Comments on: Is it OK To Have a Work Husband/Wife?

By: Sunnygirl

Sunnygirl — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 22:08:00 +0000

Once I fell asleep ( in the middle of the night) and he wouldn’t wake me up but give me his boiler suit, wake me up shortly before work’s over and drive me home. Isn’t that sweet?
The other, I’ve had really bad menstrual pain and he brought me some pain killers and some chocolate.

You see, a work husband is nice “thing” to have I mean, who does not like to be taken care of and have a caregiver who does NOT tell anybody what you’ve told him in confidence.

By: Sunnygirl

Sunnygirl — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 22:02:00 +0000

Well, I think it’s ok to be jealous if your husband does have a work wife. But if you ever have a work husband, you’ll understand this wonderful relationship. It’s unique, a work husband is the colleague you work with most if the time and have the most fun with. I used to have one in my last job, which is now over since university starts again. However, we’ve had a mellow flirting tone and it was jsut great working together. Nothing’s happened, just flirting and talking about usual, daily stuff and absolutely synchronal work. Understanding without many words, sharing work like man and woman – it was kind of a physical work.

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By: African American Mom

African American Mom — Wed, 13 May 2009 01:14:57 +0000

Wow, I have been out for a while but I am loving the comments. Yeah, me to.....no opposite sex friends unless it is my friend too. Shouts out to all my facebook addicts! African American Moms last blog post..Just One of Those Days

By: ruffyy

ruffyy — Mon, 11 May 2009 16:36:48 +0000

Let’s think about this for a second. You are spending more time with your co workers than at home. You develope close relationships with people you have really learned to love. You accept these folks for who they are. You may have differences but you manage through the indifferences because your impetus to stay is the fact that you need a job. You share intimacies of your personal home life with them. You may even trust their advice. It doesn’t matter that you have a wife or husband at home because they do also. You eat breakfast and lunch together. You may even travel together. If your job has a daily agenda you will think about them at home, while driving to work. You may even call to remind or be reminded. They know your anniversary, birthdays and weekend and vacation inteneraries. They get used to you looking at them. Looking at her butt and other parts. You can comment on what they are wearing and maybe even make suggestions. You may even think you’re in love. But when it comes down to it you will eventually find out that he or she is just another man or woman. Different person, same relational entanglements.

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By: dede

dede — Fri, 08 May 2009 13:04:45 +0000

i am a female police officer and i have two male partners who are my work hubands we go through things on a daily basis that me and my real husband will never experince, my relationship with my partners is special and we hang out sometimes. my real husband know them and they know him we all get together and do family things, we have gone to each other weddings. there are times when we disagree like husband and wife but we have to figure it out and quickly.when i am at work we cover each other. we have to have a great relationship like a husband and wife. we call each other when the other one is off. we have jokes that only we relate to. but for me the line is never crossed. i know who my man is.

By: Anna

Anna — Fri, 08 May 2009 04:58:39 +0000

Sorry about the typos.

By: Anna

Anna — Fri, 08 May 2009 04:52:19 +0000

I loved your comment Tara. I always think that if you go snooping you will find something that is not what it seems. I am not one to snoop because it takes too much energy and waisted emotion. If someone has not given you any reason to not trust them it can put a strain on a marriage to always challenge where they are and what they are doing. If they are going to cheat it does not matter what you do.

As far as the office spouse, you do become a family and know what they like and what they don’t like. Yes there are boundaries. The only negative with my job is I am the only employee and the man who pays my salary will call me after hours or on my staycations 3-5 times a day for something to me that is not that serious and can wait until I get back to work. But, I have found that to be in my favor when he has to do my job. It makes him appreciate the work I do when my quaterly “raise” reviews come up. Plus it’s nice to have an office spouse because neither of us like to file and he hires my daughter. His daughters are too beneath doing it. More money for my daughter. Or did he expect his daughters to do it for free? LOL. I think an office spouse is automatic being it is my “other home” and you do have to make it work just as in a “real marriage”. The only thing is I argue with my “office spouse” and debate with the one I took vows with. But, with the office spouse is ok with me finishing his thought/sentence(s). My real spouse won’t let me do that. I can say that both spouses don’t forget anything and it is a task that I have learned to balance.
BTW, I don’t make coffee for the office spouse but 75% of the time hubby drinks it, I made and set the timer for(him).

I am sorry my comment is so long. I let my fingers do the walking, just one of those moments once again that my fingers and brain are sitll working as a team. Come on ppl. Don’t you sometimes find that you impress yourself with the fact that you can type and the brain keeps up? I am getting older and feel like I have a birthday twice a year but with less presents. LOL.

By: NaturalOasis

NaturalOasis — Fri, 08 May 2009 04:01:12 +0000

Since we are all confessing I am in the process of kicking my FB habit. It got to the point where whenever I heard that distinct “ding” letting me know that I had a message on FB that I had to drop what I was doing to check it, just to stay in the loop. I corrected that dependency by deleting my yahoo account from my phone. Now I tend to log on less (in the range of somewhere between 5-10 per day)but I am still a work in progress, LOL!

As far as office friendships I think it is best to keep it during work hours, be cordial but nip all/any advances as they are presented to you. The last thing that I would want would be trying to avoid someone due to them not getting the hint, be clear when you are voicing your concerns.
I personally have so many stories about this very topic. I use to work in Crystal City, VA and I can vividly recall countless conversations that were had at work (in a group setting involving my peers and boss) that should never have been discussed. At the time I started the job I was only 18 and thought it was great being able to express myself as well as my views. Long story short, some topics are not meant to be in the workplace and it is everyones responsibility to maintain a healthy work environment.

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Fri, 08 May 2009 03:59:52 +0000

I’m going to have to go with it not being ok. Most affairs happen in the workplace. It’s ok to form professional relationships with the opposite sex at work but as far as giving out phone numbers and personal information no way.

I agree with no snooping though. It’s not that serious. If a person is determined to cheat they are going to cheat.