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If Your Marriage Was a Movie, What’s On The Soundtrack?

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by Tara Pringle Jefferson

Fun post today (I know y’all are tired of my relationship stories!)

Here’s my soundtrack for the movie of my marriage, from the moment we first met ‘til now :

1. “You Don’t Know My Name” by Alicia Keys – I lived in the residence hall where he worked and he didn’t pay me any attention for almost that whole year. I would catch a glimpse of him working in his office, and he would give me a nod, but that’s it. I worked EXTREMELY hard to get his attention, almost going as far as the “You know, I don’t usually do this….” phone call Alicia had to make.

2. “Let’s Chill” by Guy – This was actually on a CD mix that I asked him to make for me when we were “just friends.” Apparently, he says he put the song on there as some type of hint to me. Who knew?

3. “When I’m With You” by Tony Terry. This is actually “our song.”

4. “You For Me” by Johnny Gill. The song I walked down the aisle to at our wedding. (Played in Madea’s Family Reunion)

5. “He Loves Me (Lyzel in E Flat)” by Jill Scott. Just a beautiful song that has me in tears when I hear it and think about us.

6. “Forever My Lady” by Jodeci. When I was pregnant with our daughter and in NYC for a summer internship, I played this song every day on the train on the way to work. I couldn’t wait to get home, have his baby and be a family.

7. “Superwoman” by Alicia Keys. As I was in the OR having a C-section with our second kid, the anesthesiologist, a 30something black woman, put on some Alicia Keys as they were prepping me, to put me at ease. As they were pulling out my little one, this song was playing. Every time I hear it now, I can’t help but smile.

8. “As” by Stevie Wonder. Says it all. “Until the day that 8 times 8 times 8 times 8 is four…I’ll be loving you…”

So what songs would make the cut for your soundtrack?

Tara Pringle Jefferson is a freelance writer from Ohio, where she lives with her husband and two kids. Visit her blog, TheYoungMommyLife.com, for daily musings about the issues young moms face.


