Comments on: Anything You Want?

By: Willie

Willie — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 05:31:00 +0000

We have been married for 18 years and I feel that as long as the sexual requests remain respectful (and by respectful I mean within the confines of the TWO of you and not OUTSIDE of the marriage) you should both be willing to satisfy each other desires. As for the comment about the First Lady being too carnel – REALLY? In my opinion, and no I’m not a First Lady, but I am a Minister’s Wife, she’s just keepin it real. I totally agree that there is always that one sister out there waiting in the wings. What I don’t agree to is that ” if you don’t satisfy him someone else will” because that would speak against his respect for the marriage / vows. There may be a sister out there waiting, but it doesn’t mean that he has to fall for it!

By: LadyT

LadyT — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 18:25:00 +0000

If the pastor was at a women’s meeting I believe it was totally direct, to the point and in order. That is one of the problems that we have in today’s churches (especially black churches) the ministers and pastors are not transparent. They try to sugar coat everything. And they don’t id all the real issues. Being transparent doesn’t mean you have to tell all your business but allowing people to see that with all the glory and anointing and power that God has given our heads they still have to deal with everyday issues and drama. And something they are more of a target because of their position. And the divorce rate in the chuch has pass that of the world. We have isses and we don’t need no pattie cake word when addressing them. We need people that are going to tell it like it t i is….

By: Kams30

Kams30 — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 12:16:00 +0000

With 21 years of marriage under our belts, I will share this. We both feel very free and open to request whatever we want of the other, and we both exercise the option to either agree to the request and go for it, or suggest a variation. It is all about loving adventure, communication and compromise.

By: Sbmajor52

Sbmajor52 — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 03:59:00 +0000

There are no boundries in marriage, whatever my husband wants sexually, and we both agree to it , then it’s all good

By: chites

chites — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 10:44:43 +0000

yes a woman needto keep his husband very well and tolet her no every thing she have athe badsaid of her ,..this is my email (chites89@yahoo.com) i really need a woman in my life

By: carolyn

carolyn — Wed, 20 May 2009 05:05:38 +0000

I think u should make each other happy as u see fit and respectable. If what u want your mate to do for would make u second guess him or her then i don’t think you should do it. As long as there is respect and compromise it all good. Go ahead and make each other happy.

By: Queenae

Queenae — Tue, 19 May 2009 02:26:08 +0000

Uh, no. That’s how “two women and one man” become an “Open relationship/marriage” and eventually end up in either “we have an understanding” or divorce court. Two IS company but three is shonuf a dang crowd!!! Relationships- real, lasting, lifelong relationships can only be acheived when both parties are committed to one another and devote their mind and body to total committement to just that one person, your spouse. WHen you add another person or other people, things get twisted, complicated, crazy emotional, and out of control. That’s when you see jealous rage or love triangles that turn murderous to the original relationship. People are easily feelings based and when you have different people fufilling different needs, intimately then your feeling for one person can shift to another. That “open marriage” stuff and “fufilling the 2 men and 1 woman or swaping mates, etc. ” is for the birds and people that agree to it are destined for ruin. Just fact, baby!

By: Courtney

Courtney — Thu, 14 May 2009 23:11:24 +0000

When it comes to sex with your spouse, I think it is important to be adventurous and keep the marital bed firey. Things within reason should be tried. There should be a sexual freedom and excitement that married people share that should lead to the trying of new things. As for this being said in church, I think that is important also. In the african-american community especially, we look to church and church leaders for guidance and leadership in how to govern our lives in a Godly way. If its not said in church, then where is it being said? I do think that there should be special services or classes to teach husbands and wives how to keep the marriage happy. In my church, things like this are covered on a regular basis firstly in pre-marital counseling, and secondly in monthly marriage enrichments. We shouldn't be so prudish, after-all God created sex and marriage, and he created it to be enjoyed! Courtneys last blog post..Color that Lasts and Lasts and Lasts

By: Kenti

Kenti — Thu, 14 May 2009 22:29:12 +0000

@ Athena Nike you know that's the same thing I was thinking lol it sounded like Juanita Bynum..lol too funny great topic everyone have a great evening {:-) Kentis last blog post..Kenti On Mens Style

By: Athena Nike

Athena Nike — Thu, 14 May 2009 20:20:53 +0000

That wasn’t an old Juanita Bynum/Thomas Weeks conference you were watching?
Kenti hit the nail on the head, and I think the first lady in question might’ve been a little too open with her business. Her husbands fidelity would be evidence enough that he is satisfied with her and Jesus.