Comments on: 5 Things I Wish I Did Before I Got Married http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 21:09:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Hxlmason http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-43044 Hxlmason Mon, 25 Jul 2011 23:03:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-43044 I got married for the first time at 41 years old, so I got pretty much everything, including having a son out of the way before marriage. (I was in a long term relationship with his mother when i was younger) But the one thing that I regret not doing in my singe years was travelling as a single guy. I got married for the first time at 41 years old, so I got pretty much everything, including having a son out of the way before marriage. (I was in a long term relationship with his mother when i was younger) But the one thing that I regret not doing in my singe years was travelling as a single guy.

]]> By: sissy10 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16695 sissy10 Sun, 16 Aug 2009 04:24:35 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16695 Well....I'm gonna start off by saying I love my children and my husband dearly. And here goes my list.... 1. Waited til I was at least 25 years old(got married at 21) 2. Enjoyed time together without children (had our first child 1 year before we got married second one 3 months after we got married) 3. Went to college and got my degree 4. Wish I had a closer relationship with GOD at the time. 5. Wish I would've done more traveling I could go on and on...but the reality is the trials and the tribulations I have went through and continue to go through have made me the woman I am today. At 28 with 7 and half years of marriage and 3 beautiful children under my belt I think we are doing ok(could be better) but we're still here. Well….I’m gonna start off by saying I love my children and my husband dearly. And here goes my list….
1. Waited til I was at least 25 years old(got married at 21)
2. Enjoyed time together without children (had our first child 1 year before we got married second one 3 months after we got married)
3. Went to college and got my degree
4. Wish I had a closer relationship with GOD at the time.
5. Wish I would’ve done more traveling

I could go on and on…but the reality is the trials and the tribulations I have went through and continue to go through have made me the woman I am today. At 28 with 7 and half years of marriage and 3 beautiful children under my belt I think we are doing ok(could be better) but we’re still here.

]]> By: Charle http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16348 Charle Thu, 06 Aug 2009 18:53:33 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16348 1- I wish we could've had more time without kids. We met in Feb 2005, were engaged by Oct 1, 2005, found out that we were one month pregnant on Oct 17, 2005...and ever since then we've had 2 little ones. 2-Partied more 3-Wish I would of traveled more. I never got to see anything outside of the U.S. and Canada. 4-Wish I could've owned my own home. I lived with my parents til we got married. I've never had that feeling of "Mi casa es mi casa". 5-Wish I could've lived abroad for a year or two. 1- I wish we could’ve had more time without kids. We met in Feb 2005, were engaged by Oct 1, 2005, found out that we were one month pregnant on Oct 17, 2005…and ever since then we’ve had 2 little ones.

2-Partied more

3-Wish I would of traveled more. I never got to see anything outside of the U.S. and Canada.

4-Wish I could’ve owned my own home. I lived with my parents til we got married. I’ve never had that feeling of “Mi casa es mi casa”.

5-Wish I could’ve lived abroad for a year or two.

]]> By: Chico Tha Boi http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16337 Chico Tha Boi Thu, 06 Aug 2009 14:31:05 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16337 Um... Im not married, but I am a young man (24) and at my age it seems as if thats what the next "thing" to do is (get married). I have a hard time dating because a few weeks/months into the companionship the girl is always looking for more. Considering that I have a degree, a good job, no kids, and easy on the eyes, it is difficult to always get put in these situations when there is so much more for people my age to do than to get married and/or have kids. Much respect to the older generation, but the opportunities that you guys had were not as available as the ones that we have today, so young people need to look around and notice that there is more to life these days than living in falacy about what is traditional, in this non traditional society. So, I just wanted to leave a comment and say that we all should be a little selfish in our decision during our "tender 20s"...explore and experience life, so that when it is time to settle down, you will be in control of your mental and assured of your expectations. I think most people cheat because of something "new", not to say that they love it (him/her) more than their spouse, but just because they havent experienced it before. And I def hate it for the young ladies who did not date as much when they were younger. Thats another topic.... Google me @ Chico Tha Boi... You can also see me on YouTube. Thanks Everyone... Um… Im not married, but I am a young man (24) and at my age it seems as if thats what the next “thing” to do is (get married). I have a hard time dating because a few weeks/months into the companionship the girl is always looking for more. Considering that I have a degree, a good job, no kids, and easy on the eyes, it is difficult to always get put in these situations when there is so much more for people my age to do than to get married and/or have kids.

Much respect to the older generation, but the opportunities that you guys had were not as available as the ones that we have today, so young people need to look around and notice that there is more to life these days than living in falacy about what is traditional, in this non traditional society.

So, I just wanted to leave a comment and say that we all should be a little selfish in our decision during our “tender 20s”…explore and experience life, so that when it is time to settle down, you will be in control of your mental and assured of your expectations. I think most people cheat because of something “new”, not to say that they love it (him/her) more than their spouse, but just because they havent experienced it before.

And I def hate it for the young ladies who did not date as much when they were younger. Thats another topic….

Google me @ Chico Tha Boi… You can also see me on YouTube.

