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ruffyy

Praying is fine in the bedroom but it sounds like lip service to God. How about actually doing God’s work by appreciating the fact that you have life and that you can make a difference with or without prayer. Love one another, appreciate one another. That is God’s work.

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I forgot to mention that sex is nothing more than a feeling. Sex is there to compel you to procreate. You may spend only an hour (or two) having sex but if you think about it, it only serves the ego and does not save your soul.

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I totally agree that praying together helps a marriage! Praying together breeds intimacy and intimacy leads to good sex. Sex in a marriage is more than for procreation or recreation, it is in fact a way to worship God. God loves for married people to have sex! It is not just a feeling, but a way for a married couple to become one, and oneness is the goal of marriage.

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The feeling from sex is like a scooby snack. If you don’t have anything else meaningful to do you think about sex. Sex was meant for procreation. If there was more to it then the bible would have a sexual manual written into it and when we would go to worship there would be be so much Oh God, Jesus, Have Mercy goin’ on that no one would miss the chance to worship. Sex as we know it today as always is a recreational activity that serves no real purpos than to entertain us.Ask the folks in Africa. In Africa they can’t go to Disney World so they have sex.

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Anna

ruffy, have you had sexual relations lately, you seem agitated. Sex is intimate, so is kissing. Married ppl make love for more than procreation. The Post did read “Couples Who Pray Together Have Better Sex but the couple in the video talked about being married and praying together to GOD, and now they have better sex. When Adam and Eve were created were they already married or did they later have a marriage ceremony? I am only asking you a question that I don’t know the answer to. Also if the first kids born, Cane and Able were our biblical example to have children, I will pass on that manual” to be a guide to raise kids, being we know that “my brothers keeper” does not apply.

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I can see how couples that pray together have a better intimate sex life. Sex is an outward manifestation of a bond between two people.

Harriet

Sex was created for procreation, recreation and communication in a marriage context. If it were all about procreation, then we would reduce it to an animalistic level. Sex is a way that two people can come together as one and literally touch the face of God TOGETHER. To reduce it to just one context from a human being’s point of view is to slap the face of the One Who created it for much more.

There is actually a sexual manual in the Bible as well. It’s called Song of Solomon…straight up x rated stuff in there! Check it out if you’d like…but please don’t insult God by making it seem as if He has no emotions or that He does not care what we do with our bodies and the way we carry ourselves in a marriage relationship. Marriage is the first institution He created…NOT the church!

I don’t know a lot about Africa and Disneyworld, but I do know that sex, in its purest form, is a thing of beauty and a holy gift that no one but a good God could have created. Let’s not try to bring the almighty, eternal God who created it down to our human way of thinking…His thoughts and ways are much higher than ours.

Harriet

anna said:

When Adam and Eve were created were they already married or did they later have a marriage ceremony? I am only asking you a question that I don’t know the answer to.

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Anna, marriage in God’s eyes was a consummation and a covenant. In biblical times, marriage was only acknowledged upon the consummation of two bodies coming together as one. That’s why when the Jews gave their daughters in marriage, they gave a set of skins (sheets) to the groom when he and the bride went into the marriage tent. When the groom came back out and there was blood on the sheets, that was proof that the woman given in marriage was a virgin.

So in God’s eyes, every person we choose to have sexual relations with, we are telling God that we are literally MARRIED to that person. It’s not just a societal truth that sex can complicate a relationship if no formal commitment has been made. Sex is a literal marriage…created to be addictive because it’s GOOD, and two people in that kind of relationship should want to get together on a regular basis to enjoy it.

The problem comes when you remove the boundaries that God created it for and do it your own way. Now we have men and women who are literally married to hundreds (if not thousands) of other men and women…it’s a wonder that 30 years ago there were 3 or 4 major STDs…now, there are over 800 different STDs out there!

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anna said: Also if the first kids born, Cane and Able were our biblical example to have children, I will pass on that manual” to be a guide to raise kids, being we know that “my brothers keeper” does not apply.

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this is what happens when boundaries are removed. adam and eve were great until they decided to take their eyes off the richness and glory that was given to them and put their eyes on the ONE THING that they could not have! it’s a perpetual cycle that affects our children if we refuse to deal with it.

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@ Ruffy

You are my brother and I cant let you go to your grave with this mentality. Africa is a beautiful place… you should know, your ships leave with its beauty, natural resources, food and oil in the dead of night while its people sleep… then when you are full of what the motherland feeds you, in spite of itself and people, you get on here and talk like this? This is elementary man. I’m an African and I do not fornicate for sport for lack of Disneyworld.

