Are You All In?

I am definetly all in for my marriage. If you have a plan B what’s the point of being married, I am in it ’til death do us apart’. I don’t believing keeping secrets, my husband and I are each others best friend and I share everything with him, my fears, my embarrassment, there is nothing about me that my husband does not know. It’s all about trust. If you think that you need a plan B then marriage is not for you, just my opinion.

I think some married people live in La-La Land instead of reality. Do I think you should keep secrets and hide things from your spouse? Of course not. However, there has to be a part of you that you reserve just for yourself because if you don’t you begin to lose a sense of identity and IF things fall apart or something tragically happens to that person, then you have a harder time adjusting and getting through the tough time. Bottom line, the only one to get completely all of you should be GOD!

This article reminds me a lot of prenuptial agreements and why people feel the need to have one. I can (somewhat) understand it if one of the people in the relationship has a lot of money and kids from a previous relationship to think about. But two people starting out in their careers, wanting a pre-nup in case things don’t work out? That’s crazy.

I’m all in…aint no sense in half steppin’. If wifey messes up and I have to roll, I will just have to suck it up and keep it movin’. If I got it once, I can get it again.

I am all in!! No exit strategies for me and it feels good too.

Being all in does not mean you have to be in La La Land. I am a believer that people should know how to take care of business. God forbid that something happens to your spouse, but if it should.. will you know how to take care of your family? Do you know how to balance a check book? I think everyone should have skills and that each person should be able to contribute to the relationship.

One husband in the our documentary said that he knows that if something happens to him, he is confident that his wife will be able to take care of the family…Now that is what I am talking about!!!

Well, I think that it’s very important to be 100% honest with your spouse. I had that type of insecurity before my marriage.But with god anything is possible to LOOSE.Insecurity, jealousy dishonesty etc…The best thing for me to do was to Trust God and whatever else would come. And as far as my husband is concerned, i trust God enough that if it’s something that God wants me to know about m husband he will Show it me larger than life. Take Care people, and GIVE GOD A TRY.

I am also with the majority of you. I have no plan b, I am all in. I feel like GOD placed the right man in my life so I don’t even have to doubt or worry. But if something ever was to go wrong, I will just have to lick the wounds and keep on moving. Tara, it is basically like a prenup, that was a good comparison. Thanks Harriet. Allygyrl, I don’t know that’s lala land, I think it’s just about being optimistic about your marriage working out. I am with you on not getting totally lost in your marriage, I always recommend that we keep our own things going on, like our me time and our hobbies. Well said Miss Michelle! (sorry for the duplicate, I didn’t mean to be anonymous.

I believe that I am completely all in. Although, my family constantly tells me that I need a separate account, and that my husband shouldn’t know everything. I’ve also heard that you need to make sure you keep a sense of self. Going all in, doesn’t mean losing yourself. My husband and I have great communication and we talk about where our money is going how it is being spent and why. When it comes to the bedroom we openly and not judgmentally talk about our wants, needs, and fantasies. Doesn’t mean it’s all going to get done, but we both know what we are willing to do and not willing to do. I don’t have a back up plan, but I can certainly take care of myself if things do go south (and going south means he has to move to the basement, lol). Yes we have worked to build something and I would hope with all the communication we have we can come to an agreement, but even if he decides to be greedy, spiteful, stingy or whatever I know I can create my success again, maybe even faster because I know what not to do this time. Sometimes I wonder if one could really enjoy their marriage if they are holding back and planning a hopefully never used plan B.