Thanks Everyone…

]]> By: Rob G http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16333 Rob G Thu, 06 Aug 2009 13:31:11 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16333 As I was reading all of these comments I made a mental note of what the last poster stated. Why aren't any guys posting their responses? So, here goes. 1. Wish I had waited until I was married to have kids. Unfortunately, I didn't and as a result I don't have a major impact on my next generation. 2. Wish I would have finished college. I make okay money and even have people that work for me with degrees, but I also spend time mentoring and as a youth pastor. The example of having actually done what I'm advising them to do says volumes. 3. Wish I had made better decisions with credit. Although my credit score is now in the high 600's (thanks to my wife's bookkeeping skills), it was deplorable before we got married. I couldn't finance a car in may name until I was 30. 4. Wish I would have stayed in the Army. I have classmates who are retiring (at 38) with their whole lives ahead of them. Instead I got out after 8 and started working. **Dumb move** I don't know if that counts as something 'before' I got married or not, but it's just a choice I wish I could get a mulligan on. I'm not one who's afraid of sharing his feelings or what's on my mind, but I honestly can't think of a last thing I wish I had doen prior to committing myself to my wife for life. As I was reading all of these comments I made a mental note of what the last poster stated. Why aren’t any guys posting their responses? So, here goes.
1. Wish I had waited until I was married to have kids. Unfortunately, I didn’t and as a result I don’t have a major impact on my next generation.
2. Wish I would have finished college. I make okay money and even have people that work for me with degrees, but I also spend time mentoring and as a youth pastor. The example of having actually done what I’m advising them to do says volumes.
3. Wish I had made better decisions with credit. Although my credit score is now in the high 600′s (thanks to my wife’s bookkeeping skills), it was deplorable before we got married. I couldn’t finance a car in may name until I was 30.
4. Wish I would have stayed in the Army. I have classmates who are retiring (at 38) with their whole lives ahead of them. Instead I got out after 8 and started working. **Dumb move** I don’t know if that counts as something ‘before’ I got married or not, but it’s just a choice I wish I could get a mulligan on.
I’m not one who’s afraid of sharing his feelings or what’s on my mind, but I honestly can’t think of a last thing I wish I had doen prior to committing myself to my wife for life.

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16327 Anna Thu, 06 Aug 2009 04:36:33 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16327 The comments are real but not surprising. My ? is why are all the comments from women? 5 Things I Wish I Did Before I Got Married ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ We woman do know our own husbands (or at least I hope we all do). Husbands, you don't have to give a clue in the room of your 5 reasons but I would like to think it being non shared and men have a "pact". I think men/husbands are afraid sharing/telling the truth. The post was fair and I would love a honest answer from a male in the room. " Do you wish you had a better paying job? Do You wish you were more ready for marriage? Do You wish you waited? Do You wish you sowed more oats? Do you wish you waited to have kids with anybody? Do you think that the woman you are with wishes she is with somebody else? Men are not as complex as a women makes them out to be. I have knowm my hubby for only 13 yrs and my question is "where have you been all my life?? The comments are real but not surprising. My ? is why are all the comments from women?

5 Things I Wish I Did Before I Got Married
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We woman do know our own husbands (or at least I hope we all do). Husbands, you don’t have to give a clue in the room of your 5 reasons but I would like to think it being non shared and men have a “pact”.
I think men/husbands are afraid sharing/telling the truth. The post was fair and I would love a honest answer from a male in the room.
” Do you wish you had a better paying job?
Do You wish you were more ready for marriage?
Do You wish you waited?
Do You wish you sowed more oats?
Do you wish you waited to have kids with anybody?
Do you think that the woman you are with wishes she is with somebody else?
Men are not as complex as a women makes them out to be. I have knowm my hubby for only 13 yrs and my question is “where have you been all my life??

]]> By: Crystal http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16317 Crystal Wed, 05 Aug 2009 17:44:28 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16317 Worked overseas. My dream job. We got married when I ws 29 and he 34 so both had good established jobs, but I have always wanted to live (not just visit) in another country. Now that we are married , we dont want to be apart, so unless we both find employment toghether...its the good ole USA. Worked overseas. My dream job. We got married when I ws 29 and he 34 so both had good established jobs, but I have always wanted to live (not just visit) in another country. Now that we are married , we dont want to be apart, so unless we both find employment toghether…its the good ole USA.

]]> By: Natural_Oasis http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16309 Natural_Oasis Wed, 05 Aug 2009 09:26:27 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16309 I can happily say that I can't think of anything that I would have wanted to do prior to getting married. I am actually closer to my husbands family then I am to my own. We started dating when I was 16 & he was 19 so we pretty much grew together! We seperated for a couple of years while I went off to join the military. After returning 3-4 years later we reunited and started traveling together. W waited until I was 28 before starting our family and also got married that same year. Somehow everything fell in place, thank God!!! I can happily say that I can’t think of anything that I would have wanted to do prior to getting married. I am actually closer to my husbands family then I am to my own. We started dating when I was 16 & he was 19 so we pretty much grew together! We seperated for a couple of years while I went off to join the military. After returning 3-4 years later we reunited and started traveling together. W waited until I was 28 before starting our family and also got married that same year. Somehow everything fell in place, thank God!!!

]]> By: Tamara http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16299 Tamara Wed, 05 Aug 2009 00:38:54 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16299 I wish I would have traveled overseas, finished my degree and started my business back then. I think those three things would have saved me a lot of heartache before getting married. I wish I would have traveled overseas, finished my degree and started my business back then. I think those three things would have saved me a lot of heartache before getting married.

]]> By: millyj http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/03/5-things-i-wish-i-did-before-i-got-married/comment-page-1#comment-16296 millyj Tue, 04 Aug 2009 18:50:43 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5596#comment-16296 I agree with Stacee2 - I am in the SAME "wish mode" on that one...I have a daughter too and I want to be an example. I make really good money w/out a degree but that is a shawdow that has always lingered over me...However, I WILL do something about that...took all my Plan B classes for my general ed courses and a few for my major - I'm on my way - one step (degree)at a time. I agree with Stacee2 – I am in the SAME “wish mode” on that one…I have a daughter too and I want to be an example. I make really good money w/out a degree but that is a shawdow that has always lingered over me…However, I WILL do something about that…took all my Plan B classes for my general ed courses and a few for my major – I’m on my way – one step (degree)at a time.

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