Let Me Cater To You

I love that song to Tara! I LOVE catering to my husband and I see nothing wrong with it. I love how his eyes light up when he realizes I’ve made his favorite dinner or had a tall glass of juice waiting for him when he gets home. Those things matter and it helps a man be a man. I remember hearing, sometime ago, that it is important for a woman to make her husband feel like a man. Before anybody comments with:you can’t make a man feel like anything…lol, let me explain. What I mean is, when you have a jar that needs to be opened, instead of getting the jar opener from the drawer….ask your husband to open it. If you bought a piece of furniture that needs to be put together, don’t always do it yourself, ask your man. Then when he is done, fix him lunch or a drink (non alcoholic….lol). This may sound small or weird but it is VERY important in a relationship. I, myself, am a Do It Yourself, kind of woman so I have to make sure I don’t dominate the above things I’ve mentioned. I do everything from washing the clothes to repair work so it is hard to let someone else do it at times. All in all, both men and women need to make it their job to make their partner happy and feel significant. Like I used to tell everybody when the NE-Yo song “Miss Independent” came out: “I have no desire to be “Miss Independent”, just Mrs. D.” <—-meaning, I am a married woman and it’s no longer just about me and what I can aquire for myself. Marriage is selfless and it’s time we start realizing it. Our grandmother and the women before could teach us a thing or two about really “pleasing your man.”

I see nothing wrong with “catering” to your man. I cater to my husband every single day. I fix his plate, and bring him his drink, and I’ve been doing that since we met (13 & 1/2 years ago). If he asks me to, I will rub his back, or give him a pedicure! It has nothing to do with my independence/individuality or that I’m “taking any mess off of him.” He’s my husband, the head of our household. He works just as hard, if not harder than I do, and it’s my way of saying I love him, and I respect him for what he does for me, and for our family. My aunties are amazed that I cater to him. They say my grandmother would be proud…and I believe she would be. I don’t do it because I feel like I have to, I do it because I want to, and it just comes natural to me. He appreciates the little things, and I’m not so self-absorbed that I need a “thank you” each and every time because I know that he appreciates everything that I do for him. I don’t feel like a waiter, and I don’t feel like I need to be “tipped” in exchange for what I do. I don’t want him straying away from me…from home for ANYTHING when I’m more than capable of doing it myself. If you don’t do it, believe me, someone else will!

I was discussing this with a friend today. I think it’s important for me to cater to my husband, but on the same token I don’t like being taken advantage of. The small things I do daily to please him should warrant at least a “Thank you, baby.”

I’m not catering to him to get something in return, but for a season, I feel like I was taken for granted, so the small things I did become more like chores than simple pleasures. Every marriage goes through seasons like that.

Bottom line, the “women’s lib” movement certainly didn’t do much for marriages and how to keep the honey in the moon as a wife and mother. This is certainly part of the process.

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One thing I am finding out after 8 years of marriage is that if you treat our men special like someone said before, he will give back in return. I had a conversation with my husband and he jokes about being number 4 on my list of priorities, since we have two kids. I was upset at first because all I do is take care of this home and children when I come through the door from work until my head hits pillow. Than I thought about it and asked myself when was the last time I did something just for him. So catering to my man is now on my things to do list. I do things like calling him in the middle of the day and telling him that I love him. Fixing dinner. Watching his favorite shows and showing interest. Asking him what i should wear. Sending him picture messages . But he has started washing dishes. If I mention something, he will bring it to me while I am at work. He watches the kids and lets me relax. What I told him and what I truly believe is that we now have to work at our marriage. Before we had kids it was cake. But I am ready to do what I can to keep my marriage healthy! Cater to your man. Don’t worry about being taken avantage of. Love is a risk, but it is well worth the risk!!!!

I feel if you are in a strong/ healthy relationship, then to cater to your husband should not be a problem. I had three major surgeries in a span of 4 months; I would not have been able to do it without my husband. He took care of me 100%. Even before the surgeries if i were having a bad day, He would look out for me. Or he would get up early sunday morning and have breakfast sitting on the table with my paper. (something I often do for him).

I LOVE that song and it came on today at the gym and I SANG my non SINGING heart out..lol I have always loved that song for some reason!

I’m in love with my soon to be husband. We have been involved for ten years and we are more the comfortable. We do everything for eachother, love is good and worth it when you both are giving it your best. I’m looking for tips on how to cater to your man. I am currently working on a song about a women loving her man and catering to him. No Im not copying Beyounce I’m just trying to expand and express my love for my man and hopefully experssing what women all over the world may feel for their man.