Comments on: Let Me Cater To You

By: kisha

kisha — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 03:34:33 +0000

I’m in love with my soon to be husband. We have been involved for ten years and we are more the comfortable. We do everything for eachother, love is good and worth it when you both are giving it your best. I’m looking for tips on how to cater to your man. I am currently working on a song about a women loving her man and catering to him. No Im not copying Beyounce I’m just trying to expand and express my love for my man and hopefully experssing what women all over the world may feel for their man.

By: Darius Thornton

Darius Thornton — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:58:26 +0000

Wow….I am a man and it’s very good and refreshing to see and know that there are still women out there who know exactly why this is so important! It’s very frustrating when one person is eager to meet the needs of the other willingly, as an expression of his love for her, but she still doesn’t see how the two relate: love and catering.

By: Daisy

Daisy — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 03:04:42 +0000

I LOVE that song and it came on today at the gym and I SANG my non SINGING heart out..lol I have always loved that song for some reason!

By: Keshia

Keshia — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 18:06:08 +0000

Hello everyone! I am new to this site & enjoy reading the articles and comments I have a quick question. So many of you all mentioned catering to your husbands. Where do you draw the line at catering to your significant other who is NOT your husband? Like how much is too much or too little?

By: lynn

lynn — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 13:42:17 +0000

I feel if you are in a strong/ healthy relationship, then to cater to your husband should not be a problem. I had three major surgeries in a span of 4 months; I would not have been able to do it without my husband. He took care of me 100%. Even before the surgeries if i were having a bad day, He would look out for me. Or he would get up early sunday morning and have breakfast sitting on the table with my paper. (something I often do for him).

By: K.K.

K.K. — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:41:09 +0000

Good topic. I must say though that its ver easy to cater when you are also being catered to. I grew up in ahome where my mom did all the catering and my dad did none. At times it seemed like she (and me) was his maid not his partner. I am convinced that this has colored my own relationship with my husband. I fear him tueing out to be just like my dad. And to be honest I think at times he is, but not as bad though! I agree with the catering but you need to be emotionally free to do it. We should live according to the scripture. “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.”

By: Tina

Tina — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 18:00:16 +0000

One thing I am finding out after 8 years of marriage is that if you treat our men special like someone said before, he will give back in return. I had a conversation with my husband and he jokes about being number 4 on my list of priorities, since we have two kids. I was upset at first because all I do is take care of this home and children when I come through the door from work until my head hits pillow. Than I thought about it and asked myself when was the last time I did something just for him. So catering to my man is now on my things to do list. I do things like calling him in the middle of the day and telling him that I love him. Fixing dinner. Watching his favorite shows and showing interest. Asking him what i should wear. Sending him picture messages . But he has started washing dishes. If I mention something, he will bring it to me while I am at work. He watches the kids and lets me relax. What I told him and what I truly believe is that we now have to work at our marriage. Before we had kids it was cake. But I am ready to do what I can to keep my marriage healthy! Cater to your man. Don’t worry about being taken avantage of. Love is a risk, but it is well worth the risk!!!!

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 16:07:31 +0000

It is hard sometimes to let a man be a man when one gets/got so use to doing it all. I am so quick to call tripple A when my car is broke. My hubby knows how to fix a car but I think I am using him or taking up his time when he could be doing something else. My hubby can take out the garbage, help with the dishes and laundry. He is even allowed to mow the grass. I have to mention he is the BBQ King. LOL. I always tell my daughters and my baby sis to let a man be a man. I don’t practice what I preach because I find it easier to do it myself. My kid sis gets married next Friday. I told her to let her fiance’ be “the man”. He moved in with her and has put down new kitchen tile.(I sure did want that $100 gift card from Home Depot for her). He painted the interior of the home and I wonder if he will take our dads last name after they get married. Just kidding. He is a great guy and I love my sisters soon to be mother-in-law as much as I do my own. I love to cater to my husband but there is a thin line between catering and spoiling. Hubby tells me I spoiled my only son rotten. I am not the one to go in the kitchen and make/bake a pie/cake, when he is feeling blue.(hubby does). We do spoil the ones we love.

By: Harriet

Harriet — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 22:34:26 +0000

I was discussing this with a friend today. I think it's important for me to cater to my husband, but on the same token I don't like being taken advantage of. The small things I do daily to please him should warrant at least a "Thank you, baby." I'm not catering to him to get something in return, but for a season, I feel like I was taken for granted, so the small things I did become more like chores than simple pleasures. Every marriage goes through seasons like that. Bottom line, the "women's lib" movement certainly didn't do much for marriages and how to keep the honey in the moon as a wife and mother. This is certainly part of the process. Harriets last blog post..Silence

By: Allygyrl702

Allygyrl702 — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:31:35 +0000

@ Michele... I think you hit the nail on the head when you said you do it because you want to. For centuries, and I even beg to say, millenia women have had to OBLIGATION to serve their husbands as their masters. Thus, with the women's movement many women shyed away from those seeming obligatory duties to their men. However I feel when you have a good man who loves you and takes care of you and your family and he even caters to you then the LEAST you could do is cater to him. THAT is your man!! No one would ever question a mother catering to her child so I think it is more relevant for a wife to cater to her husband... AND VICE VERSA! Allygyrl702s last blog post..Frenemy