Kind thanks and love to all

ruffyy

Still in my opinion sex is a recreational activity. Sure you can be with a really sexually compatible person and have the time of your life but when it comes to matters of real importance to the human condition other than procreation it is a recreational activity. Ask any teenager. You feel good and you may or may not get pregnant. you experience stimulus and chemical reactions in the brain. You think you are having an experience with God. You even call out to him and Jesus. In my opinion in the end it’s just prayer and compatible, good sex without the guilt of doing it without being married.

ruffyy

When Adam and Eve were created they were married without knowing they were married because Eve came from the rib of Adam. Or maybe they didn’t know they weren’t married and without Adam spending some time with Eve to get to know her her fornicated. Because he was the first man and had nothing to compare the sex to the experience captured his mind. Perhaps he fell in love and probably, being unemployed, bugged Eve for sex day and night. She probably got tired and decided she had the upper hand over this man and started to use her sex as a bargainig chip to get things done. A honey do list of sorts. Soon she sat down with nothing to do so she started preening thus the first use of I’m washing my hair. Eventually the bored Eve gets to the issue of the Tree. Adam is tired from Eve’s to do list and wants some. He’s tired from gathering firewood and wild vegatables. Eve is looking good and she’s bored and wants to taste something new. And Eve say’s “Look on’t argue with me, I want something different in my salad and I want that fruit.” “I don’t care what he said.” Look, if you don’t get me that fruit, you won’t get a sniff.” “Speaking of which, I ain’t doin’nothin’ till you take a bath and put on some vegatable oil.” And don’t forget my favorite gourds.” So sayth Eve.

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Harriet

wow, ruffyy…you’ve got a pretty vivid imagination.

it seems to me that you’re speaking with a forked tongue. one minute you say sex is only for procreation, then when someone asserts that sex was created for more than that, you say it’s recreational.

THEN you totally rewrite genesis to fit your own humane–albeit imaginative–mindset (i could use another word, but i really don’t want to insult you).

i would LOL, but i can’t really tell if you’re serious or just playing, so all i can do is SMH. i would hope you were joking with your last comment, because it speaks to a terrible theology of putting God on our level as opposed to elevating to His level.

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ruffyy

I,m looking at the situation from a human level. God simply let the situation unfold just as you would as an observing parent. As God does today. Tell me you haven’t used a certain branch of persuasion on a guy. When you go out looking great, smelling great, acting a little perky and you feel good about yourself aren’t you kinda fishin’ without a hook?

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Maybe if the world spent more time makin’ love there wouldn’t be time enough for war. Afterall didnt God say to love one another. Maybe if every man had his own spouse, nah, wait minute, spouses go to war with each other too.

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ruffyy

Yeah, I pray in the bedroom. I pray that the sex will be good.

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omelanin

Thank you Lamar. THis is an interesting place. I’m still not married, just out of university,but I’m learning a lot from you all…

Thank you

Kim

Sex is fun, sex is great, especially ruff sex in the middle of the afternoon

Pastor C

It is quite sad to read some of these comments. To see how many don’t understand the Word of God. Sex serves more than just one purpose. In studying (not just reading) the Bible we learn that sex between a married couple, the first being Adam and Eve(Genesis 2:24) is meant for procreation, pleasure, as well as worship to God.

Worship to God? Yes, the Bible says that we must glorify God in our bodies (1 Corinthians 6:9-20), after instructing the saints on the importance of abstaining from sexually immoral behaviors. My body (and yours) is the temple of the Holy Spirit, therefore what we do with it brings or should bring God glory.

Procreation. The Bible says in Genesis 1:28 that man and female (Adam and Eve – married) was blessed and told by God to be “fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it…”

Pleasure. Read Paul’s communication to married couples reminding them that their bodies belong to each other for the purpose of carrying out the marital duty and that they should not deprive each other of sex. (1 Corinthians 7:1-5) You can also read the worlds favorite “Songs of Solomon” and even certain Proverbs (like Proverbs 5:17-19).

I hope I’ve provided enough evidence to bring you into a deeper understanding of God’s word on the subject matter. If not feel free to reply to me for additional supportive facts.

God bless,
PC

ruffyy

Pastor, Please just stop it. The Bi ble was a book written by men who were so called inspired by God. There is no proof hat God actually inspired the Jews to write this document. The Bible was written to control and secondarily entertain folks with fanciful ideas. Yes there is excellent instruction on how a civil people would act but ghe crux of the Bible is the 10 commandments. That is all we need. Prayer is a being used as a revolving door of sin and repentance. However if we did not have the Bible we probably wouldn’t be here. Prayer that is the centerpiece here is just reinforcing a like mindessness which would increase the bond between folks with commonality. I believe most folks feel that sex is sinful so the mindset has changed to make sex a recreational activity. A reward of sorts to be approved by God.