Comments on: It’s Not Easy As A Single Mom

By: Anna

Anna — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 04:32:18 +0000

Corinna said:
Hello all, This is my first time visiting this website and I must say it does an excellent job!

I thought this article was an awesome one. I was raised by a single mother, and am now married. Both my husband and I do not have kids but we can not wait till we are blessed with them.

For those of you who think the author is whining/patronising, I think you sound a bit bitter and are not able to take a compliment. But just like it is your opinion that the author is being negative, it is my opinion that you also sound negative. Like a previous poster said it’s how the written word is interpreted.

P.S
There are not so good single mothers out there. It really does take a strong, organized person to manage a household by yourself.
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Welcome. I know many married moms that I consider “single moms”. Husband/dad does not help lift a finger for a thing except to play an X box. I don’t blame the man for everything. Sometimes women marry to say they have a husband and he is the father of their child(ren). I do agree with you that a “opinion” is just a opinion, it does not make it right or wrong but sometimes it may be “ones experience” and that is what most times makes an “opinion” more personal.

By: Corinna

Corinna — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:53:35 +0000

Hello all, This is my first time visiting this website and I must say it does an excellent job!

I thought this article was an awesome one. I was raised by a single mother, and am now married. Both my husband and I do not have kids but we can not wait till we are blessed with them.

P.S
There are not so good single mothers out there. It really does take a strong, organized person to manage a household by yourself.

By: Harriet

Harriet — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 14:37:12 +0000

@ Smart Mouth

Amen to that! My mama was a military spouse, and whenever pops left, it was like something snapped inside us that made us start acting like pure dee FOOLS. LOL

Moms knew how to handle us, though. Even when she was angry, she had a way of diffusing situations that I STILL marvel at today, even though decades have passed.

I co-sign the shout to military spouses who hold it down for 12-18 months at a time for their children, while simultaneously prayign for their loved one’s safety when they’re in harm’s way on anothe rside fo the world.

By: Smart Mouth

Smart Mouth — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 01:04:32 +0000

I just want to give a shout out to my wife who has been a devoted military spouse and on many occasions had to be the “single” parent. Our children have the ability to brink “The Hulk” to his knees but my wife accepts her role with pride and dignity. Also a shout out to all the other military spouses who hold the house down while your military member is away.

By: Honeysmoke

Honeysmoke — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 00:47:34 +0000

Wow is right. My husband and I joke to each other that we don’t want to be left alone with our girls. They’re lovely children, but they can wear on one parent. It truly takes a village, and we lean on anyone we can whenever we can.

By: Sherri D.

Sherri D. — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 01:39:07 +0000

Thanks for my WOW TARA….I clearly understood what you were trying to say! It is hard and Im happy GOd has blessed you with some relief in your husband…

By: Arlice Nichole

Arlice Nichole — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 01:04:13 +0000

I beleive what Tara was trying to say is single moms rock, and they rock hard! And though I have never been a single mom, single mothers have always been a huge source of inspiration to me. My thoughts weren’t how do you do it but rather if she can do it, then there is no excuse for me to fail at motherhood or anything with all the support I get! Heck, I was even super excited at the founding of SM (Single Mother) online magazine even though it did not speak directly to me, I would comb the site through and through every chance I got because I thought this group was wonderfull amazing. I was also super p. off when the mag. didn’t survive.

I can see how maybe the comment “wow. Just…wow” might have been taken the wrong way, and why many single mothers are sensitive to the common comment “I don’t know how you do it” because I feel the exact same way when people at work say to me about having four kids, “girl…I don’t know you do it with four kids!” or “you’re not having anymore are you?!” (Ronnie, I hear ya!) as if there is something wrong with having more than a few kids. It burns me up. And though I didn’t set out to have four, three of them being “oops” babies, I’m having a darn good time. It’s not easy, the laundry is ridiculous, the house is always loud, and I’ve made-up terms and phrases like organized mess and clean-dirty, LOL, Unlike single moms, I have my husband’s assistance, and that makes you, single moms, spectacular, powerful and someone to be admired. I think that is what Tara was trying to say.

By: Ashleigh

Ashleigh — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 22:20:34 +0000

After reading this post and the comments that followed, I showed to my mother who was a married mother until seven years ago and is now a single mother of 4, the oldest being me. She took no offense to this post and shares the sentiment of most of the people here, she took it as a compliment. Tara, this was a fitting tribute to single parents everywhere. Ignore the crap and naysayers and keep it movin

By: Cassandra

Cassandra — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 21:07:51 +0000

I am not a mother yet…. But I have several cousins who are single mothers. In fact, my nephew has a single mother. I used to be a nanny of two boys, and that was rough in itself. I would go to the house, play with the one boy (the other boy was a newborn that never wanted to be put down), cook dinner, do baths, books, and bedtime routine… and then try to stay on top of my school work at the same time. I was a senior in college, trying to graduate on time, while being a nanny and having another partime job. Some days I felt like a single mother. No one there to take the screaming baby while I was trying to get this one last paragraph written for a paper that was due that evening. Or study this one last page before my huge exam the next day. In fact, there were a few nights (when the youngest was still in the bassenet) that I didn’t sleep. I couldn’t. I would attempt to go to sleep and he would wake up. Then I was awake with him… you get the picture.

I agree with Tara… I only had to be a “single” provider 3 nights a week. There are other moms out there who have to do it 24/7, 365 days, 52 weeks… I stand up to you. I know that people dont choose to be a single mother (unless you are the octomom), and I know that you take care of your kids, trying to give them the love of 2 parents, and sometimes it may not be an easy task. You cant just go take a nap and hope someone else will watch them.

I am truly in awe of moms who make it everyday without a significant other helping them along the way. Nicely put Tara!

By: Harriet

Harriet — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 16:57:40 +0000

*standing ovation* @ Ronnie

much respect @ Laila