I’m glad that the author is please with her minister and the counseling that they are providing, but I know TOO many people whose marriages have fallen apart because most ministers are not accredited counseling professionals and are not adequately prepared to handle the various issues that couples face. I ALWAYS recommend using a professional, which can certainly complement religious counseling.

I have had some real heartbreaks throughout this process but what I have learned about people and my relationships with them have been invaluable. I haven’t sought counseling yet but we have looked to it. But my fiance has a really hard work schedule right now.

Take, for example, someone like Jezebel: uncompromising, manipulative, conniving and all things opposite Christ. Then take a person like Ruth, who was humble, courageous, bold and willing to go through transition. One married a king and was killed. The other married a Boaz and created a line of kings, from David all the way to Jesus.

The largest difference was in their attitudes towards their husbands (or fiances). Jezebal lied to get what she wanted, and surrounded herself with people who would tell her she was doing right all the time, when clearly she was doing wrong. Ruth, on the other hand, listened to wise counsel, kept doing what she’d always done, and had the attitude of a wife prior to getting married.

So I agree with Danielle…every woman getting married these days isn’t a WIFE. There will be women who build their houses up with one hand and tear them down with the other. There will be adulterers, and manipulative, prideful heifers. LOL But clearly the choice lies within the woman. Will you become a woman after God’s own heart, thus causing the heart of your husband to trust in you? Or will you push that man to the corner of a rooftop, willing to do anything to get away from you?

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Thanks for clarifying the scriptures….

But just to clarify, my point is just this: a good wife has the virtuous characteristics before marriage and marriage alone does not make one a wife. Yes, she need to be married to a man to demonstrate this, but the character traits and virtuosity should be present before..

Anybody can get married, but that doesn’t make them a ‘wife’ according to Proverbs 18:22. Every wife in 2009 isn’t a good thing….She may have the title, but may not be acting as a Godly ‘wife’ according to the scriptures.

That’s all I’m saying….

But again, I comment on this board because I love discussion and learning….

And for this reason, I look forward to your response.

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But just to clarify: Proverbs 18:22 states that “he that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 31:10-31 is a description of the characteristics of a good wife relayed from a mother to a son (Prince Lemuel).

i’ve never heard the Luke 14:20 assertion…I’ma have to get in my prayer closet for that one. LOL I’m just not clear about what the teacher was trying to say.

But I’ll be back in about an hour!

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I didn’t say I was a scholar! Lol!!

I was merely sharing what I’ve been taught…….the questions you pose are certainly valid.

Now, in regards to Proverbs 31, how can one find something if it already belongs to you?

Idk…., but, I can’t wait to hear what others have to say on this one.

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