other white meat” but it just means more for me.
Mom of 3

It drives me crazy that my 18 month old twins no longer eat their food, but they throw their food. Since they have started throwing food, I have tried to feed them myself instead of letting them feed themselves, however, they will refuse to eat. Then I am concerned about whether or not they are getting enough to eat. There are a few things that they love to eat such as strawberries and vienna sausages (yes I know, they are gross). My twins are also going through a stage where they are not really sleeping in their cribs either. They do well some nights and other nights they scream and holler and will not sleep anywhere other than with me and my husband meaning that we don’t get any sleep.
JAKOBE

Yeah, I thought my now 15 year old would always be the sweetest most respectful child. Until I had to put him out last friday for totally disrespecting me, by being on phone until 4:30 on a school nite, running cell phone bill up to $300 dollars with no remorse but to say I improved my grades. Lying on me to his father, giving me back all I bought him for christmas to make a statement he did not need me, and thinking he can walk around my house without speaking for a week. Well he now knows that I can change and things never remain the same. Like tolerating the foolishness. He is back in but he got the message loud and clear by spending a night on the porch with no one to depend on. Where are those friends now???
Anna

To me kids are “our Karma” that our parents “cursed” us with. LOL. I am just glad I was a good kid and my dad does not get much satisfaction of saying “I told you so”. LOL. Parents love to say “I hope you have a kid just like you”. Me being the smart as* that I was I would say “me too”. Guess what I got, a smart as* like me. LOL. I even have a kid that loves to change clothes many times a day and a ppl pleaser and one who could care less what anyone thinks. I have 3 kids that have different traits of me. It’s all good. Dad loves my kids and I get to pass along the “curse”. It’s a right of passage for me to say to my kids “I hope you have kids just like you”.
FYI: I was not really a smart as*, I was just quick witted with a touch of sarcasim. I got that from my mom.(dad just thought I was “talking back). When my kids did it to me I said “they are just expressing themselves”.

I can explain it however I want, either you are going to buy it, rent it or laugh at me for not listening to “the tales my daddy told me about me”. Kids only drive us crazy if we let them. I do believe if we look in their future when they are toddlers or teenagers and can invision what they will go through, it will bring a smile to your face. I am not a grandmother but I still know I raised my kids with love, a big heart and know they will be wonderful parents. I think that we as parents just want for our kids to get a mili second of what it is like to experience the day to day haul that it takes to be a parent. They will finally say “Thank You for what you did for me.
http://www.quiskaeya.com Quiskaeya

My 7yo used to be so obedient and quick to please. Where in the world did his salty tongue come from??? Yikes. Good thing he understands the back of my hand is only a swat away from his backside. So generally, he’ll correct himself before any action is taken. Phew…

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