I watch a lot of Golden Girls episodes while I work out (don’t hate ““ it’s funny and keeps my mind off the fact that I’m sweating). I take breaks during the commercials and lately I’ve been seeing previews for the upcoming season of Bridezillas. For those who are (luckily) blissfully unaware of the show, it’s basically a show for depicting demanding brides-to-be in various states of distress.
One bride fussed over not being able to have chocolate cake at her wedding and decided to smash a cake in the bakery to prove her point. Another bride berated her bridesmaids for looking too pretty. Another pouted as her mom declined to buy her a $14,000 wedding dress and instead said she would pay for an $8,000 one.
Which got me to thinking. If these people are this incapable of dealing with the small blips that come up while planning a wedding, what makes them think they will be successful in marriage?
While I know your wedding is a big day and you’re looking forward to professing your love in front of God and those you care about, but in reality, the wedding ““gasp! ““ is not that important.
Yes, you make vows to one another. You exchange rings. You have your first kiss as man and wife. You dance to “your song.” You cut the cake and toss the bouquet. Fun times.
But if you don’t understand that this is only the beginning, that you will have a lifetime of ups and downs with this person, that you have to mean what you say when you utter the “for better or worse, for richer or poorer”...” part of the vows, then your marriage is off to a crappy start. Weddings aren’t about the ceremony ““ it’s about the commitment.
So say you, BMWK family? Do you think couples these days spend too much time worrying about the wedding and not enough time on what comes next?
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