Comments on: Marriage is For White People

By: Faith

Faith — Wed, 27 May 2009 07:43:33 +0000

I understood what that child was saying. They don’t SEE marriage in their communities.

I don’t thing the author of this post was trying to prove that black people shouldn’t be married , more than anything he quoted that child’s statement because it’s what’s seen.

I also believe when the word “single” was said, it was meant as “single, not married. “

By: AJAY

AJAY — Mon, 25 May 2009 15:31:07 +0000

Hooray! I’m glad to have found this site regarding black marraiges. I think we don’t get the respect or support we need.

By: Anna

Anna — Thu, 21 May 2009 00:45:55 +0000

I understand the statement the kid made that “marriage is for white ppl.” When kids don’t see any married ppl around them let alone those that look like them getting married, their perception has never been challenged nor do they have any example to compare. Our society makes it too easy to shack up because it’s acceptable.

By: Raven

Raven — Thu, 21 May 2009 00:34:13 +0000

Marriage is for Man & Woman…to be married to each other – but that’s a different topic

By: Raven

Raven — Thu, 21 May 2009 00:32:33 +0000

@ Mocha Dad –

I believe Lester Spence (on your blog) provides the best explanation or response to this article. Aren’t we tired of this racial division crap? I sure am…I believe marriage is A CHRISTIAN THING, A GOD THING. Race does not have any real value when it comes to unions/marriages/relationships etc – unless of course, the parties involved are racist.

*not saying that non-believers don’t marry -

By: Mocha Dad

Mocha Dad — Wed, 20 May 2009 18:14:33 +0000

You should read the comments on my blog regarding this post. They are quite interesting.

By: VEe!

VEe! — Wed, 20 May 2009 16:07:32 +0000

Lamar, The adoption angle is based on her statement. Adoption and artificial insemination are other options that will allow a woman to become a single parent. I never heard-or read a statement like that before, so I'm thinking that if a woman wants to become a single parent then maybe they intend to produce the baby by methods that don't directly involve a man. VEe!s last blog post..The Silent Treatment

By: Lamar

Lamar — Wed, 20 May 2009 15:42:59 +0000

@Jewelry Rockstar - Congratulations on the 16!!! Keep it going. @VEe- where did you get the adoption angle from? Lamars last blog post..Website Wednesday: Wedded Bliss Foundation

By: Jewelry Rockstar

Jewelry Rockstar — Wed, 20 May 2009 15:00:06 +0000

Yes, the Black Marriage is strong. Most everyone I know is married, and happy. Despite what statistics say, I know that marriage is for me and my African American friends and family. We are going strong at nearly 16 years! Jewelry Rockstars last blog post..Taurus Accolades!

By: VEe!

VEe! — Wed, 20 May 2009 14:28:20 +0000

Honestly when I first read the article back in '06 I was wondering what was the purpose of the article and why did the author decide to use the words of a child to sensationalize a social issue. What's next "School is for White People?" I never heard a young adult or older adult utter the words Marriage is For White People or you're acting white because you're getting married. Articles can continue to play statistical math to prove a point or paint a grim picture, but in the end, "the crippling family structure in this country is just not a Black issue, but a national one." Around the same time the NYTimes had an article highlighting the lives of professional young women who decided to forgo marrage, cohabitation citing many different reasons and the amount of opportunities that they enjoy that their mothers never had. The issue is definitely beyond race, word to Tom Brady. @Natalie, I'm a bit confused and startled, when you say "I have opted not to pursue becoming a single parent" are you talking about adoption or becoming a single parent through natural conception? VEe!s last blog post..The Silent Treatment