No Matter What!

by Harriet

If you haven’t noticed, the family at BMWK is very forward thinking and willing to equip others with the tools they need for successful marriages, businesses and parental habits.  I really appreciate being a part of this online community.  That said, one of the contributors to this site, Gwen Jimmere, sent me a book this week that has blown my mind, called “You CAN overcome every obstacle…NO MATTER WHAT!” by Lisa Nichols.

I haven’t even read past Chapter 1, but the concept of what Nichols discusses is so “Keep It Simple, Stupid” that I had to write my own commentary about it.  She states, “The Law of No Matter What moves your goals out of the realm of optional.  Instead of waiting and hoping they’ll happen, you’re creating them–on every single level of your being.”

Now, I consider myself a pretty resilient person.  I’ve always been able to take a licking and keep on ticking…there’s not a lot of quit in me.  But focusing that characteristic towards a single goal has not been my strong suit.  As a result, instead of me impacting my life and the lives of others, I’ve found myself many times taking lickings that I never should have had to experience (our finances being the most obvious example).

I recently celebrated my 32nd birthday, and although I’m grateful to be alive, I thought I would be much further financially.  My husband asked me where I thought I would be by now, and I told him I thought I’d be a millionaire.  I’m not a materialistic person, nor am I interested in amassing labels, cars, clothing and the best that money can offer.  However, I know that I’ve been called and assigned to GIVE.  Lately, all I’ve been able to do are give words and prayers.

To move the kingdom of God, words and prayers are great, but MONEY is required as well.  I hate telling people in need that I’ll pray for them when what they need is a job (that I would have created) , some groceries (that I would have purchased), or skill/education (that I would have provided through the school I’ve always dreamed of opening). This kind of empowerment causes people to shift their mindsets from their state of desperation to a state of hopeful expectation that the Lord still uses others to make a way where there seems to be none.  I’m called to be an oasis in the wilderness for those God has assigned to me; a distributor of God’s wealth; a teacher who empowers others to live in God’s economic system, not the world’s.

Fulfilling that assignment is next to impossible when my own home is in foreclosure, my bank account is on E, and my gas tank, which would have been on E is actually useless because my truck is broken down.  If it weren’t so frustrating it would be funny.  Sometimes I laugh just to keep from crying.  I can do this…I WILL do this; but I’m having an especially difficult time right now.  Without God, there is no way I would be able to see beyond this problem to the promises He made me.  I would be hopeless (like a penny with a hole in it).

Yet there is hope and trust budding from deep within my soul in spite of all this…in the face of all this!  That hope and trust is being fertilized by my current circumstances and pollinated by the encouraging words and prayers of others.  God has impressed upon me the fact that fulfilling His assignement comes with a prerequisite to operate in the realm of the impossible.  As such, the book Gwen sent me was right on time, and quite prophetic.  Living like this is NOT an option!  Ending my marriage is NOT an option! Giving up on my dreams and vision is NOT an option!  Sending invitations and requiring RSVPs to the pity party I could be throwing right now is NOT an option!

I am determined to fulfill this life I’ve been given with all the giving back and gusto I’ve been called to live it with…NO.MATTER.WHAT!

• No Matter What, my husband and I will get out (and stay out) of debt.
• No Matter What, we will be distributors of God’s wealth!
• No Matter What, I will raise the money to get my first book edited by a professional!
• No Matter What, I will get my educationl policy studies master’s and doctorate focusing on “teaching critical thinking.”
• No Matter What, I will create a university that focuses on training students to create their own source of wealth as opposed to teaching them how to write a resume to get a 9 to 5 that will neither fulfill nor sustain them in the long run.
• No Matter What, my husband and I will earn so much money that we will live off a reverse tithe…giving 90% and living off 10% of what we bring in from multiple streams of income.

These dreams are in the realm of the impossible, but they–unlike the drama we’re going through now–are not optional.  When I die, I don’t want ANYTHING to be left inside me.  I’m not paying the ground I’ll be buried in ONE RED CENT with my unmet potential.  The legacy I’ve been assigned to leave requires more than just words and prayers, although that’s what it will be built upon.  To make it move, it requires wisdom, money and good stewardship.  That is what my husband and I will develop during this difficult time…NO MATTER WHAT.

BMWK, the pictured graphic is from our vision binder that we created at the beginning of this year.  This is located in our “money vision” section of the binder.  What kinds of goals do  YOU want to accomplish, NO MATTER WHAT?  Have you written them down?  Have you focused your energy towards fulfilling them?

God bless!

~ Harriet

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

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