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  1. Joyce Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    For our 5th anniversary (we’re coming up on 10 now) this was the playlist (cd then) that I made for my husband. We listened to it as we drove out of town for a getaway. I still listen to it today and the songs are still very relevant and have kept me where I need to be. 1. "Still" by Tamia 2. "Tru Love" by Faith Evans 3. "The Truth" by India.Arie 4. "That's why they call it love" by Gladys Knight 5. "Angel" by Anita Baker 6. "Beautiful" by India.Arie 7. "I love me some him" by Toni Braxton 8. "Trippin" by Toni Braxton 9. "Brown Skin" by India.Arie 10. “For the love of you” by Hil St. Soul 11. "Good Man" by India.Arie For this anniversary I would add: "Far away,” “Where would I be," and "House of Love" by Kindred and the Family Soul -they really do write the soundtrack for relationships "I can't stop loving you" by Kem “For ever, for always for love” by Lala Hathaway
  2. Yolanda E. (The Queen) Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    "Whip Appeal" by Babyface - This has been our song since 1989!
  3. FCG Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    "Saved the Best for Last", Vanessa Williams. We were best friends and mutual relationship coaches before we started dating. He would help me through baby daddy drama and I would help him with his love life. I even introduced him to one of my acquaintances and they even went out a few times! Eventually we saw in each other what we had been looking for elsewhere. Besides, we knew so much about each other that I told him, "We are either getting married or I will have to kill you ", lol. And after 15 years of marriage, he is still the Best and Last man for me!
  4. Staycee2 Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    My husband & I always tease each other with "U Got It Bad" by Usher! We always say that we are super crazy about each other!!!
  5. Dnoblin Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    1. Dont Let Go by En Vogue 2. Take me as I am by Mary J 3. Here & Now By Luther 4. Wreckless Love Alicia K 5. End of the Raod Boyz to Men
  6. MrsT Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    How Did You Get Here by Debra Cox- he really did seem too good to be true when we first met.He Is by Brandy- every time I heard that song I was more in love with him.Love by Musiq Soulchild we don't really have "a song" but if we did, I think that would be it.Soul Sista by Bilal, I am his.
  7. Harriet Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    When we met: 4 Page Letter, Aaliyah (long distance and we met online) When we met face to face: Setembro, Take 6 (that song nia long and cuba gooding jr. made love to on Boyz N Da Hood...but we didn't make love...we fell further in love) When he moved to LA: Beautiful Surprise, India.Arie i didn't think he would follow me to LA. i thought for a moment that if we wanted things to go further i would eventually have to move to NC When we got married: Lizell in D Flat (you love me, especially different every time...), Jill Scott we had both been celibate for years before getting married, and making love after that long period...ooo-weee! When our marriage was encountering difficulties: Motives and Thoughts, a spoken word piece by Lauryn Hill When our marriage was solidified by a renewed commitment to one another: I Gotta Be, Jagged Edge Now, with these financial difficulties (please don't laugh): We're All in This Together, High School Musical. Before when I was dealing with the fact that my husband is quite impulsive when it comes to money, I was singing N'Sync's "Bye Bye." But I later realized that if we were going to work it out, then I couldn't be threatening to leave every time things got hard. 3 The overall hitmaker for our relationship: Unbreakable, Alicia Keys
  8. Lori Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    Wow, what a great idea. Some of the songs on my sound track would include: 1) Come Get To This (Marvin Gaye) 2) Simply Beautiful (Al Green) 3) A Natural Woman (Aretha Franklin) 4) Betcha By Golly Wow (Norman Connors & Phyllis Hyman) 5) You Are My Starship (Norman Conners) 6) Anyone Who Had A Heart (Luther) 7) Chocolate High (India.Aire & Musiq Soulchild) 8) Love Calls (Kem) 9) I See God In You (India.Aire) 10) For You (Kenny Lattimore) Loris last blog post..
  9. Tara Pringle Jefferson Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    @ Joyce - I need to go pick up Kindred's music. But they said in an interview that everytime they make a new CD, she ends up pregnant. Hmmm. Don't know if I need to be listening to that music then! LOL. @ Yolanda - You know, I don't really like Babyface, but that song is classic! Reminds me of my hubby too! @ FCG - Just a big "AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!" for you. :) @ Staycee2 - I love it! @ Dnoblin - GREAT songs. I might have to steal one or two... @ MrsT - Have I heard that Brandy song? Hmmm.... @ Harriet - Well, if you are talking about songs from HSM, then maybe I should watch it... @ Lori - I can't BELIEVE I forgot about Betcha By Golly Wow. And Phyllis Hyman? Ooooh, that woman could sing! Tara Pringle Jeffersons last blog post..Boys
  10. kmh20s Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    Anthony Hamilton's "Can't Let Go" - even if we fuss and fight/try until we get it right/ you are my life/ can't let go.
  11. Tiya' Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    I'd have to say 1. Truly by the Commodores 2. Adore by Prince 3. Tender Love by Force MD's or Full Force (one of them) 4. I'll make Love To You by Boyz II Men 5. From My Heart to Yours (new song we are loving) by Laura Izibor 6. Lost Without You Robin Thicke There would also have to be some Anthony Hamilton too. Tiya's last blog post..What He Doesn’t Know May Hurt You
  12. Tiya' Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    Oops, I forgot one Sensuality by The Isley Brothers (this one is a must) Tiya's last blog post..What He Doesn’t Know May Hurt You
  13. MissJay Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    One of our songs is "I Do" by Boyz II Men. It was the song the song playing when he proposed.
  14. snydesa Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    Cheers to you by Playa It was our song in college, and it was the song we danced to at our wedding.
  15. Anna Thursday - 30 / 04 / 2009 Reply
    When I saw the headline of this post I did not even read the article, I went straight to read the comments. Joyce, Toni's "trippin" is a great song, but the whole CD is great. My daugther stole mine and listens to it every night while she goes to sleep, or when she wants to clean and rearrange my house and cabinets and I can't find anything. Hubby and I don't have an "our song". I guess I would say the "Maxwell" song I belong to you or You belong to me or whatever the name of the song is. I was going to say (being it was the first moive date we had alone)"My Heart Will Go On" Celine Dion but that just means that if hubby died I would go on. LOL. Most men don't want to ever think that.
  16. NaturalOasis Friday - 01 / 05 / 2009 Reply
    I have to agree that this is a great post. My picks are of different songs that have stood out to us both while courting and eventually getting married, this list dates back 14 years ago and I'm sure some important songs are slipping my mind right now but hear it goes. 1. I wanna be down, Brandy 2. Pretty brown eyes, Mint Condition 3. Fortunate, Maxwell 4. Meeting in my bedroom, Silk 5. Where would I be (the question), Kindred 6. Long walk, Jill Scott 7. Ribbon in the sky, Stevie Wonder 8. What would I be without you, J-Lo & Ja Rule 9. Be without you, Mary J. Blige 10.Brother, Angie Stone 11.Closer, Goapele 12.So Beautiful, Musiq Soulchild 13.Come close to me baby, Common & Mary J. Blige
  17. Tara Pringle Jefferson Friday - 01 / 05 / 2009 Reply
    Oh, I forgot the best song ever! "If I Ain't Got U" By Alicia Keys. It's my ringtone for my husband. If that doesn't sum up what our marriage is about, I don't what song does! Tara Pringle Jeffersons last blog post..You Know You’re A Mom When…
  18. Nieja Friday - 01 / 05 / 2009 Reply
    Right now the only song I can think of that comes close to describing my marriage is " Kung Fu Fightin" Peace to those of you in happy marraiges. I hope they stay that way
  19. Anna Sunday - 03 / 05 / 2009 Reply
    Nieja said: Right now the only song I can think of that comes close to describing my marriage is ” Kung Fu Fightin” Peace to those of you in happy marraiges. I hope they stay that way ~~~~~~~~~~~ LOL. If hubby does not clean the fish tank and cut the grass today, we will be "Kung Fu Fightin'. It won't really happen, I just give him the wife means business look". After all, it's his own "honey do list. Nieja, having a happy marriage means not sweating the small stuff. Being a wife and mother you/we do have to choose our battles.
  20. MissJay Sunday - 03 / 05 / 2009 Reply
    I just found the cd future hubby made for me and titled Thinking of you. I'll have to come back with the song list.
  21. CartersMom Monday - 04 / 05 / 2009 Reply
    The Prayer by Yolanda Adams & Donny McClurkin, this is what I walked down the aisle to From This Moment by Shania Twain You by Jesse Powell ( This is what we danced to ) I love this joint,everytime I here it I get goose bumps Love by Musiq Soulchild Love me in a special way by Tamia Cheers 2 U by Playa Angel of Mine by Monina Can we talk by Tevin Campbell

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